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new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:23:46 PM

gentleDom1982

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I'm looking for a 2nd sub. to play with my wife and I any help to find one

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RE: new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:25:31 PM

lizi

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That tends to be hard to do, it generally takes a good deal of effort. Good luck with things and welcome to CM!

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RE: new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:40:48 PM

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I'd start by filling out your profile.

Tell a potential third what you're looking for. A play partner? A relationship? Who will they be playing with? Do they need to be bi? What age range are you looking for? Are you looking for live-in or just occasional play?

Make yourselves look attractive to the other person. What is it that makes you, AS PEOPLE, someone they'd want to spend time with.

And be patient. There are many people out there looking for a third of some kind. Not so many looking for a poly relationship.

Good luck, and welcome to cm

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RE: new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:42:20 PM

ymostyngol

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I am a sub who is happily owned by her Master, his instructions are also to find a sub who might want to play with us. It is difficult to know where to start I guess

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RE: new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:49:51 PM

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Welcome to CollarMe and good luck unicorn hunting.

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RE: new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:50:15 PM

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I would begin by starting your own thread. It's bad manners to hijack someone else's.

Secondly, I would get Master involved in the search. Your profile hints at him, but says nothing about him. What makes him so special that someone would want to join you? Work on the profile. A lot.

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RE: new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:53:42 PM

ymostyngol

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apologies for not knowing the protocols.

thanks for the info

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RE: new here any tips - 10/3/2011 1:57:18 PM

myotherself

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No problem.

You might also want to go to the poly forum and check out some of the threads and the FAQ. Search for the term 'unicorn'...that will give you a better idea of what you're up against.

Good luck!

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RE: new here any tips - 10/4/2011 3:09:05 AM

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Welcome guys, you could try kidnap, but i never said that!

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RE: new here any tips - 10/4/2011 6:58:21 AM

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Welcome To CM,

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RE: new here any tips - 10/4/2011 7:07:52 AM

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Ditto - work on profiles, visit Poly forum for details and other tips.

If you focus is less on a second sub and more on the occasional additional woman experience, try swingers groups. There's lots of crossover and she might be easier to find as part of a couple. (No sword crossing required.)