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LadyHugs -> RE: Does it drive you a bit nutty also? (5/25/2006 2:14:34 PM)
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Dear sleazybutterfly, Ladies and Gentlemen;
It drives me to a state of annoyance, when slave/submissive prospects attempt to change me also. So, I do understand the frustration indeed.
The fact is --they are a miss-match.
When you have a 80/20 ratio that is positive and close to what you're looking for, then you're blessed. I would be happy with an 80% of what I'm looking for in a slave, as there is no such thing as a perfect slave.
When somebody changes you, they change who you are.
As for me, I like to place before slaves, things for them to consider. It is also wonderful to give a bit of why it is important to me to practice certain manners or serving etiquette.
Personally, I would want to know why a slave/submissive has such a firm "no" about things or have a closed mind. From my experiences with slaves/submissives who have had caning horror stories, I can understand and show an option to such and allow their minds to be changed on their terms--not mine. Sometimes, it is really of great interest to me, to which may enlighten me. I learn just as much from slaves as well as dominants.
I think anything that provokes a strong "no" from a slave, should be approached and respectfully. This is where communication really is necessary. Might be, that both of the individuals involved have an opportunity to explore the issue and exhausts all remedies. Then when all is exhausted, the issue can finally be at peace and closure done.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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