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Chaste vs. slutty - 5/23/2006 2:08:47 PM

WhiteRadiance

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Here is a topic I stole from Ask a Submissive. ;)

I want to ask the Mistresses about this.
What is the dynamic of your relationship and how is it working for you? Is it:
1. Your sub is chaste except with you
2. your sub is shared by those you choose
3. your sub is free to see whom they wish.

Personally I am very stingy with my sub. I treasure him and do not think very many deserve his services. There are few I will allow to play with him. I do not want him taking orders from anyone else. Yes, sure, I love him.

On the sub thread, it was clear that many of the subs would like to be shared (sexually). It is a hot fantasy.. but what about the reality? Does the relationship change? After watching your submissive give themselves to others, does it (or has it/could it) change your opinion of him/her? What about non-intercourse sexual playing? Would you allow your sub to engage in those activities, knowing they wanted it, even if you did not particularly like the idea?

I know we are the Dominants but I think we all like to see a happy sub. :)

Has anyone had a sub who (like those on the sub forum) apparently desire to be shared, when you have no intention of doing such a thing? Can such a relationship work out?

I can honestly say that I would love to watch certain subs with others.. but the special one.. I want for me alone. Not only might it tarnish him in my eyes to see him with someone else.. I am not sure I would think highly of his wanting to!

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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 10:42:53 AM

NikkiAnn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiteRadiance

Personally I am very stingy with my sub. I treasure him and do not think very many deserve his services. There are few I will allow to play with him. I do not want him taking orders from anyone else. Yes, sure, I love him.

From my viewpoint it would make me happy that my Mistress wanted to keep me all to herself. I wouldn't wish to serve another if sex was involved. On the other hand if Mistress wanted me to serve another in a strickly service capacity, I would to provide great service to others which would reflect very nicely on my Mistress and I would love to make her proud of me in this way.

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I know we are the Dominants but I think we all like to see a happy sub. :)

Your sub is very lucky to have a Mistress like you. You care and love your sub so much that you would consider sharing him to make him happy >grin< but seriously I wouldn't want to do anything that might change or jepardize my relationship with my Mistress in any way.

Nikki Ann

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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 12:06:25 PM

fastlane

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I didn't share my toys as a child and I am not about to change now!

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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 2:49:42 PM

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Mistress doesn´t plan to share me, unless the dom/me in question is extremely trustworthy,, and Mistress oversees it all the time. I´m her property and she cares for it

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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 6:31:24 PM

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Perhaps I haven't found my special sub yet, but I share subs in non-sexual ways. For example, I often play in a friend's dungeon. If a sub wants to come with me s/he must be willing to respectfully serve all dominants in the household in minor ways - getting drinks, lighting cigarettes, cleaning up after dinner, etc. And, most of the time, the sub is rewarded with some group play. Even if I am sharing a sub during group play, I am always there to monitor my sub - after all, I am the only person in the room who knows how to read that particular submissive, and I want the sub to have a great time too.

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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 8:25:02 PM

WhiteRadiance

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Thank you NikkiAnn... :) You are a sweetie.

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ORIGINAL: NikkiAnn

From my viewpoint it would make me happy that my Mistress wanted to keep me all to herself. I wouldn't wish to serve another if sex was involved. On the other hand if Mistress wanted me to serve another in a strickly service capacity, I would to provide great service to others which would reflect very nicely on my Mistress and I would love to make her proud of me in this way.

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I know we are the Dominants but I think we all like to see a happy sub. :)

Your sub is very lucky to have a Mistress like you. You care and love your sub so much that you would consider sharing him to make him happy >grin< but seriously I wouldn't want to do anything that might change or jepardize my relationship with my Mistress in any way.

Nikki Ann

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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 8:38:56 PM

MsD

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What is the dynamic of your relationship and how is it working for you? Is it:
1. Your sub is chaste except with you
2. your sub is shared by those you choose
3. your sub is free to see whom they wish.

My own dynamic is a bit different as I shared my fem sub w/hubby on a regular basis ... when I had one *s* She was, however, required to be chaste unto us.

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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 8:49:55 PM

LadyHugs

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Dear WhiteRadiance, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I prefer slaves. Submissives are to democratic. However, I am more attracted to service slaves and not the "sex" driven submissive/slave.

I really haven't found any current canidates to get excited about, as to be an unsharing dominant. I would prefer a chaste slave over a slutty slave though.
And, I agree we (general sense) want our slaves/submissives happy in all regards.

My slaves would have to serve non-sexually other dominants. I personally am active in the local community and education, to which my slave should be as dedicated as I am. I enjoy sharing my happiness with others, so if it includes the slave--I am happy to share. Other Masters share their slaves and we don't get sexually "forward" or out of line, as we have respect for each other and respect for the slaves as not to put them in a position of disrespect either.

Sexually, I am not really interested in sex myself. Must be my age--However, I would prefer a slave who rather not be a 'sex slut,' or 'easy lay.' Any slave who approaches as a canidate for a position who mentions "sex" and "their" fantasies and only reason to submit is connected to sex, is politely dropped. Anybody can have sex--not everybody can be slave.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
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RE: Chaste vs. slutty - 5/25/2006 10:35:33 PM

Vendaval

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I have no problems sharing sub in regards to service and assistance to
other Dom/mes for munch functions, play parties, and so forth.
Their good service makes Me look good.

That said, Scenes with other Dom/mes need to be negotiated with Me
first. Sexual sharing is only with tested, trusted, discrete, safer-sex
partners. What happens in the bedroom and in private play needs to
remain private.

Yours in Kink,

Vendaval

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRadiance

Here is a topic I stole from Ask a Submissive. ;)

I want to ask the Mistresses about this.
What is the dynamic of your relationship and how is it working for you? Is it:
1. Your sub is chaste except with you
2. your sub is shared by those you choose
3. your sub is free to see whom they wish.

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