Hisprettybaby
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Joined: 4/13/2011
From: Bellingham, WA U.S.A.
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Alright, OP. I'm well aware that you think I'm ripping you apart and blaming it all on you. Guess what. You don't get to choose the answers you get when you post on a Message Board. You get whatever comes your way.
Guess what else. I'm not picking on you. I'm actually a switch and, therefore, am active on both sides of the kneel. I apply the same standards to my submissive self as I have mentioned earlier in this thread when I commented on your post. I don't manipulate my Dom, I don't TFTB, I don't go behind his back and complain about him, and I don't try to tell him how to Dom me. If I did do any of those things, I'd expect to be punished in a very UN-fun way.
Now, to respond to some of what you said:
What She does not get is when to be so Dominant and when to be all cuddlily.
What you don't understand is She is Her own person with Her own style. It's not your place to force Her to change. She is the Dominant, and it's up to Her, not you, how She wants to express Her Dominance.
She has seen Nurse Vicki and Her sub play a lot and sometimes relax but Nurse Vicki and Her sub live together so She does not understand how to keep control while we are not together.
What I see is you wanting Her to somehow magically make you feel Dominated from a distance. The reality is, either you want to submit to Her, or else you don't. And submitting does not always mean getting your kinks fulfilled or having sex. It can also mean simply knowing that you belong to Her, whether you are grocery shopping or working, even when you're not being kinky.
See, i live about an hour and a half a way from Her (as mentioned before). W/we cannot always meet every weekend so for that it is hard to keep being Dominant.
No. No, it's not. She is still Dominant. You're just not getting your kinks satisfied on the weekends you aren't with Her. She can't always be with you, since She has children and a life besides you, and I think that's what bothers you.
if someone is willing to help Her get the grasp or concept of our somewhat distant relationship and is willing to teach hypnosis, electro-play and needle play and the rest should be easy.
I'm sure She could ask Her friend if She has any questions about things. Also, there is a good search function on Fetlife when it comes to finding Events and such where She could meet people. It seems that you are the one wanting to push things onto Her. SHE is the Dominant. How about letting HER be in charge?
as a gift i try to help Her to be more of a Dominant
What you really mean is,you try to help Her be Dominant the way you want Her to be; Listen up. That's NOT the way it works. She is the Dominant, not you, and it's Her choice how She chooses to Dominate you. If you don't like it, well, there's always the exit door. Which is where you'd be already, were I Her. (I'm glad I'm not, btw)
~Hisprettybaby~
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