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RE: Confused and dejected - 6/1/2006 5:45:41 AM

DarkSideOfThMoon

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Nothing more to add really, sympathy of course. Don't give up on this lifestyle, it is worth it in the end.

Keep trying, just be a little more defensive...

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RE: Confused and dejected - 6/1/2006 7:53:50 AM

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I was actually with you until the "nurse started chatting with me." No nurse is going to do that, let alone write emails.

Sorry things went so long and so hard- people really DO create "fake life stories" like this and keep them going for months or more. And it happens a lot more than people tend to think.

But you know now, and next time, get with someone you will definitely see once a week.

I agree, there is no way a nurse would ever "chat online" with anyone in her patients room. The other thing, the hospital would of never allowed his laptop in ICU.

I am very sorry that he played you. Actually he sounds very much like a submissive I met here on CM once.

I like the idea of you taking time off to heal and get yourself emotionally ready again. I also think that chatting online for months without actually meeting face to face is not a good idea. Online could be a way to initially meet, but move it very quickly to a real time meet. I havent read the rest of the thread, so if someone has offered this advice already, just ignore my post <s>
I wish you the best of luck on your journey.

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RE: Confused and dejected - 6/1/2006 8:16:58 AM

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I couldnt agree more with John Warren. His advice is right on the money. There is nothing wrong with trying to learn things about your future Dom and if it bothers him, then so be it. This is YOUR life you are making decisions for and you have every right to investigate. If the Dom complains that you dont trust him, so what? You dont. Why should you trust someone you just met online?? If he is worth anything he would encourage you to learn more about him. He will give you his phone number if he has nothing to hide. He will allow you a glimpse into his life.

Celeste makes some really valid points as well. LISTEN to your own internal alarm. I learned years ago not to ignore mine. If it smells like a fish, it is a fish, there is no getting around it. You can try to pretend it is a piece of cake, but you are only fooling yourself. Again, good luck. Try not to be so trusting next time. There is plenty of time later to put your trust in the person, it doesnt have to happen overnight.

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RE: Confused and dejected - 6/1/2006 9:32:32 AM

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I also think that chatting online for months without actually meeting face to face is not a good idea.

I'm not sure I completely agree with you on this one. I have friends online that I will most likely never meet face to face but that I trust emphatically. I've known people that I have never talked to online, only in person, and I don't trust them any further than I could throw them if my arms were cut off.

Honesty is honesty, whether it is face to face or a continent away.

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