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LillyBoPeep -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 3:29:10 AM)

(someone should take away Kana's keyboard, post haste.)

i do it because it makes me happy. i ran away from my submissiveness because 1) it was forced through  my upbringing/religion, and i didn't agree with that anymore, and 2) i thought i was "supposed" to behave a certain way in keeping with feminism. then i realized that feminism was about my choices, and i could choose how to relate to the world, and i realized submission was natural and appealing to me.

i enjoy being a Dominant's company and at his disposal.

i'm a masochist because pain is interesting. i enjoy it when i enjoy it, and i enjoy it when i hate it. i hate it when i enjoy it, and i hate it when i hate it. the flip-floppering amuses me.

i like sadists because i like men who want to both hurt and fuck me -- doing them both at the same time = win!

i am happier in these types of relationships than outside of them or in vanilla ones; so i agree with LadyPact -- when this ceases to be, i'll quit.




sirsnake1134 -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 5:51:08 AM)

First, I would like to apologize for the x-posting. Wont happen again.
Second: Thank you all for the answers. Very insightful from all sides.



Madame4a -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 6:50:29 AM)

I do it because it makes me wet. And, no, its not really that simple.



DesFIP -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 7:42:30 AM)

I've always wanted a relationship with a strong man on whom I could depend.

As far as bondage goes? No idea why. Ropes just turn me on.



LanceHughes -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 8:10:11 AM)

Yes, yes...... y'all like it.  But WHY do <you think> you like it?

I'm guessing I like being gay due to some genetic component - nature - and some upbringing - nuture.  Classic strong Mother; absent Father.  I'm sure there's straight guys that had that type of upbring - they were / are missing (LOL don't have) the "gay gene."

What kind of upbringing do we share?  What nurture "enhances," "brings forth," whatever, our common BDSM gene?  And, we've got to look at s-types different from D-types..... Oh, where's the pysch grad students when you need them?  Or maybe the PHDs?





SailingBum -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 11:46:29 AM)

I do it cuz i can. nuff said

BadOne



Epytropos -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 1:21:06 PM)

Because if I was even half this sexist towards normal people they'd burn me at the stake[;)]



agirl -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 3:00:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sirsnake1134


Why do you do this?

It presented itself and it seemed interesting.

Yes there's the answer of “It's just who I am” well, what makes this who you are?

It's not actually *who I am* at all. The BDSM seemed  interesting to explore at first and years later I met M and M/s with him appealed to me, nothing very magical about it.

What was your starting point that made you realize “I'm not like the 80%(just a random percentage, no real proof behind it) of other people out there that don't participate in kink/bdsm?

I don't think I'm very different from other people that don't participate, unless you count being quite adventurous by nature.

Why do you still do it after X amount of years?

Because it's still a great adventure and life with M as *owned* has never been topped by anything else after years.

What is it about BDSM that keeps you in it?

I'm not really THAT *into* bdsm but M is and I like exploring mad places with him.



agirl



Missokyst -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 7:18:24 PM)

I actually do know each turn that brought me to this, but it is way too involved for anything less than a thesis.. or novel if I want to show it as interesting as it developed. 
Not too many people I know who do this have looked into themselves to the point of realization.

quote]ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
What kind of upbringing do we share?  What nurture "enhances," "brings forth," whatever, our common BDSM gene?  And, we've got to look at s-types different from D-types..... Oh, where's the pysch grad students when you need them?  Or maybe the PHDs?



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JanahX -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/26/2011 7:37:37 PM)

because I like being choked until I black out and convulse. It gets me high.



HoustonMaster47 -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/27/2011 11:26:05 AM)

Many reasons. First, there are no arguments. In the three years I spent training my last girl, there was not a single argument. When I was done with her, I found her a good man and gave her to him. He was amazed at her devotion and obedience and married her as fast as he could. But I have no doubt that if we had been together for 20 years, there would have never been an argument. Second, the relationship is complete. she knows her place and I know mine. There is never any confusion of rolls, or fighting over who is in charge or who will make the decisions. It is a complete yen and yang, fitting together perfectly. The sex is wonderful, but that's just the surface of it. The real basis is an exchange of power over her for the responsibility for her. Did I mention the sex? How else could I sexually torture a beautiful young girl and not only have no charges filed, but have her thanking me as she lies exausted?


Good sex needs a long weekend.



warlock1935 -> RE: Why do you do this? (9/28/2011 5:58:19 PM)

@DarkSteven, I second the emotion. When I started feeling sexual urges as a teenager, my fantasies were always about binding and controlling women, and I was attracted to submissive, "50's housewife" type women. I was lucky in that one of the first girl friends I had was sexually adventurous and equally BDSM oriented; this was before computers and I had naturally assumed that no actual women would want to do what I wanted to do, so I was very lucky.

I had a great set of parents and a happy childhood, no traumas etc. Even my first fantasies were sexually sadistic, although I'm not a bit that way in the vanilla world. I'm just wired this way.

When you're in a hole, stop digging. Unless you strike oil, of course.


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

I don't follow.  It sounds like you're saying there should have been an epiphany when I suddenly discovered that I was different and that I had a chance to vanillafy.

It happened the other way for me.  I never understood why I was so concerned about others and what I felt was best for them, why I didn't like taking orders, and why I got such a charge when girls got spanked on their birthdays at my high school.  Once I stumbled onto D/s on the Internet, it all fell into place and I realized that I had a place.


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DarkSteven



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