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From trivial to deal breaker - 5/23/2006 4:30:59 AM   
understud


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Status: offline 		what importance do you; now pay attention please, do you personally place on being consistent with your Submissive or slave? This covers the entire relationship from major to minor events. Submissive, slaves same question, this isn't as stupid a question as it appears on the surface. honesty in the answers is very important as to just what i'm trying to figure out.
As an example...do you as a sub or slave ever become inconsistent in attitude or service just to draw attention from your Dom/Me's. Sir's and Ma'am's  it is your privilege to act as you wish inconsistent or not.  So then of what importance is it to you. Do you ever overact by going beyond established patterns when totally frustrated by your servant? On a sliding scale of 1(one)-being of little concern; all the way to 10(ten)-of paramount importance; how do you feel. please feel free to qualify your answers. Sub en slaves same o same o... 1(one) i have no choice at all; all the way to 10(ten)- deal breaker...
how important is consistency in  establishing a l/t r/l relationship.
again please feel free to qualify your answers..
 
always respectful respectfully submitted
 
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RE: From trivial to deal breaker - 5/23/2006 5:02:46 AM   
spankmepink11


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Status: offline 		 9.0  on the importance scale in my mind. (the other  .1  allows for human error)   Consistency is very important to me, from both sides of the spectrum.  I respond best to One  who is consistent, and i try also to be consistent. I wouldn't be inconsistent  to  draw attention from my Partner because  in my opinion that would draw negative attention. I'm the type who thrives on positive attention so my actions would consistently be geared towards that end.

In addition to being important in deciding who you'd like for a partner, it's also as good a  tool for deciding who isn't  for you. 

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RE: From trivial to deal breaker - 5/23/2006 7:26:14 AM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		i desire a strict, Dominant Man; i would naturally expect Him to be consistent.  i'd find it a deal-breaker only if i were s'times rewarded and s'times punished for the same behavior; E/everyone is imperfect.
 
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RE: From trivial to deal breaker - 5/23/2006 9:28:29 AM   
leatherorlace


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Status: offline 		Spank them all and let the god's sort out the necessitys for it. lol
   Of late, I've been rather inconsistent, but not confusing delicious deviance with punishment. My love of single tails can be considered inconsistent behaviour for Me whenever, I gradually present more sensations to anyone that wishes to stand for Me and they begin to snivel and shout out the colors of redlights. lol
   Remaining consistient in My daily life is often dependent on just how successful, I am at dodging vanilla influences and intrusions. Both of My girls were sub's when, I first met them years ago, but both claim that preferred state of grace that is named "slave". Both accepted that, I would train them as pleasure slaves, neither is really masochistic even though, I intially tested just how serious they were about serving Me by making  use of long, painful sessions of discovery, but LIFE often interfers with our pursuits and practices.
  I accept that one has developed an intense foot and boot fetish and is most anxious to kneel in front of Me and present herself with slightly raised and questioning eyes as she begs to remove My slippers. The other turns into a toejam princess whenever the two are home at the same time, despite her usual reluctance to enjoy the practice.
  I'm very ticklish and the tender laving of My feet can be a chore for Me to endure, but they're discovered that tickling Me often leads to a huge urge to urinate and they both take pleasure in offering their mouths as a receptacle for My bladders contents. Me, I prefer to not be tickled, but if I am and have the overwhelming urge to pee, I'd rather take them anally and fill their bowels with the hot liquid.
  There are things to consider when performing that potentially messy practice, and I'm fairly confidient that, i don't have to list them in totality, just know that a tile floor is more forgiving and easier to clean than carpet. hehehee
Gentry

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RE: From trivial to deal breaker - 5/23/2006 10:21:10 AM   
Dustyn


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Status: offline 		Have had relationships, both bdsm and vanilla, with consistant and inconsistant people over the years.  I don't directly consider it a deal breaker to act one way once and another the next time, but it will make me leary after a while.  I eventually get to where I simply don't trust the person to do much of anything, since I refuse to walk around expecting anything and everything to happen.  Simply consumes too much of my time and frankly, beyond my daughter, I have yet to find a living human being that is worth that much dedication and energy.  2 recently passed people in my life were worth it and more, but like I said, they have passed, so they don't truly count now.

What I consider deal breakers are physical attacks on my person.  If it's from a female, I'll at least expend enough energy to avoid returning the attack in kind, but males are more than fair game for broken (fill in the blank).  Lying is another deal breaker, and that does include deliberately being vague to the point of almost lying, but not doing it directly.  If you can't trust me with the truth, I can't trust you with anything of me.  Eventually, it will simply drive me back far enough that you become too tedious to have much of anything to offer me beyond grief and, at times, drama.

Inconsistant people, while being infuriating, are sometimes fun to explore, at least for a while.  Once the novelty of it wears off, all you are left with is boredom, and I would much rather be bored and alone than bored and with someone.  At least if I'm on my own, I can go do what I want, instead of wasting time with someone just looking for a vent for their own problems.

- Dustyn


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RE: From trivial to deal breaker - 5/23/2006 1:25:34 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		This should have been posted in General BDSM so it had a chance to get more views. I almost missed it.

For me, consistancy is very important and if something is 'right' today.. it still needs to be right tomorrow. Himself is not overly concerned with ordering me about or barking commands at me because he expects that I will do my best to anticipate what needs to be done, then go ahead and do it without micromanagment so it's just as important for me to be consistant as it is for him. Without it, trust can be too easily broken because I wouldn't know day to day how things were going to be. His word 'must' be his bond.. and once it's given, I can trust that what he has said will (or will not) happen all things being equal. If he says we're going to a movie on Saturday, then I know that's what we're doing.. now, if the car breaks down or one of us gets ill and we can't go, that's a different story. To me you can't have trust without consistancy.. and without trust, there's no relationship to speak of.

Celeste

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