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zumala -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 9:04:01 AM)

"Parsley, Sage, Rosemary and Thyme"
 
One thing that I've noticed and don't understand... Why is it that 'skinny' people or 'beautiful' people are almost always portrayed as being horrible, nasty people?  All fat people aren't "Jolly" and all fit people aren't "Nasty Bitches". 
 
Some people are naturally bigger than others.  My sister is naturally heavier and more curvy than I am.  That's just the way we were born.  Were I to gain a lot of weight, I would be miserable because I am not healthy that way.  I prefer to be active, and if you want to cave or climb trees, you just can't weigh a lot.  So being small works for me.  It may not work for others, and that's okay.  But let's not make general judgement calls on someone's disposition based on their weight.
 
zuma




AquaticSub -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 9:21:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Oh lord.

Please, please PLEASE don't let this thread come full circle (again) into the fight over whether or not fat people are just lazy and using other things like medical conditions as excuses.

Go back, READ the thread if you haven't already.



Right... so you don't want anyone to a respond with an opinion that is different from yours. Got it.




whisperedsighs -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 3:17:11 PM)

Rose,

It sounds to me like you are transferring your self-esteem issues onto others around you.  It speaks loudly to me that you say that you are losing weight for your Master and not for yourself.  That to me says that you don't love yourself enough to make those changes, and if you don't love yourself, what is it you think you are offering to your Master? 

Not everyone sees through the same eyes.  I would never be with a man who doesn't like me the way that I am.  If my Master didn't like me because of a few extra pounds, I would be out the door and moving on.  Life is too damn short to change things for someone else. 

~whisper 





Aine -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 6:25:49 PM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Oh lord.

Please, please PLEASE don't let this thread come full circle (again) into the fight over whether or not fat people are just lazy and using other things like medical conditions as excuses.

Go back, READ the thread if you haven't already.



Right... so you don't want anyone to a respond with an opinion that is different from yours. Got it.


What the flaming fucking flamingo makes you take that from my post and shove it into my mouth?

I in no way implied that, and nowhere have I recently stated any kind of opinon on said subject that I mentioned in that post.  I've been here for the -entirety- of this thread and lord knows I know that all this crap that is being brought up now has -already- been brought up and All I'm Saying is that we're beating a dead, rotting, maggot-filled corpse of a horse.

So, thanks again for putting words in my mouth, since you apparently know better than me what's in my own head.

Have a lovely day.




CandleInTheWind -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 8:39:48 PM)

well i would like to put a about a nickels worth on this one....
 
if someone "HATES"  fat people...just ditch him.....
 
If he simply prefers thin subs that is another thing altogether  do to the activities that different people enjoy weight and size is a material thing...the fact that a Domlikes to do bondage and what i call portability activities (meaninghe likes to keep them bound and be able to move them around)   well then a sub that out weighs him or is even equal to his weight is goig to make those activities difficult for him thereby making that type of body style not desirable.
 
there are those that love big busted women becasue they thoroughly enjy breast bondage...again its not hat he hates small boobs he just prefers  large breasts.


i bring this up becasue i end up every once in a while having somone tellingme that i need to lose weight...my answer to them is..."how much do you weigh?,  i then say  you are right i need to lose exactly what he says he weighs"

I standin at 4-9or10 and my weight fluctuates between 140-160 dependingon the meds im takingat any particcular time...honestly at 140  I look sickly I prefer myself heavier  I like my curves and all  even at 160 i have a 29 inch waiste  so when someon tellsmethat I want to just swat him upsde the head!

be bright and be happy...every little bit that is on a happy person is truly moreof you to love




AquaticSub -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 8:46:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Aine

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aine

Oh lord.

Please, please PLEASE don't let this thread come full circle (again) into the fight over whether or not fat people are just lazy and using other things like medical conditions as excuses.

Go back, READ the thread if you haven't already.



Right... so you don't want anyone to a respond with an opinion that is different from yours. Got it.


What the flaming fucking flamingo makes you take that from my post and shove it into my mouth?

I in no way implied that, and nowhere have I recently stated any kind of opinon on said subject that I mentioned in that post.  I've been here for the -entirety- of this thread and lord knows I know that all this crap that is being brought up now has -already- been brought up and All I'm Saying is that we're beating a dead, rotting, maggot-filled corpse of a horse.

So, thanks again for putting words in my mouth, since you apparently know better than me what's in my own head.

Have a lovely day.



