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Has anyone asked for help when it was something new you... - 10/10/2011 8:50:10 PM

mons

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I have a new submissive, he has something he likes that
i never done before! So i wonder has anyone of you had this happen?
Did you ask for help with it? I thought it would be easy but since I never
done this before it was hard, then i got it! "humiliation" It was something
I never was comfortable doing, it is like picking on someone which was a
limit for me until now!
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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/10/2011 10:42:53 PM

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my Mistress has gotten much guidance with new things as i am a very curious slave and She is very outgoing so it works out very well. two handed flogging or florintine it took less than 20 min for Her to learn it and now She is very impressive to see doing it. fire play looked like fun so some classes and demos later and it is part of the toy bag. another one was wax play i ot turned into my own birthday cake for my 40th and it was then that my Mistress discovered that cutting was very erotic when cutting the wax cut me a bit as well. so dont be shy every one needs some classes in something. learn about it first see some demos and get some training and have fun

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/10/2011 10:49:40 PM

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FR Couple months back I asked for some info regarding E-play because I was new to it. Aside from a small number of responses, the large majority were very helpfull in pointing me to resources to educate myself. There is nothing wrong with asking for help, just remember to take the responses with a grain of salt. Open forum and all that.

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/11/2011 1:11:13 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

I have a new submissive, he has something he likes that
i never done before! So i wonder has anyone of you had this happen?
Did you ask for help with it? I thought it would be easy but since I never
done this before it was hard, then i got it! "humiliation" It was something
I never was comfortable doing, it is like picking on someone which was a
limit for me until now!
mons/jane

Congratulations, mons.

To answer your question...YES. It piqued my curiosity. I had him explain in detail then I read up on it as much as I could...and then I made him show me on his laptop others doing it. Um, I critiqued one of the women, lol, she was doing it wrong.

It was fun and my sub (this was around seven years ago) enjoyed being my guinea pig and I enjoyed trying something new.

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/11/2011 1:12:00 AM

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Of course. If it's a skill, I ask someone to show me how, if something more ephemeral, I search for experiences and opinions.

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/11/2011 4:36:42 AM

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Thank you all for your sound advice, i had found someone
whom helped me and wow now i am very good at it. It was a hard
limit for me i did not like to do this type of thing, i have alsways
stay clear of submissive who wanted this, but i have a new one and he is'
untrain and wow it is fun just watching him blush is wonderful, his is specific
and fun! i did not think to look it up i did not think it would be there it is so simple
but i never thought it would show up i will look for it ! So wise and great ladies
this is why i love being here so much knowledge, i have learn you never stop learning
at all!!1

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/12/2011 1:51:17 PM

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I understand how it'd feel odd to ask for help since we're "supposed" to be so Dominant and asking for help can seem rather embarrassing. I'd rather ask for help and look it up online than to do it wrong and possibly hurt my pet. If my pet has done it before and can help me then I'll do that as well though I'd still wish to explore it on my own first and get a good understanding of what it is I'm learning.

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/27/2011 1:40:39 AM

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I'm a big geek, so I just go rape the internet for all the info /fantasies/ advice I can find on the subject until I am a Master once again. :)

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/27/2011 11:24:05 AM

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I've not yet had to ask someone else for help on something in that circumstance (though I have asked for help in others), but I did have to do some googling once.

I was asked to do a racial humiliation scene once when I was pro-dom'ing. Problem was, I could do the humiliation but didn't know more than one racist phrase... so I had to google bad words lol.

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/27/2011 11:50:59 AM

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I think I realized I was a Domme by being in a vanilla relationship with a sub. He didn't have any more experience than me in the D/s relationship department, but he was much more curious and "book-smart". The most awkward situation was when he asked me to pee on him. Know mind you, this is back in my vanilla days when being on top seemed shameless haha. I had no idea what that meant! I mean, the logistics of peeing on someone seemed foreign and complicated. How was I suppose to stand? What if I missed?

Eventually I sucked it up and asked him about it. He showed me a lot of videos and critiqued the ones he didn't like. It not only gave me ideas of how he might like it, but how I would like it as well. After that, I drank a half a bottle of wine, cuffed the boy and dragged him into the communal bathroom of the all women's dorm and did the deed!

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RE: Has anyone asked for help when it was something new... - 10/27/2011 3:06:00 PM

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Yes, off the floor suspension and whipping. There are some safety issues that I had to know about before taking part. We are all new at some point so there is no harm in asking someone that can help us learn.

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