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Kaliko -> Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 7:32:42 PM)

A while back, on the other side of CM, I was corresponding with a man via c-mail. During that same time, I was also occasionally corresponding with another few men. These were all more on the innocent side of getting to know someone - nothing too heavy in any of these messages.

As a little bit of time went by (not long), this man told me that one of the other profiles I was corresponding with a bit was him, also. This second profile was not one that I talked too much with...but...enough so that some of the same questions were asked, etc.

Obviously, I guess he did that to find out if I was a fake or lying. And of course, I wasn't lying about anything so all answers, I suppose, lined up for him.

But now...I have that experience stuck in my head, and I guess I might be slightly paranoid. Not that I care so very much, because all answers/approaches would be the same no matter what. But...I just hate being found to be foolish, and I would feel so foolish if I were emailing someone who was only pretending to be that person so he could check up on what I was telling him through another profile.

Do I have reason to be concerned? Is this something that you have done as a way to verify that a prospective submissive isn't nuts? Should I drop it and not be concerned?

Funny how that one experience from years ago has so affected me.



HannahLynHeather -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 8:32:53 PM)

i think its a pretty fucking scummy thing to do.



Iamsemisweet -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 9:15:48 PM)

No shit.


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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather

i think its a pretty fucking scummy thing to do.




DarkSteven -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 9:17:54 PM)

Weird.  And creepy.



SailingBum -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 9:19:27 PM)

Really dude you need to grow up and stop playing games.

That just one of the many pitfalls of online. ehh Ive said it countless times so here goes one more. Turn off the CPU and go out... I can guarantee that what you described will never happen nor the other stupid shit that befalls ppl who do online dating. My actual weight is... My actual age is .... My personal fav...Actually I'm a guy.

With that said some ppl are gluttons for punishment and even after this crap happens to them numerious times.. you still see them online doing the same stupid shit.

Definition of a idiot: Doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.

Good luck BadOne



JanahX -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 9:29:41 PM)

Just to let you know... I run across people with socks writing to me all the time.

One in particular comes to mind. - He would never admit it, but his writing style is the same, and he uses the same words and expressions.
He still stalks me to this day = but its been easier and easier for me to root him out and block him.

I wonder to this day - who the hell he is, why he is obsessed with me and what drives him to contact me over and over and over again. He's been doing it for YEARS now. I imagine him as some 40+ year old guy that lives in his mothers basement.

Fucking weirdos left and right. - sometimes feel like Im playing a game of dodgeball.



Endivius -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 10:38:03 PM)

How dominant can someone be, if they are so insecure that they need multiple accounts to validate an online correspondance? Just saying.



DeviantlyD -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 10:57:58 PM)

I wouldn't feel foolish Kaliko. And I wouldn't allow his paranoia to push you into second guessing those you come in contact with either. It takes all types to make the world go 'round, as the saying goes. Not all are his type. ;)



DeviantlyD -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 10:59:11 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Definition of a idiot: Doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.

Good luck BadOne


I thought that was the definition of insanity. :P



myotherself -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 11:03:11 PM)

I'd feel an immediate sense of distrust. If someone can lie to you about something to simple (and so creepy), what else can they lie to you about?

I had something similar. It was a guy I eventually met for coffee, and realised there was no way we were ever going to have a relationship. The chemistry just wasn't there in the slightest. So he created another profile and started chatting with me. It took a while to realise it was the same guy, and when I called him on his shit he said he did it to prove I was wrong and that we were meant to be together.

Too creepy for words.



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 11:28:11 PM)

i think it's creepy. if he admitted it to me, i'd probably stop talking to him. 



myotherself -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/10/2011 11:54:31 PM)

After letting him know EXACTLY what I thought of him, I blocked him so fast I scorched my keyboard [:'(]



tj444 -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 12:21:08 AM)

Hmmm, i wonder why he told you that he had a second profile he was chatting to you with.

I dunno, I pretty much figure every guy is lying to me about something. I have had a few guys that i thought were honest open my eyes on that. Some of the lies are so stupid and pointless. I had one guy tell me he was a model when he went to college as one of the pics he sent me was supposedly taken of him on a modeling gig. Except, imo he was too short to be a model and when i put his pics thru google images and tineye, well, the pic of was some other guy (with the website addys those pics were also on). I was very surprised about the pics cuz he sounded real and sincere. Only 2 of the many he sent might have been of him, we have not met so i dont even know that. For the life of me i dont know why he did that and told me various things that werent true. Now i question everything he told me.

How does someone find out if the person they are interested in is lying or not?

Everyone talking to me gets the same answers from me, that is if i dont block, delete on the first email cuz they say they like my profile but they arent listed in the whose viewed me page.. Thats usually the first lie, right outta the starting gate.. [8|]



SailingBum -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 12:38:39 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DeviantlyD


quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Definition of a idiot: Doing the same thing over and over, expecting a different result.

Good luck BadOne


I thought that was the definition of insanity. :P


Ya know it works either way...

BadOne



Kaliko -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 2:07:47 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

Turn off the CPU and go out... I can guarantee that what you described will never happen nor the other stupid shit that befalls ppl who do online dating. My actual weight is... My actual age is .... My personal fav...Actually I'm a guy.





I am. Online is beginning to lose its appeal in a big way, now that I am much more seriously looking than before, when I wasn't quite sure I was ready to move on.

I am going to a munch this weekend. (Yikes - but that's for another thread, which there just was one like that, so I'll just pipe down.) I live outside of Boston - if I can't meet someone through getting a bit more into (or, a bit at all into) some of the groups there, then I suppose I'm not trying hard enough.



Kaliko -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 2:20:06 AM)

Okay - well, that has somewhat validated my discomfort, so thank you, all. I usually consider myself somewhat online savvy but this was something I had honestly not come across before (thank goodness) and just wondered if it was something that was more common than just my one experience.

I guess not. :)



TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 3:20:07 AM)

My first thought reading that was gee if he didn't trust you to be honest at that beginning point, how much would he have trusted you if things progressed? Just as well he's in your past and good riddance.

Fire



LillyBoPeep -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 6:15:21 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: myotherself

After letting him know EXACTLY what I thought of him, I blocked him so fast I scorched my keyboard [:'(]


WIN!



Iamsemisweet -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 6:51:42 AM)

quote:

I am going to a munch this weekend. (Yikes - but that's for another thread, which there just was one like that, so I'll just pipe down.)


Good move.  Oddly, there are people on CM who will criticize ANYTHING one does.



littlewonder -> RE: Two Profiles, One Dominant? (10/11/2011 6:53:31 AM)

sounds like an insecure man who probably would not trust you if you were in a relationship either. He simply was burned and can't get over it and so he now takes his insecurities out on everyone else.

I personally would not  have said anything to him, stopped talking to him and blocked him. Would not be worth a single ounce of effort otherwise on my part.




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