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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/13/2011 10:30:54 AM

kalikshama

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or you could do it here :)

While the background is nice, I'm not liking your body language in that pic.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/13/2011 10:49:06 AM

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or you could do it here :)

While the background is nice, I'm not liking your body language in that pic.

agreeing with kali on both points. =p the body language is odd, and looks forced. you look nervous, not relaxed or confident.
the background is really pretty though. ^_^

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/13/2011 9:55:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

or you could do it here :)

While the background is nice, I'm not liking your body language in that pic.

I was just happy the photo was eye level. In that shot, the camera is resting on the railing, with a rock under it so my height can be photographed. I'm using a timer, where it's positioned as mentioned and then I run over to the other side and stand and hope the photo functions.

Other issue was the transition lenses on my glasses and that particularly sunny day...just fail.

But, yeah, I do completely agree that the body language is lacking.

PS: Sure, I'll keep this thread going. Simple options are the best.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/14/2011 4:39:55 PM

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The word which comes to mind is "milquetoast". You define yourself in terms of "not being submissive" but frankly your constant references to patience and being willing to wait are all attributes of the standard vanilla approach to women.

Frankly, I strongly suspect you just get off on holding a woman down while you're fucking her and probably have some sadistic desires which you've picked up from low-grade porn. From this, you've inferred you must be dominant, but you really don't exhibit any of the traits and look more like you're trying to construct a persona which you think will be pleasing - an approach which totally goes against any notions you might have of dominance.

The best I could say is that you might be a top, but that's about it.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/14/2011 6:08:20 PM

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C'mon, that was so 10/11/11. See his post 30.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/14/2011 7:58:20 PM

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i cant see anything wrong with his written profile or pic. Just a shame he's the wrong side of the pond and so young.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/14/2011 10:24:18 PM

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The word which comes to mind is "milquetoast". You define yourself in terms of "not being submissive" but frankly your constant references to patience and being willing to wait are all attributes of the standard vanilla approach to women.

Frankly, I strongly suspect you just get off on holding a woman down while you're fucking her and probably have some sadistic desires which you've picked up from low-grade porn. From this, you've inferred you must be dominant, but you really don't exhibit any of the traits and look more like you're trying to construct a persona which you think will be pleasing - an approach which totally goes against any notions you might have of dominance.

The best I could say is that you might be a top, but that's about it.

I will agree that I'm probably closer to vanilla than a general dominant Vs submissive. I am not submissive, which it is why I list it as such instead of specifically calling myself a dom. I am stubborn, free-willed, and not about to serve another without my own selfish reasons. I would make a very lousy sub, slave, or pet.

It is true that I try to be pleasing on such a site. I don't really see the error in this. Every other user's page does this to a certain degree. Some less than others.

In reality, I'm good natured as a general rule. Perhaps your version of dominance prefers cruelty, mine doesn't. I believe in dominance, I take action when needed. I will say no, use means needed to solve a situation when it arises, but I'm not a fool that honestly believes that the dominant one is the one that gives the most orders. The dominant one is the one in control when it matters.

To this end, I often find positive reinforcement, optimism and social behavior much more effective than mere violent disciplinary measures. When needed, I prefer the pressure points or binding techniques to be most useful. Restraints or just holds also function. I do like creating rules and am keen on punishments for broken rules, but I won't create a rule that I can't consistently punish as it's a wasted effort.

But this is a personality thing, not a sexual thing. I'm not overly interested in sex*. I "get off" on reactions. This isn't strictly sexual, but often can be. Pain in others is often a reaction to things, this can be fun. This could also be called torture, though I don't really think it qualifies. I find involuntary reactions to be especially amusing. Pleasure, surprise, excitement, and sometimes violent reactions can also be very enjoyable.

I am on this site because I'm seeking a female or females that are interested in this sort of thing. I'd prefer to find an output for my odd desires where the other party would be willing, as opposed to finding an unwilling participant.

*Yeah, not kidding. I'm a male that really isn't terribly interested in sex. It's not an issue of not able to get sex, but seriously a lack of desire for it. I enjoy the reactions involved with the other party, certainly, but I can be just as happy with other, non-sexual reactions (does depend on what happens).

