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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 10:17:15 AM

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Gotta agree with the angle of the last post above me: maybe he considered your calls to his wife enough. He could have very well been interested but didn't feel it had to be him calling as long as he knew through her that you were doing well, things were getting done, etc. In his point of view, there may have been no reason to call, himself, because he knew you were fine; that would explain why he now thinks you're acting jealously.

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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 12:41:37 PM

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He may care for you and treat you well, but it seems that you are not a top level priority to him.
What the Hell?

The man is on vacation with his wife! He is supposed to be spending his time and attention on her. How would you feel if he went on vacation with you and kept interrupting your time together to call the wife? Besides, the wife called to touch base that shows that you were on their minds, so be happy knowing that and leave them the Hell alone, for God's sake.

This is the sort of thing that happens when children start playing at adult relationships.

The man may be on vacation with his wife, but he has plenty of time to be calling a bunch of other girls, so the time with his wife isn't that important to him.

This sort of thing happens when people read only part of the OP.

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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 1:09:45 PM

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if he was calling lots of other girls, as her OP suggests, then he could've at least called her, too.

so i don't think she's crazy.

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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 3:27:12 PM

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He seldom drives so while travleing, when He would get bored and called a number of girls to say hello and keep up with them as He always does.

Actually, I believe it was a generalization about how he is. For this specific trip, perhaps he didn't do what "He always does". I don't know if you are crazy or not OP. Are you generally jealous? Perhaps you both need to sit down to discuss expectations of the relationship.

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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 3:56:57 PM

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And yet he's calling other women and spending time on the phone with them. That's not spending time with his wife. If he can do that with random other girls he's not in a relationship with, why can't he call to speak to the girl he's involved with, not have his wife do it.

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The man is on vacation with his wife! He is supposed to be spending his time and attention on her. How would you feel if he went on vacation with you and kept interrupting your time together to call the wife? Besides, the wife called to touch base that shows that you were on their minds, so be happy knowing that and leave them the Hell alone, for God's sake.

This is the sort of thing that happens when children start playing at adult relationships.

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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 4:26:40 PM

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He seldom drives so while travleing, when He would get bored and called a number of girls to say hello and keep up with them as He always does.

Actually, I believe it was a generalization about how he is. For this specific trip, perhaps he didn't do what "He always does". I don't know if you are crazy or not OP. Are you generally jealous? Perhaps you both need to sit down to discuss expectations of the relationship.

You may have a point that it is a generalization, but it still says that spending time with his wife isn't all that important to him either. He doesn't drive, so who is? If it is his wife, why isn't he talking to her. Guy sounds like the great communicator.

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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 4:28:09 PM

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You're dealing with the fundamental reality which accompanies so-called "poly" relationships - in particular, those with a non-primary sub. You're an optional extra, not a significant part of the dynamic and your needs are virtually irrelevant.

Ya know. I often agree with you when many others don't but this is a ridiculous generalization. You're assuming all kinds of nasty things about her relationship as well as all other poly ones. I know you're more intelligent than that. Give us a break.......luci

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RE: Crazy? - 9/30/2011 4:40:28 PM

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He doesn't work and he doesn't do any of the driving. He's got plenty of time to sniff after new girls but none to waste on the one keeping his house going for him. Selfish and an ass are the kindest things I could say.

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RE: Crazy? - 10/1/2011 5:04:21 PM

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He doesn't work and he doesn't do any of the driving. He's got plenty of time to sniff after new girls but none to waste on the one keeping his house going for him. Selfish and an ass are the kindest things I could say.

yup.
and i don't necessarily disagree with Awareness, either. most "poly" relationships aren't the perfect harmonious ones people talk about. they're dysfunctional, and the dude in charges uses "well you're my slave, deal with it" as justification for being mean.

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