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RE: Is it greater? - 9/25/2011 5:26:21 AM

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I would assume that most people that are labeled disabled would hope to be more readily accepted in the world of kink.I am no expert in any stretch of the imagination ,when I lived in the shadow of the Rocky Mnts I donated time to the Wounded Warrior Program and did meet some amazing people.One young lad that comes to mind lost both legs and yes his middle one as well in a road side bomb.Tragic as it was this guy had the heart of a hungry tiger.He and his girlfriend decided to get married and as he went on to tell me were have Great sex!He told about going to the adult toy store and getting strappons and vibrators ect. He and her were not shy at all about this and he said its great I can be any size,shape,or color she wants and I thought to my self what a great attitude!Both sets of parents were appalled at this turn of events and the biggest concern they had was"What will people say or think".I think society as a whole has this box that say disabled people belong here and should act this way.This couple would be a great addition to any kinky group IMO and I think that kind of acceptance is likely the atractaction for folks in the disabled box.They want to be able to be themselves and not get judged by it.I also do understand that at some point you might have to draw a line and say this person is not or maybe rational enough to make these(kinky) types of choices for themselves.Sorry for the ramble.I would guess it comes down to the person by person case of what is their specific disability.

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RE: Is it greater? - 9/25/2011 8:25:15 AM

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because there is supposedly this blanket acceptance that exists amongst kinky folks

I was expecting kinky folk to be more accepting but soon realized the opposite. What I think happens is that acceptance is more keenly negotiated when it is most needed.

If you think of fantasies as life rafts...

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RE: Is it greater? - 9/25/2011 1:17:31 PM

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One must ask themselves, is this really true? Do physical or mental disabilities no longer matter just because a person is willing to be kinky in hopes of satisfying their own hopes of a companion?

For those that are open to a partner of mental/physical disability, I don't personally believe it's unique to the Power Dynamic, as many on the Vanilla side will do the same for love, companionship, financial security, sex, and so forth as well.

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RE: Is it greater? - 9/25/2011 6:10:40 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It was brought up on another thread that kink might attract a larger proportion of folks that don't quite fit in "normal" society because there is supposedly this blanket acceptance that exists amongst kinky folks. No matter what a person's maladies, there's some supposed pipe dream that their hopes and aspirations can be fulfilled in the kink world.

One must ask themselves, is this really true? Do physical or mental disabilities no longer matter just because a person is willing to be kinky in hopes of satisfying their own hopes of a companion? Are the odds 'better' in some way?

*snicker*

We wish.

Unfortunatly, it is quite common...as you very well know...that many in the so called 'kink community' seem to have this outrageous idea that being Dominant/submissive, etc etc somehow makes us 'MORE'.

Not quite sure where they get this idiotic idea from, but, it's out there and too many seem to to follow the fantasy that surrounds this.

Each to their own.
If they want to believe that participating in M/sD/s/BDSM makes them better able to deal in relationships...go for it...they will find out soon enough that reality is quite harsh when dealing with those who stand on pedastals.

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RE: Is it greater? - 9/26/2011 5:42:46 AM

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From my own experrience I would have to say 'no' in terms of the proportion, and "I wish it were so" for the acceptance, but then I wish that of the vanilla world too. Latest figures in the Uk indicate nearly 1 in 2 for people who have suffered a mental illness, depression being the most common. I understand why people can find it difficult to understand or see through, what's outside of your realms of experience can be hard to comment on.

Just posting again, after prompting from LadyPact to check the figures I'm getting a few of my sources muddled.

The actual figure for the UK is 1 in 4 for people who have suffered mental illness, though a charity survey of 1024 people claimed it was 3 in 4 sparking off a few news stories earlier this year.

Sorry for the confusion, would adjust the previous post but can't seem to find the edit button...

Whether you draw the line from mental illness to mental disability (i.e. short term vs long term) is debatable as well with regards to the thread.

Edited to add - I can see the edit button on this post, guess it's a timescale thing

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