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anthrosub -> The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 4:40:31 PM)

Since message board "polls" are meaningless when it comes to accuracy, I will simply ask and hope enough people who represent the varieties that exist out there will give a meaningful answer.

What is the basis of your relationship with your primary partner if you have one and if not, what would you want it to be based on (assuming you want a primary partner)?  Do you care to have a primary partner at all?  How important is love?
 
Thanks
 
anthrosub



IronBear -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 4:42:23 PM)

Between Neets and I it is based on friendship first and then a deep love all else is attached to that



cuddleheart50 -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 4:47:43 PM)

I do want a primary partner, and love is a very important part of it.



krikket -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:00:50 PM)

The type of D/s relationship i'd like to eventually have is one based on friendship, trust, lust and love...the rest is gravy..yummmylicious!!

cheers
jk



BitaTruble -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:01:36 PM)

quote:

What is the basis of your relationship with your primary partner

 
Himself and I are in an M/s 24/7 live-in relationship where he is owner and I am owned. He controls the direction and flow of our lives together and has all the authority. His word is law to me above any other law of man or government. He's earned my complete and total trust and devotion to him by his consistancy and the integrity he holds above all other things, me included. Yes, his integrity is more important to him than I am and I wouldn't want it any other way. We love one another.. are 'in' love with one another and we're best friends who care deeply what the other thinks.
 
Basically.. we're stupid happy and that works pretty well for us and has for 10 years. [:D]
 
Celeste
 



AAkasha -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:04:46 PM)



Marriage. Much like a traditional one, based on love, honor and trust and a fantastic friendship.
What's different is that I'm kinky as hell in the bedroom and have a lot of fetishes involving bondage, humiliation and pain.
And I'm the breadwinner.

Other than that, we're like any other happily married couple.

Akasha



Rayne58 -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:16:11 PM)

Love and friendship first, D/s is the icing on the cake [:)]



MistressMelissa -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:32:50 PM)

Greetings,

My relationship is based on the power exchange. While I care about my girl Phoenix and any slave(s) I might have from time to time, the relationship is not a love relationship. It is my personal belief that when a dominant falls in love with their property they start to make allowances. They lose their edge and in the long run they lose control and then the little one leaves them for not meeting their need to be controlled. If I start making my choices based on whether or not Phoenix or one of the slaves will aprove two things will happen. One, they will lose respect for me and two they'll leave me. Like wise I would never marry a slave for in my mind it would upset the power balance. It's harder to make the hard choices when half your stuff is on the line.

Now, the flip side to this is that little ones(aka subs/slaves) in order to serve a dominant with selfless devotion they must form a bond or love for their dominant.

Well thats the short version,

Melissa
Mistress of Ds Haven
www.dshaven.com




perverseangelic -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:41:47 PM)

My primary partner and Owner is my best friend, and the most important person I've ever known. We are friends above just abuot everything else. We're in love after that, and in love pretty darn hard. After that we are strongly sexually attracted to each other.

For me, the fact that I belong to him falls firmly in between love and lust. He is my best friend, my sweet love, and then the person I belong to body, mind and soul.

For him, the fact that I am his property comes after the lust part, or perhaps as part of it. His ownership of me is innately sexual for him, and about sex more than anything else.

(damn, I'm being sappy today. Comes from the fact that we've been desiging engagement rings *brag*)



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:49:15 PM)

While I would hope that love would wind its way into my D/s relationship,first off I would simply hope for friendship,lust and respect and most importantly trust..be well...Tempting



aurora31 -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:50:20 PM)

I seek my best friend, lover, soul mate, and Master. I want a 24/7 LTR based on honesty, trust, and respect. One that blend both the M/s and nilla but always knowing that I am his/hers to do with as he/she pleases and also knowing that he/she would never do anything to break my trust and respect in them or anything that would cause me permenant harm either physical or mental.

aurora



TemptingNviceSub -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 5:51:25 PM)

Congratulations perverseangelic!..I wish you many years of joy...Tempting



LadyJulieAnn -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 6:33:58 PM)

My partner, capturedlad, is my best friend, lover, sub, concert going buddy, drinking buddy, confidant, etc.  He enhances my life.  [:)]
 
Be well,
Julie



Littlepita -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 7:12:08 PM)

I am in a 24/7, D/s, TPE relationship with my Dom. He is my owner and I am his sub/slave/lover/best friend. We are also deeply in love with each other and having a wonderful time enjoying all that life has to offer us.



Lashra -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 7:25:00 PM)

He is my best friend, my trusted confidant, my lusty lover, my twisted little masochist, my adoring sub but most of all the one who holds my heart. For me the person is the most important part of the relationship and all the rest comes after.
We both know who's in charge, we just don't have to remind each other of it everyday, it just flows.

~Lashra



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 7:48:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: anthrosub
What is the basis of your relationship with your primary partner if you have one and if not, what would you want it to be based on (assuming you want a primary partner)?

The current intimate long term relationships right now are based on love and mutual respect and commitment.  

quote:

  Do you care to have a primary partner at all? 

I CARE, but I don't care about that more than I care about being true to myself.

quote:

 How important is love?

Which kind of love?  Love isn't important enough to not be true to myself.  After all, what's the point of love if you aren't true to yourself?



MistressLorelei -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 8:42:39 PM)

I am hoping to find a primary, long-term (hopefully forever)  relationship with the right someone...  friendship and ultimately love, combined with an intense D/s emotional connection running throughout it always.  All of these elements are important to me.



Submotive -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/23/2006 9:59:14 PM)

quote:

What is the basis of your relationship with your primary partner if you have one and if not, what would you want it to be based on (assuming you want a primary partner)?  Do you care to have a primary partner at all?  How important is love?


Loving and caring are the foundation of Scotch Master and His girl.  With those in place W/we are free to move within the various aspects of this lifestyle whether W/we call it M/s, D/s, S&m, B&d or anything. It's not about what it's called, it's about who W/we are and how W/we interact.



SirCumsSlut -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/24/2006 4:52:00 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: anthrosub

Since message board "polls" are meaningless when it comes to accuracy, I will simply ask and hope enough people who represent the varieties that exist out there will give a meaningful answer.

What is the basis of your relationship with your primary partner if you have one and if not, what would you want it to be based on (assuming you want a primary partner)?  Do you care to have a primary partner at all?  How important is love?
 
Thanks
 
anthrosub


The basis of Sir's and my relationship is friendship.  We started out as friends, and from there our relationship grew to quite a tumultuous loving M/s dynamic.  He is my Sir/hubby/lover and bestfriend as I am his slut/wife/mother of our kids/lover and bestfriend.   And if and when the time comes to add another to our dynamic, that person too will be a friend/slave and lover.
 
Love as in any relationship is very important, for imho, without love, there can be no respect, trust or honest friendship.



piscess -> RE: The Nature of the Relationship (5/24/2006 5:01:10 AM)

In my prior relationships, and with any future relationship, it will be... Friendship, trust, respect, and love.  The other stuff is all weaved throughout.
 
piscess



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