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tazzygirl -> RE: Things to do by yourself to practice submission (11/22/2011 9:52:13 PM)
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ORIGINAL: interested1956
I will take this opportunity to give My two cents worth. Having been in this erotic and exotic lifestyle for over 38 years, owned a slave for 7 of those, and married to My submissive for 23, I do know just a bit about submissiveness. All subs, and slave need to constantly practice their craft, wheather being with a Master, or out on their own. There is nothing more disheartning, than finding a perfectly acceptable self proclaimed submissive, then finding out she has not honed her personal submissive skills, because she was waiting for just the right Dominant ot Master to enter her life, to help bring it out of her. If indeed it is in there just waiting to surface, Hell bring it out on your own. Do your absolute best to make yourself as attractive as possible, in all aspects that interest you. Read like a sponge,master the fine traits that make a submissive valuable.ie; cooking, learn how to manage your expenses, hone the craft of efficient time management, ( house cleaning, time for friends and family) and personal time . Personal time for a submissive is vitally important. If you wish to loose those few extra pounds, or gain a few, take the time to make yourself the best that you feel you can. It will make you feel better inside, and that projection will be brought foreward. Being a good submissive is being proud of "who" and 'what' you are. Who you are is the most important, it shows that you are well rounded as an individual, and individuality is what sets you apart from other subs, and what you have to offer as an individual. What you are is submissive, and that is always a lifelong project. I have been in this lifestyle long enough to know, that this is the same for a good Master. He does not wait for a submissive to gain control of His own surroundings. He uses His talents to the best of His ability, and never stops working on His weakness's. As for Doms, well there seems to be a rash of guys with a $20 crop that think they are now insta dom, so I'll let them fend for themselves.
Personally, I dont view any of that as "honing my submissive skills". Those things I do for myself. I could meet a man who prefers to cook, so classes I take would be wasted... except that they pleased me to take them.
I may hope those skills you mention are pleasing to a man... but I wouldnt bank on it. Every man, as it has been my experience, has his own mind set on what he wants and doesnt want in his future submissive. These things you mention are important to you. The next guy may consider a submissive who is bi-lingual is more important than one who can cook.
A submissive shouldnt "train" herself in areas she hopes a man finds pleasing. She should expand her world in areas she enjoys, and then wait for a man who enjoys who she is.
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