Wow... that was really far more hostile then was needed. I sorry if you take issue with someone making a comment about eating too little can actually cause weight gain (mentioning nothing of laziness) and then respond with "Don't let this turn into a debate on if fat people are lazy", I call you on it by saying you obviously just don't want people to disagree with you and you delve into profainity. Most charming.

By the way, would you like a cookie for being here during the entire thread?

Edited for a left out word




krista -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 8:51:26 PM)

"How much do you weigh?" 

When a Dominant asks me this........i ask them "How much money do you make a year?"

All but the most dense get the point....

regards
krista
joy through service




MagiksSlave -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/20/2006 9:04:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: krista

"How much do you weigh?" 

When a Dominant asks me this........i ask them "How much money do you make a year?"

All but the most dense get the point....

regards
krista
joy through service


OMG I LOVE IT and if I am ever faced with that question again Im gunna use that!!

Magik's fat lil slave




agirl -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 1:12:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aine

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Oh lord.

Please, please PLEASE don't let this thread come full circle (again) into the fight over whether or not fat people are just lazy and using other things like medical conditions as excuses.

Go back, READ the thread if you haven't already.



Right... so you don't want anyone to a respond with an opinion that is different from yours. Got it.


What the flaming fucking flamingo makes you take that from my post and shove it into my mouth?

I in no way implied that, and nowhere have I recently stated any kind of opinon on said subject that I mentioned in that post.  I've been here for the -entirety- of this thread and lord knows I know that all this crap that is being brought up now has -already- been brought up and All I'm Saying is that we're beating a dead, rotting, maggot-filled corpse of a horse.

So, thanks again for putting words in my mouth, since you apparently know better than me what's in my own head.

Have a lovely day.



You might consider it beating a dead horse, but others seem to be interested in posting to the different responses and adding bits of their own. It's not compulsory to *stick it out*, you know.

agirl




justheather -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 4:32:02 AM)


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub


By the way, would you like a cookie for being here during the entire thread?



Well, to be fair, you really should offer the cookie to anyone who has been here for the entire thread.
Otherwise, people are going to think you are playing favorites.




Aine -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 7:10:35 AM)

Besides, I've already eaten my fill of oreos this morning :D

Oh and yeah, I was a little profane up there, but I was in severe pain yesterday and not in the best of moods.

No, I wasn't making any kinds of opinions up there, I was making an observation over the relatively obvious course that this particular thread/topic has taken in the past, and I foresaw that those particular comments I was responding to -could- steer someone else into starting yet another flame war regarding the laziness issue.

In no way did I make it -my- opinion.

And yes, I do think that we're beating a dead horse, but I also think that this can be easily maneuvered into a -new- thread with a bit more specific of a topic, which would be very interesting to read, but would be more appropriate in the Off Topic forums as it no long really has much to do with BDSM.

I'm not speaking for others, I'm speaking for me, and I'd rather keep it at -me- speaking for me, and not other people putting words in my mouth, and though I apologize for letting the mood that my pain put me in, I do not apologize for the stand-up-for-myself attitude that I invested in that post. 

I don't appreciate people shoving things into my mouth that I didn't ask for, and generally, I only ask the boyfriend for things like that.  *smiles*

So, I'm sorry if my malcontent annoys you, but at least counter with something a little more.....engaging than putting words in my mouth.

Edited to add:

Oh, and upon looking back, I wasn't responding to -you- in particular, so I guess I have to apologize for the little thingie in the corner that says who we are replying to, when we aren't really replying to anyone in particular.

I guess that's something I should keep an eye on in the future, just to spare feelings, huh?




Soulhuntre -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 8:19:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: krista

"How much do you weigh?" 

When a Dominant asks me this........i ask them "How much money do you make a year?"

All but the most dense get the point....


If this response was supposed to be ironic or illustrative, it isn't. It makes perfect sense to me. Everyone has preferences, everyone has a lifestyle they want to live and a view of the partner that can help them do it. I woudln;t be the least bit insulted by someone judging me on my sucess.

I have never understood the concept of unearned adoration or love. But then, I am pretty Randian / Objectivist that way.

On a more primal level males and females have evolved to (by and large) look for specific traits in the other. This is common, cross cultural and cross era but of course not universal. As with so many evolutionary traits it is a tendancy across populations. This tendancy is simple, males are lookign for females with good genetics and females are generally looking for the same in males... but the standardss differ. Men look for women who are good looking, and women look for men who can provide resources. Of course its more complex than that but those elements are deeply rooted.

