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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 6:42:11 AM

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still wondering who has called him names...

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:00:07 AM

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ok, listen up bubbles. what happened is you fucked up. you fucked up but good. i don't have a clue how, but i know you did. so what are you going to do about it? whine like a sad fuck, or solve the fucking problem?

what's that? you want to solve the problem? well its your lucky fucking day bubbles, because old hannah has the solution to all your woes.
click on this link: http://www.sandiegoclubs.com/venue-types/3/1/bdsm-and-fetish-clubs.html and head into town, that way you meet the little sluts face to face before you even talk to them. i know its a radical fucking idea, but you have to think outside the box.

now hop in your car and head into town and find a fuckbunny the old fashioned way.

best of luck bubbles.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:02:08 AM

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I'm guessing he's pretty new to the whole 'online' thing and hasn't figured out you need a pretty thick skin if you're going to survive (relatively) intact.

He seems to be seeing the honest advice given as some kind of attack on him, which is a little...strange. But understandable, I guess, if you're new to the level of brutal honesty you get on here!

OP - my suggestion would be to take a walk, calm down, then come back and see that we're actually trying to help. You asked for advice, this is it.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:03:30 AM

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ok ive said it bbefore and ill say it again,i thankyou for your responses.if I didnt want your opinions,i wouldnt be in chat.if I feel im bbeing attacked,im going to defend myself.just all all of you are harping to get your point accross,im doing the same thing.so many of you say im doing it because I dont like your answers.its got nothing to do with liking them or not.all of you if fely threatened would respond with harsh tones and in fact many of you have.how is my responding the way way acting like I have a bad attitude?are people really that shallow or hypocritical to do something and then critisize someone else for doing the same thing? c'mon people,again,im only angry at those people calling me a stalker and such.to everyone else,just cause I dont agree with what you say doesnt mean im angry or quick tempered.its ok to disagree.its not ok to say someone is quick tempered or has an attitude probblem because they disagree.to the one who says I have a lesson to learn,let that be your lesson.

again,thanks for the responses.i appriciate them all.i dont agree with them all bbut thats my right and choice to agree or disagree.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:06:33 AM

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hanahlynn,thats the funniest messege yet.thanks for the laugh.good advise also,thanks.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:12:55 AM

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ok ive said it bbefore and ill say it again,i thankyou for your responses.if I didnt want your opinions,i wouldnt be in chat.if I feel im bbeing attacked,im going to defend myself.just all all of you are harping to get your point accross,im doing the same thing.so many of you say im doing it because I dont like your answers.its got nothing to do with liking them or not.all of you if fely threatened would respond with harsh tones and in fact many of you have.how is my responding the way way acting like I have a bad attitude?are people really that shallow or hypocritical to do something and then critisize someone else for doing the same thing? c'mon people,again,im only angry at those people calling me a stalker and such.to everyone else,just cause I dont agree with what you say doesnt mean im angry or quick tempered.its ok to disagree.its not ok to say someone is quick tempered or has an attitude probblem because they disagree.to the one who says I have a lesson to learn,let that be your lesson.

again,thanks for the responses.i appriciate them all.i dont agree with them all bbut thats my right and choice to agree or disagree.

Oh FFS.. THIS is what I said.. read it S L O W L Y, if it will help you understand:

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It could be that until THAT MOMENT, they DID want to meet up. as soon as ya mentioned home addresses etc, it practically SCREAMS **STALKER!! STALKER***

I was not calling you a stalker.. what the implication was is that when you start mentioning personal addresses, to MANY WOMEN that would increase the worry that you MIGHT BE A STALKER.

clearer now, kiddo?

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:13:13 AM

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i aim to please.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:16:43 AM

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m curious,do you know of any events in north county san diego as I live in escondido,ca

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:18:57 AM

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google?
fetlife is a great place for events; even if you dont want to use it to meet people.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:20:15 AM

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go to google.. enter 'bdsm' and 'escondido'.

or, if you dont mind a bit of a drive, go to Lair De Sade in L.A. (google is your friend.. and the Lair is an awesome place with some great people..)

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:24:12 AM

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dood, whats with your profile pic? lol

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:24:40 AM

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ok,thanks.no hard feelings.i just feel that after getting to know me,instead of bblocking me,maybe explaining concerns they may have would have been a better move.that way we together could try to figure out what the best move is.to block someone with no explination as to why is rediculous and fucked up.all the advise is appriciated but its all speculation as well.i understand what everyone was saying but I feel if you were all in my shoes,you would bbe left scratching your heads just as I am.thanks anyways.good luck to all.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:26:18 AM

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personally, I'd have just said.. "oh well" and left it at that.

eta: in re: to being blocked...

