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Pteryx777 -> RE: Marriage and D/s (9/23/2011 10:37:04 AM)
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ORIGINAL: SophiaChan
You guys are all very funny with your prenup stuff. While I appreciate all that discussion, it really is beside the point for me. We have agreed to cross that road, legally, when we come to it. For now, I own a piece of junk car that I don't care about and I rent my home. I have tons of student loan debt and hardly any furniture. He owns about the same amount in India (where he is from).
This brings me to my next point. While I appreciate the lengthy post about Islamic countries, he is not Muslim or from one of those countries. I am Catholic, he is Hindu. We both very much love and respect each others religions and enjoy the celebrations and beliefs of both and we would raise our children to be the same.. both Catholic and Hindu. Because we believe that neither spiritual path is more valid than the other and in fact compliment each other beautifully. So, no worries about him stealing my children (IF we have any) and since I made India my home for 4 yrs, I'm pretty sure that I have a good grasp on what marrying into that culture would entail. And I wouldn't say that I am worried about him giving into his family pressure because from what I've seen he is extremely stubborn and just does as he wants. While I do worry about my time with his family, I feel that I can weather that storm. Equally, I don't really see his mother moving to this country and living with us. This topic was another discussion that we had and have hacked to death. As in, I laid out all my possible worries involving his family in front of him and our two best friends (also Indian) and we talked through every logical possibility. It was good and needed.
As for him becoming a citizen, it will not happen. India does not formally recognize dual citizenship and he would give up many of his rights as an Indian citizen if he became an American. While this COULD happen, I find it unlikely and pretty unnecessary all in all. So, I think that pretty much covers all of those worries.
Thanks again for the lovely advice!! Any thoughts on D/s contracts or collaring contracts. Who has used them, for what, and when?
India and its laws, as I mentioned, is quite okay, at least in theory (sometimes enforceability is an issue). and hinduism is quite okay, at least in theory. the only thing about India is a strong sense of tradition and identity as you have encountered. so hinduism is far less dogmatic than christianity, judaism and islam but the strong cultural identity will more than likely have your man's family insisting on a hindu wedding. I have been to mixed marriages where there is a christian and hindu ceremony performed. I must say that the hindu ceromony was beautiful and awash in flowers and colors and the bride and groom looked wonderful in their traditional dress. actually, the bride looked hot and had henna designs put on that made her hotter. so the in theory part is more about how you fit and that seems to be going well. but remember, it is easier to foster an independence streak far from dehli - when he returns and it is not only family but social pressure that he faces.. well, things may feel different.
you find me not offering advice on the slave contract because I think that if you have the other stuff licked then that part is far easier. it's more about attitude and you seem to have a good one. so, like your American-Indian masala, your mix of spice is going to have its own flavor.
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