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humiliateme596 -> HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/17/2011 10:53:13 PM)

Ok, so i am new to this whole lifestyle and i know this is what i want to do. I am looking to find a mistress or to start interacting with a mistress so i can be taught more properly. I honestly just do not know how to approach it like i thought i would. Coming into this i thought i would know what to do from all my previous online webcam chats (lol i was wrong). It is way different in the real world. Basically i am looking for advice from any one who is willing to help me. I want to know what things i could do to make me appeal more to a mistress or stick out more. What do you look for in a slave and what stands out to you more then others. Is it profiles? looks? or just randomness or who you choose?. Any mistress or any one with ideas that would help i would be very greatful, constructive criticism is fine with me


Thank you :)



mnottertail -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/17/2011 10:55:22 PM)

I told you read the FAQ here before you post in the last however many threads you posted. I bet this thread disappears too. Nevertheless....I am not going to say good luck cuz it aint gonna help you now.






humiliateme596 -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/17/2011 10:56:57 PM)

i did read them and i got it now thanks..



HeatherMcLeather -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/17/2011 11:28:44 PM)

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I am looking to find a mistress
That is the basis of your whole problem. Stop looking for a mistress and start looking for a woman you love. What will make you appealing to a Dominant woman are pretty much the same things that will make you appealing to any woman.

You are presenting yourself as a desperate one-dimensional bore who is fixated on his fantasies.



humiliateme596 -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/17/2011 11:47:44 PM)

Thanks for the feed back..i really am not trying to come off like that, but i have been trying to find a dominant woman, not to just fulfill any fantasy i have pent up or what ever but to also have other things as well. Its just it is hard to find that in the real world for me with out sounding desperate i guess. so what should i do to not sound like a desperate one-dimensional bore who is fixated on his fantasies. lol

thanks again for the response



HeatherMcLeather -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 12:17:28 AM)

Rewrite your entire profile. Tell them about you. The fact that you want to be controlled and dominated is pretty much covered in the word "submissive", so don't bother telling them how anxious and eager you are to serve. Instead talk about what you are studying, what your job is, what your goals in life are, what your hobbies are, the things you like to do to pass the time. Do you like to read? Who is your fave author? What sort of movies do you like? What type of music? Do you like Italian or Chinese? Are you a beer drinker or a wine drinker?

Hanners likes to put it this way "Tell me what we'll do when we aren't fucking."

Edit: And get rid of the cheesy screen name that screams "NEEDY". Close your entire account and start all over from the ground up, the only thing worth keeping from your present profile is the picture. It's a good shot.



humiliateme596 -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 12:35:58 AM)

lol..thanks a lot heather :) i really appreciate the help. What you said makes a lot of sense. I never really thought of it that way i guess i just had the stereo type view of it. I will redo my whole profile! thanks[8D]



GreedyTop -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 4:58:11 AM)

I love it when they pay attention :)



LadyHibiscus -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 5:27:00 AM)

Yeah let's see about the follow through!! SO far my efforts are 50-50 on the other side... I got one dude to change his deeply appalling profile pic, but the other one, there is essentially no hope. Oh, wait, there's another no-hoper... my odds are lesser. [:(]



GreedyTop -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 7:50:32 AM)

they do not see the wisdom that you offer, Hibbie, because they are too focused on TEH COCK.

*haz a sad for your wisdom being cast before swine*

Edited because first I ERASE letters, and now I added them...

BAD FINGERS!! bad BAD fingers!



LadyHibiscus -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 7:57:56 AM)

Honestly, Greeds, one dude wanted to kiss my feet in the STARBUCKS. Srsly?? Hello? INAPPROPRIATE. Sheesh. For some of these guys, i got nothing.



GreedyTop -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 8:02:02 AM)

holy crow!!

Jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeesh

talk about low class, clueless fucktards!



mnottertail -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 8:04:24 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Honestly, Greeds, one dude wanted to kiss my feet in the STARBUCKS. Srsly?? Hello? INAPPROPRIATE. Sheesh. For some of these guys, i got nothing.


No frappe? No nithin? No steamed milk dripped on them? WTF?



LadyHibiscus -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 8:05:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail


quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Honestly, Greeds, one dude wanted to kiss my feet in the STARBUCKS. Srsly?? Hello? INAPPROPRIATE. Sheesh. For some of these guys, i got nothing.


No frappe? No nithin? No steamed milk dripped on them? WTF?


Ronne, trust you to get to the heart of it!! NO!! No nice bevvie for me, just inappropriate behavior from HIM!



Hisprettybaby -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 10:09:37 AM)

His profile's still the same nine and a half hours later.



humiliateme596 -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 11:06:11 AM)

Thats because i did not jump on it right away. I have a life outside of this website i will do it later tonight i do not intend on keeping this. Thanks for the people who actually helped me instead of just using this to complain about things [:)]



Lockit -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 11:13:06 AM)

Maybe more would have been more... um... er.. supportive had they never seen your prior posts that are no where to be seen now.

You presented as you did, not much has changed and you expect us to tell you how to do what you have been trying desperately to do from day one? I think not. Live and learn kid. There is no better teacher than life itself and from our own mistakes. You keep making them and haven't learned yet and I am not basing this comment on your not changing your profile.

You haven't learned from any thread you have starting looking for a dominant. What, do you think you can just hit up a thread a few months later or every few months and no one will remember? You want a different response... act differently.



humiliateme596 -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 11:21:38 AM)

iv only been on this site for like a week you act like iv made soo many different things.. the only reason i made so many besides my original one is because they kept getting deleted because i did not read the FAQs. I just find it funny, if i have been here for months and have been as you say trying all the time i would understand where you are coming from. I admitted that i did not know how to approach this whole thing. Now i know a more proper way to do it but yea what ever its all good

thanks



mnottertail -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 11:23:01 AM)

and you still havent read the FAQS. You certainly missed the part on profiles, and you don't take good advice when offered --- and you asked for it, it wasn't given glibly.



Lockit -> RE: HELP WITH THIS! (need advice) (10/18/2011 11:27:30 AM)

No thread gets deleted because someone didn't read the FAQ's. It is suggested reading, not required. There was something wrong against TOS or message board rules to be deleted. 



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