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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/20/2011 5:22:16 PM

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/20/2011 5:28:39 PM

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Doesn't the squelchiness bother you?

That's not a problem, Zeph. As Lady Hib has hinted, it goes crunchy. I like the crackle under my feet as I get up in the mornings. I come over all organic and close to nature and stuff.

Oh fuck me I just laughed so hard it sent me coughing and scared the hell out of my cat. I'm now imagining islands of crunchiness surrounded by areas of squishiness.

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/20/2011 6:14:06 PM

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/24/2011 11:16:33 AM

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i have often gone to PROS, both male and female. While i would like permanent ownership, i enjoy these sessions. When i find a pro i like, i tend to see them regularly. Right now i see a male DOM on a regular basis and have been seeing HIM for several years. When one sees someone regularly, you get comfortable with each other, know what to expect from HIM and know what HE expects from you.

i enjoy these sessions while searching for a MASTER. As i am an older slave, i have no misconceptions about my desirabilty to an owner. Yes, i have a lot to offer but youth and looks, rather than experience and mindset seem to mean so much more to prospective owners.

So in the meantime, i gladly submit to a PRO for my BDSM needs and i find these sessions very satisfactory for now

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/24/2011 11:36:07 AM

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I just looked at your profile tx. 50 is hardly old and many of us older s-types have found owners so don't give up hope of finding one. If you prefer pros that's fine but please don't think it's your only option.

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/24/2011 1:00:49 PM

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Would you rather have immediate gratification by going with a Pro Domme, or stay on the various websites waiting for THE ONE?

What is the incentive for that you bring to the table for someone to consider you as a potential mate?

I don't have any interest in pros. If I have spare money I give it to someone who needs it. That feels better than sex ever could.

I think "waiting for the one" might be for people who prefer the fantasy of an ideal match to the reality of life.

The incentive that I bring to the table, for someone to consider me, is simply that I am better than nothing. If they have nobody and want to trade up to somebody, I qualify. I figure we're starting from the same place since neither of us has anybody.

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/24/2011 1:29:27 PM

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The incentive that I bring to the table, for someone to consider me, is simply that I am better than nothing. If they have nobody and want to trade up to somebody, I qualify. I figure we're starting from the same place since neither of us has anybody.

You would hold no interest for me. While I'm not looking for Mr. Perfect, someone who thinks of himself as "better than nothing" isn't someone I would want either. It tells me that he thinks too little of himself.

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/24/2011 2:35:51 PM

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The incentive that I bring to the table, for someone to consider me, is simply that I am better than nothing. If they have nobody and want to trade up to somebody, I qualify. I figure we're starting from the same place since neither of us has anybody.

You would hold no interest for me. While I'm not looking for Mr. Perfect, someone who thinks of himself as "better than nothing" isn't someone I would want either. It tells me that he thinks too little of himself.

Nothing is usually better than someone you don't want.

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/24/2011 2:42:57 PM

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The incentive that I bring to the table, for someone to consider me, is simply that I am better than nothing. If they have nobody and want to trade up to somebody, I qualify. I figure we're starting from the same place since neither of us has anybody.

You would hold no interest for me. While I'm not looking for Mr. Perfect, someone who thinks of himself as "better than nothing" isn't someone I would want either. It tells me that he thinks too little of himself.

Nothing is usually better than someone you don't want.

Exactly. I'd rather wait for Mr. Perfect For Me shows up than settle for Mr. I'm-Better-Than-Nothing.

Going to a pro might take the edge off in terms of satisfying the itch for a beating but ultimately it would be meaningless TO ME.

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/24/2011 3:48:43 PM

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Thanks for the encouragement. Its not that i prefer pros, it is that THEY are available until i find an owner

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/25/2011 8:07:51 AM

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Even the best possible is still better than nothing.

There are three classes: worse than nothing, nothing, better than nothing.

Just barely better than nothing, and the best ever, are both examples of better than nothing.

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/25/2011 8:10:44 AM

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damn, I hope to god I am NEVER that.. dismal...

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RE: Pro vs Relationship... - 9/25/2011 8:14:34 AM

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Thanks for the encouragement. Its not that i prefer pros, it is that THEY are available until i find an owner

Sorry I missed this last night. I can see how pros would fill the time until you find a Master. It just bothered me a bit that you apparently saw yourself as too old at the age of 50. You and I are almost the same age (I'm 49) and I wouldn't dream of giving up on finding a man just because of my age. Think of it this way, if you were looking for a vanilla relationship would you think yourself too old? In both cases it's a search for a relationship, just a different kind of relationship.

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