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New and would be honored if you would give your advice - 9/21/2011 9:58:33 PM

newtoBDSMlearnin

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Dear Mistresses,

I am very green to this live style, so much so i would make Kermit the frog jealous ;). I am a slave who is looking for a mistress to please and wants to do her very best. I have gone to other sites and found lots of fakes which has made me start to think my such for a mistress is hopeless i am hoping that this site is different and that i will find my mistress but that is a subject for another post. If you Mistresses could do me the great honor and tell me how a growing slave can make the best of herself to please her mistress it would be greatly appreciated. I have been told in the past that i follow orders and very well and that i try hard but i have a feeling that alone is not enough to please a mistress and that is my goal. If my mistress is happy then i am very happy. So again if any of you Mistresses out there would bless me with your guidance and wisdom on what is commonly looked for in a slave and rules a slave should follow, i would gladly take it to heart. Thank you all for you time.

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RE: New and would be honored if you would give your advice - 9/21/2011 10:09:58 PM

peppermint

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This is the internet. Just remember that people may or may not be the person they say they are. There are men who will make a female profile and try to get you to send them pictures. There are people who will claim you are male hoping to get you to prove you are not via a cam. In other words, use your head while searching online.

If you read the FAQs you will find a link that will let you find the munches and groups in your area. That is the best way of meeting people. A munch is a lunch or dinner meeting, usually in a restaurant. It's completely unkinky and is a social meeting so that newcomers are comfortable with meeting other people. Most munches meet monthly.

Other advice I might give you is to take your time. Don't expect to find someone in a matter of days. Do not allow someone to push you around or make you feel you need to do something you are uncomfortable doing just because they say they are a dominant. In other words, if it doesn't feel right, then it's not right. Also, be yourself. Being a slave or submissive is not a role like an actor in a play. Don't feel that there is some sort of way you need to act just because you are a slave or submissive. Being yourself is perfectly fine.

And good luck. There is lots of good information in the forums for those who take the time to read.

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RE: New and would be honored if you would give your advice - 9/21/2011 10:16:58 PM

Kana

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RE: New and would be honored if you would give your advice - 9/22/2011 5:30:55 AM

DarkSteven

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You're young and attractive and will gather no end of fakes, flakes, and liars if you keep staying online. Start meeting people in real life, beginning with munches. You don't state what part of VA you live in, but if it's Northern VA, there's lotsa stuff going on. Start meeting people, most of whom will not be lesbian Dommes, to get to talk about the lifestyle and maybe watch a few scenes. And they may know of some local lesbian Dommes too. It's safer meeting friends-of-friends.

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