Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal?

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fun2playwith88 -> Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 4:06:14 PM)
Hey everyone. I'm posting to find out how many Mistresses, Dominas, Goddesses, ect... have ever helped a subbie achieve a personal life goal. For example. My dominant half has decided to get more involved in my weightlifting and nutrition program. She has never requested that I get in better shape, but my weightlifting does sometimes lead to injury and my diet, as a current college student with bills, is rather limited and not very nutritional. And so she is helping me to become a better me. So how about it ladies? Helping your subbie halves achieve in life?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 4:19:03 PM)
Yes, and ideally that works both ways. I would hardly want my sub to say, eat veg twice a day if I wasn't going to do the same. I'm glad she cares so mcuh about you! :)

LadyPact -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 4:37:00 PM)
Absolutely. Goals have varied according to who was in the dynamic.

Lockit -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 4:54:09 PM)
Yes.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 7:04:37 PM)
Everything from going to college to buying a home. Doesn't everyone help those they know personally when they need help.

Back2theFuture -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 7:17:40 PM)
A Domme acting as a sort of "Life couch", is fairly common. Helping a sub to better them self is a great way at ensureing a sub can better serve her.

BKSir -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 7:43:49 PM)
I'm not a she-D-type, but I completely agree with the thoughts behind this. I want my pets to be the most stellar example of a sub, thus a person, that they can possibly be. After all, why would I ever wish second best for myself? So, if it's something that they believe will improve their lives, make them a better person, I am always right there to support them in any way that I possibly can. I actually make it clear when initially discussing things that, as part of my household, one of the primary things I will focus on is making sure that they are able to move toward reaching their potentials, whatever they may be. To me, if I didn't feel this way, I would be remiss as a dominant and as a human being.

LanceHughes -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 7:51:20 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BKSir I'm not a she-D-type, but I completely agree with the thoughts behind this. I want my pets to be the most stellar example of a sub, thus a person, that they can possibly be. After all, why would I ever wish second best for myself? So, if it's something that they believe will improve their lives, make them a better person, I am always right there to support them in any way that I possibly can. I actually make it clear when initially discussing things that, as part of my household, one of the primary things I will focus on is making sure that they are able to move toward reaching their potentials, whatever they may be. To me, if I didn't feel this way, I would be remiss as a dominant and as a human being. ^^^ THIS ^^^

littlewonder -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/25/2011 11:37:42 PM)
sounds like a normal relationship thing to me. I help Master with such things, he helps me, I help my daughter, I've helped friends and vice versa. It's just caring enough about someone to want the very best for them.

BlackTigerDragon -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/26/2011 1:28:14 AM)
I don't see why not. So yes, I would help not just a sub, not just a partner but anyone close to me reach their personal goals if I could. I don't know anything about BDSM/lifestyle ect yet but is there even a good, non-abusive reason to completely ignore a loved ones goals? Is there a reason that a sub is not allowed to have anyone but themself helping with personal goals?

Madame4a -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/26/2011 5:26:18 AM)
I've done that a lot... currently, my boy is also my life partner.. so of course I support her and work with her to achieve her personal goals.. of late, I've been working on nutrition (the way we eat) and going to the gym with her. I've also been helping her with her job search/career goals... I once had a boy who had a serious addiction -- I worked with her to get help... she's been in 12 step land ever since and continues to send me a note of thanks on her anniversary, and she's had about 8 of them I think. I love that.

AcademyForSlaves -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/30/2011 8:38:45 PM)
Hello, Yes I always help My slaves in all aspects of their life, including health, diet, career, family, past issues such as child abuse, education and schooling, etc. I suppose it is no different than dating a man. Behind every man is a great Woman, guiding and helping him become a better man. It is why I enjoy training males so much. Hope this helps.

Endivius -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (9/30/2011 11:45:01 PM)
I helped both of my current ladies improve themselves. It would be such a waste to only use them to satisfy my carnal desires. Part of being a Dominant figure is improving the lives of those around you; don't even have to be your s/s. Helping them make decisions that will improve their quality of life is a staple requirement I put upon myself. I would not be attracted to someone who did not have ambitions or personal interests that drove them to improve themselves.

SthrnCom4t -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (10/1/2011 11:40:42 AM)
Otter and I support each other.

ProlificNeeds -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (10/1/2011 9:12:20 PM)
It's lways a bit more fun when your D-type spices up an otherwise onerous goal with some dynamic fun, I don't think I could ever be in a relationship where we didn't mutually help one another. To me that's what being in a team means, even if the team has a specific leader and comprises of only two people, you still work together.

FelineFae -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (10/2/2011 3:56:01 AM)
Maybe i've spent too much time on another site, but i want a "Like" button for this whole thread.[:)] OP, i'm not a Domme, but i'm very glad you have such a person in your life, and wish you both the best of luck. Ain't it grand when you find those people that restore your hope for humanity ?

COINT -> RE: Ever helped a subbie with their personal goal? (10/5/2011 6:13:18 PM)
Of course. I would not be "Mistress" to someone I did not at least like... and to me, if you love someone, or like them as a friend even, you help them out when you are able. (and they return the favour) I think that is just part of being close and caring for someone.

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