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ennuiTO -> Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 7:05:29 AM)

Just curious as to if there are any women on here who have helped a guy or guys to explore their curiosity? It's something I've pondered for quite some time, but never had the balls to try... so I'm curious as to how you went about calming the fears that go along with it...

Also, for any guys who've had the experience, how did it go for you? What were your apprehensions going in, and how did she/they/he/you deal with them?

If you don't feel comfortable posting it up here, feel welcome to message me.

Thanks!



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 10:20:26 AM)

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3057130/tm.htm

I offer you a link to the FAQ at the top of the board. Also, I assure you that no matter what it is, it has happened.



HannahLynHeather -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 11:01:44 AM)

what fears? what the fuck is there to be afraid of? its a cock, it goes in your mouth.



Hisprettybaby -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 11:43:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

what fears? what the fuck is there to be afraid of? its a cock, it goes in your mouth.

[sm=LMAO.gif]



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 11:45:43 AM)

I love Hannah, hard. Yes I do.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 11:47:02 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

what fears? what the fuck is there to be afraid of? its a cock, it goes in your mouth.


Or...other places.

Being bi curious and wanting/needing to be led into it is very common in male subs.

How exactly a dom/me would go about doing that would depend on the couple though.




orchid77 -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 11:57:28 AM)

The best thing anyone can do in this situation is TALK and the come up with a plan together.



TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 11:58:38 AM)

quote:

Or...other places


<thinks about all the uses for a cock and purrs>



LanceHughes -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 12:01:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt
quote:

ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather
what fears? what the fuck is there to be afraid of? its a cock, it goes in your mouth.

Or...other places.

Being bi curious and wanting/needing to be led into it is very common in male subs.

How exactly a dom/me would go about doing that would depend on the couple though.

1) Nope.... NOT other places.  Every bi-curious vanilla man I've "helped" has felt that cock-sucking is "enough."   Most of them have dildoes and claim that that's enough for them to experience "other places."

2) I've found that kinky males subs usually want a hand-holder, mostly because such is available.  Straight men usually just go for it.  Kinsey said 1 to 6.  All those 3s and 4s (and 5s) finally get up the nerve to do the Craig's list thing.  But as above - cock-sucking and that is all.

3) My idea for a mixed sex couple - vanilla or kinky - GET permission from the female and (as Hannah suggests) Just fucking DO IT!

4) Why do we usually mean male when we say "bi-curious"? 



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 12:06:10 PM)

Meh. I don't mind watching cocksucking, but for real entertainment I want down and dirty ACTION!!

What irks me about these kinds of threads, and the men who are "bi-curious" [8|] is that they expect the women to be pimps for them. Can't they just go to the bar like anyone else? Sheesh!



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 1:46:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

1) Nope.... NOT other places.  Every bi-curious vanilla man I've "helped" has felt that cock-sucking is "enough."   Most of them have dildoes and claim that that's enough for them to experience "other places."

2) I've found that kinky males subs usually want a hand-holder, mostly because such is available.  Straight men usually just go for it.  Kinsey said 1 to 6.  All those 3s and 4s (and 5s) finally get up the nerve to do the Craig's list thing.  But as above - cock-sucking and that is all.

3) My idea for a mixed sex couple - vanilla or kinky - GET permission from the female and (as Hannah suggests) Just fucking DO IT!

4) Why do we usually mean male when we say "bi-curious"? 


That was my point, the "other place" is what they are afraid of. I've known plenty of males subs who love strap on sex but the very hint of a real cock in their ass makes them clench their cheeks like they were using their ass to crack walnuts.

I think the term bi-curious connotes the cachet of being bi without the full implication of "gay."





LadyHibiscus -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 1:56:12 PM)

Sidetrack, but given the choice between a REAL cock in my ass, and a silicone one, guess which one I would pick?

Eternally grateful to be female Hib



Hisprettybaby -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 3:11:40 PM)

~FR~
Actually, I had a bi(so he said) male sub once who said he was open to either a man or a woman & wanted to just....be used. Men were not a hard limit of his, I checked first, so I used my strap-on at first and then a man took over. He liked it. So much for staying away from the "other place," er, rear end. Of course, I would NEVER have had a man go there had it been a hard limit of his. We discussed the possibility first, but he didn't know until after it happened that it wasn't me that finished it off.

~Hisprettybaby~



LanceHughes -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 8:38:50 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby

~FR~
Actually, I had a bi(so he said) male sub once who said he was open to either a man or a woman & wanted to just....be used. Men were not a hard limit of his, I checked first, so I used my strap-on at first and then a man took over. He liked it. So much for staying away from the "other place," er, rear end. Of course, I would NEVER have had a man go there had it been a hard limit of his. We discussed the possibility first, but he didn't know until after it happened that it wasn't me that finished it off.

