pissdoll
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ORIGINAL: Bearlee Well said (again), Celeste! So...what that means is...get out there and MEET people! If you meet them online first...meet them in person SOON. Go to munches and clubs and demos when you can and meet face to face. It's a numbers game, too... also, don't automatically discount people in the "vanilla" world. not every person into bdsm hangs out on these sites and goes to munches, clubs, etc etc. one of the best Doms i was ever with, i met under vanilla circumstances. we had tons in common, so i decided to give it a try, even though the bdsm aspect wasn't there. on our first real date, he made a offhand comment about being dominant. i said, "oooh, i LIKE dominant men." as we began to talk more, we realized we had a LOT more in common than we thought we did. our relationship turned out to be the most satisfying bdsm one i have had thus far. this man who doesn't run "with the scene" turned out to be an expert in MANY things. had i stuck to a policy of only looking at people who are OPENLY into bdsm, i would have missed out on what will probably be one of the most fond relationships of my life.
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