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Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/27/2011 11:45:42 PM

AspergianDom

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Finally got my profile how I want it (mostly)...figured I'd drop in on the message boards and say hi

I'm an odd sort. Then again, most any aspie will be. Eccentric, a bit awkward, but most of all lonely. I've always known someday I wanted a sub/slave to call my own...but meeting people (especially those of the opposite sex) is a challenge for someone who suffers anxiety attacks in many social situations. For the longest time I feared I'd never be able to get out of the house...but earlier this year I learned why I was so out of tune with everyone else, an odd condition called Asperger's Syndrome.

I still have a hard time passing the limits that exist in my mind...but now that I have a better idea where those limits are, it's easier to push them. I've also found it far easier to communicate with people I don't know, using some advice from other aspies who've become successful in life. And so I decided to do something I haven't tried since I was a teenager...trying to meet someone online. My previous attempts didn't work out well...but now I know why. Therefore, I think I'm better prepared to move forward and try to achieve the life I want. Here's hoping Collarme.com can assist a bit on the way.

-J

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/27/2011 11:55:08 PM

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I want to welcome you to the forum side of collarme. There are some very helpful,and some times even friendly, folks here. If you don't mind my giving a little advice I would also like to say that though I am impressed that you are pushing what you know to be your limits I think you should take as much time as you can in overcoming them before bringing someone else into your life. You are taking the steps you need to so as to make yourself stronger. Having another person there might complicate matters. Take to heart what you really need before you reach out for the things you know you want. I wish you the best of luck.

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 12:12:52 AM

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Thank you for the welcome, and the advice.

I do feel like it's something I need to pursue, something I need. I understand it might take a while, but I need to at least try to work my way there.

People like me really need others to help them get out of their shell...unfortunately, I no longer have anyone in my life that is in a position to help me. So I decided it was time to start looking for a partner who can appreciate what I have to offer...even if there is a bit of oddity to put up with.

-J

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 1:37:03 AM

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Welcome to CM. Just going to be completely honest and say that until you master yourself, I don't know how you will be able to master anyone else. Anything is possible though, I mean the lions are 3-0 for the first time in thirty years.

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 2:51:08 AM

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True...but without a like-minded partner at my side, it will be very difficult for me to master myself. It won't happen overnight, for sure, but I'm after someone who's equally inexperienced. Gotta start somewhere...

-J

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 2:54:35 AM

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Welcome to the forums.

We shall debate how weak it appears when you are so desperate in <whine, whine whine> need at another time.

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 8:17:39 AM

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Welcome To CM

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 12:25:04 PM

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Almost everyone needs someone. Nothing out of the ordinary about that. But the fact that I've spent a quarter of a century unable to get out and try to find someone...yeah, that's caused me a lot of pain. I only wish I could go back ten years with only the knowledge of what my condition was. I'm pretty sure things would have turned out a lot different.

Time to start making up for lost time...

-J

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 1:03:52 PM

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Welcome to CM.

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/28/2011 7:18:14 PM

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Welcome to CM and the boards. Good luck in your search.

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/30/2011 6:06:17 AM

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Hey there -j, good times around the corner, etc. Only...i can't see people rushing to help you, you're another hard luck story, the planet is loaded with them, be more positive, show them you're the guy to be with!

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RE: Hello...new to the site, from Oklahoma. - 9/30/2011 12:16:31 PM

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I'm afraid I misrepresented myself...which is typical. The hard luck part is, mostly, over. Now that I understand my problems, I'm much more positive...probably the only reason I dared to make an account on a site like this. But, I do feel it's important to tell people up front that I am not entirely 'normal,' even though that isn't an entirely a bad thing.

If anything, these days I feel more confident than I've ever felt in my life.

-J

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