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PeonForHer -> RE: Female but not male supremacy lifestyle option? (10/22/2011 10:25:06 AM)
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ORIGINAL: barelynangel
Actually, the OP has an interesting point. Why isn't there a male supremacy choice? Is there something wrong with male supremacy that people shouldn't actively HAVE such a choice in which to have interest? Is it because its what society is trying to negate or make less. Is it because its an assumption that if it's not female supremacy by choice its male supremacy by choice?
Why is female supremacy okay to actively be a choice? To me, while it can be seen as a concept of the norm, i think part of it is the way our world thinks is -- male supremacy should not be advocated because people have been fighting to negate it from our societies. So because it is the norm, it's also considered something to fight against.
It's never occured to me to notice what the OP has because for me male supremacy in relationships is the norm, because that is what i seek and enjoy.
But based on many people on this site, it shouldn't be assumed as a norm. That "equality" should be the assumed concept. I would think people would WANT Male Supremacy as a listing to show that it's not assumed. So why isn't it an option?
To me, outside of his implying its bullshit, its a valid question that could have turned into an interesting discussion. The fact people were making a joke about it, whinging about it, pointing to Gor as an option etc etc etc, shows a fear of it on some level, a if we don't allow the choice then the males won't get any ideas concept.
My hunch is that there are three main reasons why it's not listed as an option. First, and most important: 'male supremacy' isn't a common term in BDSM, unlike 'female supremacy'. Secondly, I do think there is at least some truth in the idea that males already *do* have supremacy (under some definitions of the word 'supremacy'). If that weren't the case, feminism would be redundant. Thirdly, from what I've seen, femsubs who see it as 'natural' that males (or their Doms, at least) belong to the 'supreme sex' so much take that idea for granted that they don't need a term for it. Likewise their male counterparts.
That said, I've also had the impression that male supremacists amongst Doms are obliged to be more modest and reticent about their beliefs. Part of this is because it's just not 'manly' to bellow about your strengths, but that's especially true these days. Female supremacists, though, don't have quite that cultural constraint. And it has to be said that whatever it is that makes females the 'supreme' sex hasn't, traditionally, been brilliantly obvious. Believers feel more of a need to point out the reasons for their belief. In doing so (and going back to my first thought) - they use the term 'female supremacy' time and again, as do their opponents. Thus the term 'female supremacy' gets yet greater currency in the BDSM community.
All just a hunch, like I said. Another hunch, though, is that most BDSMers, of whatever orientation, don't really care.
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