slaverachel2Him
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I will take this opportunity to give My two cents worth. Having been in this erotic and exotic lifestyle for over 38 years, owned a slave for 7 of those, and married to My submissive for 23, I do know just a bit about submissiveness. All subs, and slave need to constantly practice their craft, wheather being with a Master, or out on their own. There is nothing more disheartning, than finding a perfectly acceptable self proclaimed submissive, then finding out she has not honed her personal submissive skills, because she was waiting for just the right Dominant ot Master to enter her life, to help bring it out of her. If indeed it is in there just waiting to surface, Hell bring it out on your own. Do your absolute best to make yourself as attractive as possible, in all aspects that interest you. Read like a sponge,master the fine traits that make a submissive valuable.ie; cooking, learn how to manage your expenses, hone the craft of efficient time management, ( house cleaning, time for friends and family) and personal time . Personal time for a submissive is vitally important. If you wish to loose those few extra pounds, or gain a few, take the time to make yourself the best that you feel you can. It will make you feel better inside, and that projection will be brought foreward. Being a good submissive is being proud of "who" and 'what' you are. Who you are is the most important, it shows that you are well rounded as an individual, and individuality is what sets you apart from other subs, and what you have to offer as an individual. What you are is submissive, and that is always a lifelong project. I have been in this lifestyle long enough to know, that this is the same for a good Master. He does not wait for a submissive to gain control of His own surroundings. He uses His talents to the best of His ability, and never stops working on His weakness's. As for Doms, well there seems to be a rash of guys with a $20 crop that think they are now insta dom, so I'll let them fend for themselves.
What Sir said. i practice by using honorifics in part because it helps me keep a perspective within a hierarchy. It doesn't mean i obey anyone but Him, in fact He forbids it unless He specifies. i do, like it as practice, He doesn't mind it and it keeps the mindset going. It is REALLY hard to shift from mindset to mindset and when in the BDSM community i try to keep consistent. i may disagree with a Master/Mistress etc and argue with them etc online, but i avoid the tendency to publicly "correct" or sarcasm. Why? Not because they are better humans than me, but in a different consensual place in the hierarchy and it helps me again, keep a mindset. It isn't the law, it doesn't change anything outside, but it helps me inside. By practicing with and honoring others- i do MUCH better with Him.
i work on feelings of resistance, is there a GOOD reason (safety issues, job logistics etc) or just a past reflex based on beliefs. i AM a social egalitarian. i would NEVER vote to enforce a non consensual life on others by political choices by voting them less than equality. That does not change the fact that i can not live that way in a relationship. i must be the submissive and the person i am with must be the dominant. That is that. It is not fair, it is NOT equal. But it is excellent.
i work on feelings of submission, obedience and nurture them, let them grow of their own accord and act on them. It doesn't make me a doormat. i am not working on being a victim, but a slave. It is excellent.
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Master Richard's slave rachel
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