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With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 8:51:36 AM

chrisy

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so that is the situation i am in. can it work out? i am straight. any advice or words of wisdom would be great. i am new (6 months into real life)...

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 9:39:54 AM

MissyRane

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If you can't possibly think of having sexual intercourse with females then *shrugs* but I'd think it's possible as long as it's nonsexual?

but if it's also sexual then..give it a try and if you hate it then I guess that says it all...

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 9:45:17 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chrisy
so that is the situation i am in. can it work out? i am straight. any advice or words of wisdom would be great. i am new (6 months into real life)...

ummm.... *scratches head*
You're with a Mistress and she's not bi? You're not bi? Does she prefer a bi sub? Do you prefer a bi Domina? Is she straight?
Can it work out? Who knows? Is there a problem that you foresee happening? Is that problem based on sexual orientation? Is someone not having their sexual needs met?
Have you spoken to her about the sexual orientation problem (or lack thereof) that you are seeing/predicting (or not seeing)?
Is the rest of the relationship going well? Is there even a relationship? You say "with a Mistress" and "the situation I'm in"... does that mean you are casual play partners? Online lovers? Friends? Acquaintences? Collared? Girlfriend/girlfriend? Owner/possession?

Your post is a bit vague. Maybe you could expand a bit in what you're asking?

< Message edited by Proprietrix -- 5/24/2006 9:46:52 AM >

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 9:52:46 AM

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all i ca say is find a dom or master that all he whats it what you have to give and it should work out

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 9:56:25 AM

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If the service is about service, Ds or SM and now sex, I know lots of folks with similar arrangements.

I've trained and played with women -- never had a sexual relationship with any of them. I'd love to have a female slave I could just be lady-maid or lady-assistant with.

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 11:48:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chrisy

so that is the situation i am in. can it work out? i am straight. any advice or words of wisdom would be great. i am new (6 months into real life)...

I assume that what you are saying is that she is bi and you are not. If that isn't a problem for her, then why would it be for you? I know many women in the scene who are straight and who play with bi and straight. That doesn't mean they engage in sexual intercourse. If you are collared to her, are you then excusive to her or does she have other slaves?

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 11:59:37 AM

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It sounds to me like you two need to discuss things. You can be with someone in a service way and have a non-sexual partnership, but then the dominant should find a way for you to release that sexual part of yourself. Whether its finding you someone, or the good ole BOB.

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/24/2006 11:49:19 PM

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serving a Mistress does not half to be sexual it could be jsut doing Her house work and task and taking pain from Her and as thing grow it could develope sexualy some times it does and some time it does not so maywanto findout ifYour Mistress wants You tosexualy serve Her

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RE: With a Mistress but not bi - 5/27/2006 3:22:06 PM

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Talk with her about her expectations of you. Did she tell you she expected you to be bi? Has she tried to get you to be sexual with another gender? Is it sexual or just service? Subs can serve nonsexually to both genders although sometimes either Doms or subs think they can't. So have a honest talk with your Mistress and go from there.
I view submission not gender when talking with subs.

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