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LafayetteLady -> RE: Yet ANOTHER Pro Domme post (10/12/2011 11:44:29 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MstrssScarlet
Looks like this thread took a totally different turn after I left. Here are some points that you need to understand:
I said right up front that I got to know what my clients liked and always worked hard to incorporate that into the session. I felt they had a better time if they gave into the ILLUSION that I was in charge, and they did.
Your opinion about when they had a better time is irrelevant. Their opinion is the only one that matters.
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This was not rent money. This was a sideline that I did for fun. I enjoyed the variety, not to mention getting paid to do what I enjoyed. It was work, but work I loved.
You seem to be trying to distinguish yourself from others in the business. So you were a part time sex worker. You were still a sex worker. You took money from men and "assisted" them in getting their sexual thrills. Try and play it off as anything else you want, but the only one you are deluding on that is you.
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I have already stated that I always gave my clients a second chance (and sometimes more) if they had a bad habit of topping from the bottom. I knew they would enjoy it more if they would just go with the flow, but sometimes it took some convincing.
Really? Is your "full time" job that of a licensed therapist? Unless it is, you know nothing. You have an opinion, which may be based on your experience, but you actually "know" nothing.
As for the "topping from the bottom," again, in a pro domme situation, that is ALL that is happening. These men pay you to provide a service, that service being "domination."
You act like you did them a favor talking to them and getting to know what they liked. Guess what? You didn't do that, chances are, you are out of business. Why? Because once again, this service is all about what your clients want! Great, you did it for fun, but no one cares if you have fun when you are a pro. You aren't having a good time? Damn well better pretend you are, or you are losing a client.
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Lastly, I did not mention one important thing. He was always pushing for things that were sexual in nature. That was a hard limit for me and I told him so many times. He would always deny it of course, but if I followed his "script", that's where it always lead.
Of course, you have gotten slammed, so now he asked for things "sexual" in nature. Like the whole session was not about him getting his dick hard?
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If I knew another pro domme that I trusted, I would gladly have referred him to her. I don't happen to know of any who don't "milk" their clients, asking for money even when they're not in a session. Sending people to a bad pro domme would only have made my reputation worse, not better.
So you know a bunch of scummy sex workers and you are the "cream of the crop," right? Do you have any idea how that makes you sound? Professionals in ANY business who have nothing good to say about any of their competitors don't have quite the great reputation you think they do.
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And lastly, there are different categories of pro dommes. Some are in it for the money and that's it. They will take on any client no matter what. Some of us are not in it JUST for the money. We enjoy what we do and when we come across one client in 50 that just pulls us down every time we see them, it's time to let them go. The clients that I did let go invariably called me back later complaining about their experiences with another pro domme (or two) and asking to come back.
Newflash. Even the ones who are in it for the money are doing it because they get something out of it more than just money.
For those, like you, who claim to do it because you "enjoy it," has it occurred to you that you are milking your clients in a different way? Rather than have a relationship with someone because you enjoy the dynamic, you seek to make money from people. Problem is then you seem to think that you have more say in what goes on in sessions than you actually do. The second you take payment, doesn't matter if you are in the biz because you "love it," or some other reason, it's ALL about the client. As long as the activities are on your "play list," you do what you are told, and the best way to do that is for YOU to get over the illusion that you are in control. You are playing a part, and from what I see on this post, you confused the role and the reality.
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I am VERY aware that as a pro domme you take the sub role, but if you act like it they may as well go to one of their sub friends and hand them a script. Very unfulfilling.
Mistress Scarlet
Unfulfilling for who? You or them? Part of the game for your client is for them to slobber all over you with thanks and gratitude, but again, when they walk out that door, you are a mere memory. They go back to their lives, their wives. They got their fulfillment in the session and life goes on.
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