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Rituals - 5/24/2006 7:57:07 AM

peterK50

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In my last household there were rituals & shared experiences. All subs/slaves were whipped on the first day of each month. Are there any others that subscribe to rituals & shared experiences?

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RE: Rituals - 5/24/2006 9:52:02 AM

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Every night, Fox kneels down my my bed and removes my shoes and socks (unless he's done it earlier for some reason like sex, bath, paint my nails, etc). Then he looks at me, smiles, and places a kiss on each, sometimes more than one. Then we hug and sometimes he lowers his head to rest on my bed between my legs... no sex, just rests there while I stroke his head and just sinks down, letting the rest of the world fade away.

It is a good way for us to reground ourselves and give him some purely submissive space.

I'd have a different ritual for each slave that would reground us.

I have common rule and rituals for anyone I own or train... call me "Mistress" or "MyLady" depending on their role, positions and rules they to memorize and be able to use at a moments notice, and some other things.

(good job on a post, Peter)

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RE: Rituals - 5/24/2006 10:05:11 AM

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Are there any others that subscribe to rituals & shared experiences?

I'm a symbolic interactionist, so I *love* rituals and rules and symbolism of almost any form. I'm also a creature of habit, and generally feel a bit off-kilter when those routines don't happen.
I would love to run a high protocol, ritualistic household, but unfortunately, real life tends to get in the way. Anytime I want to set a particular routine, I have to keep in mind that other things might come up, and how likely it is that we'll all be able to stick to that routine. If it's likely that the routine/ritual will be often set aside to deal with real life, I tend to not set it in place in the first place, because it would end up very frustrating to me.
i.e. It would be really neat to have a bedtime routine in which my submissive was centered around me. But, being an insomniac, and periodically sleeping on the sofa, and having teenagers without bedtimes, etcetera... the routine would fall by the wayside more often than not. So I settle for an alternative routine of tethering his ankle on nights he sleeps in my bed.
My life is at a place where it lacks a lot of structure right now and things are taken day-by-day. Once it becomes more structured (as it has been in the past), routines and rituals will play a larger part in my life.

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RE: Rituals - 5/24/2006 1:05:07 PM

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I actually love a certain amount of ritual, and I feel it is very grounding for a D/s or M/s relationship. Like Proprietrix, I have a tendency not to institute certain rituals if things are too hectic. But there are many things, little things, I love, and that benefit both Myself as the FemDom, and the submissive slave.

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RE: Rituals - 5/24/2006 1:54:28 PM

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inspections are a daily ritual.

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RE: Rituals - 5/24/2006 4:54:50 PM

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Since my trans m-f was trained in a leather household, some of the rituals/manners that she brought with her I use to this day. Small onces such as not sitting until told to; not eating until I start etc are little things. One ritual for bedtime is her to prepare me for sleep [if I shower before this and we play it makes a difference]. She also lies down with me until I'm almost asleep. It's a grounding time as Tammy stated. We also have a couple of other things that are done on a regular basis which keeps her mind intuned with who she is and Who owns her.

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In my last household there were rituals & shared experiences. All subs/slaves were whipped on the first day of each month. Are there any others that subscribe to rituals & shared experiences?

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