In other words, it makes perfect sense to me that someone evaluating me as someone who is worth serving would wonder what I make jsut as it makes perfect sense to me that among other things I want to know how they look.

Ken




AquaticSub -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 9:03:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: justheather


quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub


By the way, would you like a cookie for being here during the entire thread?



Well, to be fair, you really should offer the cookie to anyone who has been here for the entire thread.
Otherwise, people are going to think you are playing favorites.



This is true. Fortuantely I am a complusive baker!

*Hands out a huge tray of cookies*




AquaticSub -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 9:08:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Besides, I've already eaten my fill of oreos this morning :D

Oh and yeah, I was a little profane up there, but I was in severe pain yesterday and not in the best of moods.

No, I wasn't making any kinds of opinions up there, I was making an observation over the relatively obvious course that this particular thread/topic has taken in the past, and I foresaw that those particular comments I was responding to -could- steer someone else into starting yet another flame war regarding the laziness issue.

In no way did I make it -my- opinion.

And yes, I do think that we're beating a dead horse, but I also think that this can be easily maneuvered into a -new- thread with a bit more specific of a topic, which would be very interesting to read, but would be more appropriate in the Off Topic forums as it no long really has much to do with BDSM.

I'm not speaking for others, I'm speaking for me, and I'd rather keep it at -me- speaking for me, and not other people putting words in my mouth, and though I apologize for letting the mood that my pain put me in, I do not apologize for the stand-up-for-myself attitude that I invested in that post. 

I don't appreciate people shoving things into my mouth that I didn't ask for, and generally, I only ask the boyfriend for things like that.  *smiles*

So, I'm sorry if my malcontent annoys you, but at least counter with something a little more.....engaging than putting words in my mouth.

Edited to add:

Oh, and upon looking back, I wasn't responding to -you- in particular, so I guess I have to apologize for the little thingie in the corner that says who we are replying to, when we aren't really replying to anyone in particular.

I guess that's something I should keep an eye on in the future, just to spare feelings, huh?



My comment said that a) getting fat doesn't actually shrink the penis. It makes it look smaller. b) that is you undereat you can actually gain weight. You snapped back about how I shouldn't let the thread go into a direction about lazy vs. not lazy.

I don't even see a bloody connection! Not eating enough isn't lazy, nor is it unlazy! Neither is penis shrinkage (there is a sentence you don't hear every day)! You said fat was a result of lack of self-control, I commented one can gain weight by not eating enough but still eating. This is very dependend on what food is being eaten but it is a sad fact of life.

You jumping on me about how we shouldn't let this get into laziness just doesn't make sense. And honestly, if all I say is "hey, penis doesn't actually shrink and hey you can gain weight by not eating enough" and you respond like that... It really does look like you just don't want anyone commenting who doesn't agree with you. I understand you are in pain and perhaps you snapped a bit harder then you meant to, but that is the way it looks.




mnottertail -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 9:15:51 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: krista

"How much do you weigh?" 

When a Dominant asks me this........i ask them "How much money do you make a year?"
regards
krista
joy through service


More than you weigh.

DenseDom 




Aine -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 9:16:27 AM)

Hi.

Please note that I was NOT initially responding to you.  Hence, large misunderstanding.

I added that in to my post earlier this morning.

So there really is no reason to continue this.






MissyRane -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 9:17:22 AM)

lol this is the never ending discussion..which I can't really understand why..I mean
people are tall short fat thin obese anorexic....some people like them tall others short others fat n others thing it's all a matter of preference so what is the probleeeeeeemoooooo????

oh yes and some like small dicks and some like them big...just like boobs..soooooo yeah I think I've got it covered now[:)]




AquaticSub -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 9:18:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aine

Hi.

Please note that I was NOT responding to you.

I added that in to my post earlier this morning.

So there really is no reason to continue this.





Ahh... I misread. Blame it in the morning (I just got up). By that I thought you meant you weren't responding to justheather, who the reply said you were responding to.




Aine -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 9:19:59 AM)

Problemo!!

*laughs* I used to LOVE using that word!

Lately for some reason I've been using "What's your malfunction?" to my cat.




krista -> RE: subs and slaves weight? (11/21/2006 10:19:16 AM)

Thank you for taking the time to comment on my post Soulhuntre....interesting nick ...btw...in regards to this particular topic.....in any event.....i am not enamoured of men who judge women on looks...or women who judge men on their wallets.....

Just my way of living......

regards
krista
joy through service




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