~Hisprettybaby~


It's those VANILLA straights that are "walnut crackers."  They don't have women to pimp for them..... unless it's a female friend who just happens to be a fag hag and willing to pimp.

::: SIGH :::

After many years of thought about these bi-curious guys, I've reached the conclusion (and maybe they have, too) that:
For a straight man, cock-sucking defines "being" gay.

Let's look at the four major combos:
1) Fucking an ass - nothing a man can't do to a woman.
2) Getting fucked in the ass - do I have to actually type "strap-on"?
3) Getting sucked - a mouth is a mouth
and that leaves:
4) sucking a dick.

The first three can all be done with a female partner, the fourth, not so much.

I rest my case, Your Honor.



Hisprettybaby -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/10/2011 9:12:06 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
It's those VANILLA straights that are "walnut crackers."  They don't have women to pimp for them..... unless it's a female friend who just happens to be a fag hag and willing to pimp.

::: SIGH :::

After many years of thought about these bi-curious guys, I've reached the conclusion (and maybe they have, too) that:
For a straight man, cock-sucking defines "being" gay.

Let's look at the four major combos:
1) Fucking an ass - nothing a man can't do to a woman.
2) Getting fucked in the ass - do I have to actually type "strap-on"?
3) Getting sucked - a mouth is a mouth
and that leaves:
4) sucking a dick.

The first three can all be done with a female partner, the fourth, not so much.

I rest my case, Your Honor.


[:D]



jmasterson -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/14/2011 9:08:42 PM)

Personally as a bi guy who once had that curiosity and has since had that curiosity fulfilled I would say that it would be better to explore your sexuality with a consensual partner, rather than trying to it as part of "play" with a mistress. Sexuality is about a lot more than the simple physical actions, and if you are only taking the physical actions because your mistress is telling you to, I don't think you will be exploring your sexuality adequately... and your bisexual acts will be associated with being dominated by a woman and doing them because she is "making" you. I explored by sexuality in a vanilla style and found that to be very satisfying, and now if I was playing in a S&M scene involving "forced bi" behavior I would really enjoy it, well, if the guy was cute anyway.



MistressLilliana -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/15/2011 11:14:29 AM)

I don't know the entire situation but there are subs out there who commit to only one Mistress but have always or are finding that they are attracted or turned on by the idea of trying things with another male. In that case, I can see them asking their Mistress for permission to explore that curiousity and perhaps, if the reason this curiosity was brought on because she does play with other men other than that one sub, she can then help him "learn" to experience sexual activities with a man.

As for the Mistress "forcing", I'd hope that the sub would be comfortable with his Mistress enough to know she won't force him too far beyond his experience and limits. The two should talk about what it is that the sub is actually looking to do, does he just want to experience blowing another guy or having a guy blow him, does he was ass play, and so on so that the Mistress can be more aware of what she can "help" with. Or she can simply give him permission to explore his curiosity.

Otherwise, if a sub is not committed to his Mistress or is free to "do his own thing" then just go and see for yourself like any other guy out there who isn't into this lifestyle.



ennuiTO -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/17/2011 7:44:03 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

1) Nope.... NOT other places.  Every bi-curious vanilla man I've "helped" has felt that cock-sucking is "enough."   Most of them have dildoes and claim that that's enough for them to experience "other places."

3) My idea for a mixed sex couple - vanilla or kinky - GET permission from the female and (as Hannah suggests) Just fucking DO IT!



That was my point, the "other place" is what they are afraid of. I've known plenty of males subs who love strap on sex but the very hint of a real cock in their ass makes them clench their cheeks like they were using their ass to crack walnuts.

I think the term bi-curious connotes the cachet of being bi without the full implication of "gay."


You hit the nail on the head. Sucking a cock is no problem. It's an occasional craving... the problem lies in anything beyond that... hence the hand holding desire... I'm not talking forced bi, but guided. My question still stands though - how did people here go about getting over cracking walnuts?
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SuzeQ -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/17/2011 8:12:34 PM)

I used to be bi curious, from the other side, but still. I was curious about het sex. How did I get over my reservations and fears regarding trying it? Some salt, a few lime wedges, and some tequila.



LadyHibiscus -> RE: Bi curiousity? (10/18/2011 6:16:40 AM)

Cracking walnuts? This phrase is intriguing, but I don't know what it means here.



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