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/14/2011 10:28:27 PM

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Oh, in the regards to being able to physically overpower the female, I just want to be able to do so. It doesn't mean I intend to do so, just find ones that I could do that with, to be more appealing.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/14/2011 10:30:19 PM

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isn't terribly interested in sex

BOGGLE!!!!
How is that possible?

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/14/2011 11:01:44 PM

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isn't terribly interested in sex
BOGGLE!!!!
How is that possible?

Not really sure. Never too into drugs either (energy drinks are my weak point at times). Don't follow music and celebrities too well either.

My puberty had tentacle porn day-dreams and other such bizarre ones much darker and stranger than the ones you'd ever watch a cartoon of. I distinctly remember the one where the women are all chopped up and sewn back together with additional tits and such. Ahh, the odd things you think up at a young age while bored in public schools...<laughing to self>

On a related note, I'd be into writing up some really dark BDSM fiction if anyone is actually interested. Sort of assumed that there was a limit to darkness on this site...usually is.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/15/2011 6:07:42 AM

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You can post in the Creative Writing section. Here are the limits to the darkness:

Section Guidelines - Creative Writings

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Posted material must be in accordance with the - Collarme.com Forum Guidelines - and - Terms of Service - notice. In most cases acceptability will have to be determined based on the case in question and the content involved. Unacceptable subjects include, but are not limited to - minors, bestiality, incest, necrophilia, snuff and criminal activities. These topics are unacceptable regardless of circumstance.

If that doesn't work for you, try nifty.org. I've seen at least 3/6 of the prohibited topics there. (Research, I swear!)

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/15/2011 6:50:14 AM

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My puberty had tentacle porn day-dreams and other such bizarre ones much darker and stranger than the ones you'd ever watch a cartoon of. I distinctly remember the one where the women are all chopped up and sewn back together with additional tits and such. Ahh, the odd things you think up at a young age while bored in public schools...

Anyone wanna trade seats with Leatherface here? Bwahaha. Relax, I'm joking.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/15/2011 10:09:57 AM

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My puberty had tentacle porn day-dreams and other such bizarre ones much darker and stranger than the ones you'd ever watch a cartoon of. I distinctly remember the one where the women are all chopped up and sewn back together with additional tits and such. Ahh, the odd things you think up at a young age while bored in public schools...

Anyone wanna trade seats with Leatherface here? Bwahaha. Relax, I'm joking.

They were pretty weird, which is probably why I remember them. I got better, or rather, It became clear that this sort of thing doesn't work. Do you remember when you lose your teeth the first time? And then they grow back and some part of your brain starts suspecting that if you lost an arm, it might grow back too. I was at that sort of age, and I had a very active imagination.

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/15/2011 10:13:03 AM

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You can post in the Creative Writing section. Here are the limits to the darkness:

Section Guidelines - Creative Writings

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Posted material must be in accordance with the - Collarme.com Forum Guidelines - and - Terms of Service - notice. In most cases acceptability will have to be determined based on the case in question and the content involved. Unacceptable subjects include, but are not limited to - minors, bestiality, incest, necrophilia, snuff and criminal activities. These topics are unacceptable regardless of circumstance.

If that doesn't work for you, try nifty.org. I've seen at least 3/6 of the prohibited topics there. (Research, I swear!)

Thanks. I'm fine without dark writing. I'd only write it if I had an audience, which it looks like I probably don't. Granted, I could probably get into a wonderful debate about specific situations that are basically of the above examples and perfectly acceptable situations. But this really isn't the time or the place.

PS: Got to get a photo today. Didn't mean to derail this partially pre-derailed topic of mine...

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RE: Looking for critique of my profile (dominant). - 10/21/2011 2:47:03 PM

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Just read your profile. I might edit it a bit, but it reads well. You have the good sense to be honest about what you are like, and your interests. Be patient, I suggest you learn how to write a cogent message to subs that interest you, and expect some rejection and no replies from subs who are not interested, so... be patient, try the munches (not a good place to troll, IMO) try going to kinky events in your area, and most importantly be patient

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