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 7:27:49 AM

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if you saw yourself the way some of us do, you wouldn't be scratching your head for long. please take a few moments a day and do some self-inspection. =p it's important for anyone to do.
i find journals to be extremely handy for this.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 8:43:02 AM

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I don't quite get the wait weeks and months to get to know you online thing. For me, if I think there is something i might like about a person, i want to meet as soon as possible, to see if there is something in person. And not at my house or his house, but at a bookstore- so if it doesn't pan out, i can read.

I met my deceased Sir and my current sweetie within a couple of weeks of talking, and both worked out VERY well for me

Of the people i met with, not one suggested we meet at his house, or mine - and i wouldn't have even considered it.

One thing you might do to see if its your approach is to talk to some of your old slaves and ask their honest opinion about the beginnings of your relationships, and see if there was anything there that they thought you might change... You also might think about the fact that just because you think its ok, others can think differently, and if your target audience is thinking differently, then guess whos opinion matters in this instance.

PS, it doens't do anyone any good when they come across as desperate, or needy. You aren't going to find love when you are desperately looking for it - its going to sneak up on you and wack you in the head. Go into any relationship with the intent to have a good time, and wait............................

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 9:02:03 AM

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dude.. YOURE not getting it... it is just flat out creepy for some guy to even SUGGEST that his placeor the girls place would be appropriate for a first meet.. the fact that you even SUGGEST it is going to ring alarm bells and wave red flags all over the place to women who are at all cognizant of their safety.

Yup, this means..."I'll offer you a coffee shop, but I'm really hoping that you'll say my place or your place...so I can bang you."

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So let me tell you what the real problem is. By the time you set up meeting plans, those women never had any intent of meeting you. Somewhere in the last conversations they had with you, you committed a huge faux pas. I have no idea what it was - it could well have been asking for their address or asking them to meet at your place. Whatever it was, their main concern was to get off the phone as soon as possible, block you, and get you the hell out of their lives. They agreed to meet you because they knew if they DID tell you what they'd done, they'd get into a pointless, directionless argument with you that went nowhere, kinda like you've been doing in this thread. You did something wrong, so wrong they wanted OUT, and enough to knock out four out of four.

You know....if I weren't married.....

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m curious,do you know of any events in north county san diego as I live in escondido,ca

Okay....there used to be at least two breakfast meetings on Saturdays, I don't know if they're still going.

There are lifestyle workshops in Vista at a "toy" store and the north county social in Vista on the 4th Wednesday.

There's an ice cream and coffee meeting in Poway on the 4th Thursday and another meet up on the 2nd Tuesday in San Marcos.

There are discussion groups that meet in San Marcos.

There's a social in Mission Valley on the 3rd Wednesday and an incredibly large number of events downtown.

There are two groups on Fetlife for North County with about 500 members between the two.

Just takes a little effort.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 9:16:01 AM

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ya OsideG!!

and, like I also suggested.. teh Lair.. a bit of a drive, but if he wants to widen his pool, not out of the question..

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 9:21:20 AM

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ya OsideG!!

and, like I also suggested.. teh Lair.. a bit of a drive, but if he wants to widen his pool, not out of the question..

The Lair and Dragon's Gate are usually a weekend trip for us. But, it's always great to see old friends.

OC social and 5th Wednesday social would also be reachable from Escondido.

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 9:36:14 AM

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I perved your profile and noticed that you "outed" someone as a "fraud". Not cool. Since you mentioned an age, I have a feeling this is one of the women who blocked you. I perved her profile as well, and she actually seemed pretty normal (until I checked out her photos). I'm tempted to write and get her side of the story.

I had that temptation too, but was worried that too many of us would do that and freak her out

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RE: subs and slaves shed some light - 10/16/2011 9:44:10 AM

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Hey, glad to see you update your journals to removed the person you outed as a fake. As negativity in online journals is a real turnoff, I suggest you delete everything else on that page from September. "Fakes" won't pay any attention and you will turn off quality women.

Also, when Lilly suggests you journal, I'm sure she means in a private journal:

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please take a few moments a day and do some self-inspection. =p it's important for anyone to do.
i find journals to be extremely handy for this.

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