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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 8:45:14 PM

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cry me a river

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 8:58:10 PM

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cry me a river

You seem to be crying your own.

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RE: submissive here - 10/18/2011 11:58:20 PM

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ORIGINAL: bitchdog4master

There is a married sub. male who wants to get together with me to explor his Dom side. I just have the impression that b/c he is a sub. to his wife that he does not have a Dom. side.
Would love some input as I am hesitant and feel it will be a disaster. I do not wish to be a teacher to him.
Thank you kindly

Ok, having read the rest of this rediculous thread I'll play devil's advocate here. Primarily since I'm on retainer...

It's important to define the dynamic, if he wants to be a Dominant to you, and not a top. Feel free to explore provided you are being responsible and that both your SO and his SO are comfortable with you two playing together. Set ground rules you can both adhere to, if sex is going to be involved, make sure all parties are aware of this and it does not interfere with your relationships as they stand. Use protection, no excuses. As for teaching him, you can can completely advoid this by being your naturally submissive self for him.

Be the submissive and see how he takes control. If he's got a Dominant side, he will take the reigns naturally. If he does not, then cut your losses. Being in a D/s relationship is fairly complicated when you have more than two people involved. It does not mean that you can not have a good relationship, you should be aware of the implications and be prepared for a difficult road. It might start out roses and turn to shit real fast. Be smart, do not get caught up in sub frenzy and do not let your desires overcome your common sense and judgement. Remember, that you are both married and have responsibilities outside of your kinky desires.

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RE: submissive here - 10/19/2011 4:08:24 AM

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Assuming all the RL complications of relationships are not an issue, if you want to give the guy an honest shot, give it a go, I mean what do you have to lose other than a bit of time and awkwardness? You don't have to commit to anything and if it doesn't pan out just tell him you're not feeling any chemistry there.

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RE: submissive here - 10/19/2011 8:15:34 AM

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Oh no. That'd be too easy. Plus then there couldn't be any sex involved.

ETA: You get a lot more gas money when there's rubbin' nubbins!!

Yeah, you could get a whole car payment.......

I own a Miata, so I couldn't do it for gas money. The $5 wouldn't do much beyond actually getting me a gallon and a half of gas.

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