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cuddleheart50 -> Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 6:07:28 PM)

I recieved an email here this evening from a Dom who told me that he had been wanting to write me for a long time, but didn't because he thought the distance would be a problem.  But, he did change his mind and wrote anyway.  Do any of you other Dom/Masters find someone here that you find interesting and just don't write to them because of the distance?



CrappyDom -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 6:09:05 PM)

Of course.



feastie -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 7:24:42 PM)

Distance IS a problem for me.  I'm not sure that a couple can create a good relationship online with the occasional meeting and then one of them pull up and move to the other one.  Some have, I guess.  More power to them.  I am not able to relocate any time soon, if ever and I would feel badly about someone changing his whole life for me.  Guilty, I guess is a better term.



MstrTiger -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 7:41:36 PM)

I think distance is a problem even though I like to travel and I can really relocate at will, I tend to not express too much interest in slaves if they are not at least in Western Europe and even then I have to take language barriers into account also. Its not the thought of having long distance slaves that I have a problem with it is the amount of phaff involved in going to see them, also all the travel involved can be a tremendous drain on a slaves wallet. I also like to meet new slaves when I am at my most fabulous and not when I have just spent the entire day traipsing around massive sweaty airports consuming nothing apart from gin and cake all day because of flight nerves and because everything else in airports is usually inedible. I find it harder to dominate a slave when I have to depend on them for basic things like ordering food in restaurants because I cant read the menu because it is in the native language, I know I could do the “you will order the sea bass and then the apple thing that you said about before for me you pathetic slave hebitch” thing though frankly that is just not the same. I will end my pointless rant here since to continue it any further could be detrimental to my sanity and possibly also the sanity of people who actually read it.



TxBlkMistress -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 7:50:16 PM)

I definitely think distance is a problem.  With me, it has a lot to do with trust as well.  I get a lot that claim that if anything were to work out, that they could relocate.  Then one of two things usually happen:  one, they want to come to visit, just to meet...after a few minutes they are either hinting or just out and out asking for "samples" and try to guilt you because they came all that way and they think they deserve some kind of reward, of course, whether you do or don't, these are the ones that you never hear from again once they get back home.... or two, they are instantly in love and instantly want to move in with me...usually after about one or two emails....translation, they want a place to live and a paycheck to live off of.....LOL

I know I know I'm pretty jaded....lol  please forgive my rant  :>



cuddleheart50 -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 7:53:04 PM)

I just think it would be nice if they would at least say hello....even if there is no chance of a relationship.  At least you know someone is thinking about you. [:D]



TxBlkMistress -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 7:59:16 PM)

 
lol  you are right on that one cuddle.  might be nice for them if they would find out if I'm a serial killer or not first...lol



Sensualips -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 8:09:19 PM)

Yes.  For example, if CrappyDom were closer - I'd have definitely bagged him by now.



akisha -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 8:14:59 PM)

I tend not to message anyone out of country. and I'm even a little shy on the idea of more then a few hours away. But i have extending circumstances that make moving out of province let alone out of country ectremely difficult.
Add that to the fact that I'm a tactile beast and want/need direct contact more then twice a year *g* the whole super long distnce thing just does not make sense for me.



juliaoceania -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 9:29:24 PM)

I do not date outside of the state of California. Still, seeing as this state covers 10 degrees of latitude, that is still far. I am seeing someone that lives 5 hour car ride away... that to me is do-able, considering that finding someone like him to spend time with is a rare thing



littlemissub -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 9:41:16 PM)

I agree with juliaoceania.  I will date around 5 hours away if I consider them to be very much worth it.  But if I had to take flights and could only see them twice a year I don't think it would last.  I am a very physical and sexual creature and I could not be wholey (excuse the spelling, if I mispelled that word....or mispelled mispelled as well, lol) satisfied with that relationship.  I give props to the people who are able to do it and end up with successful relationships.  I honestly do not think I am a strong enough person at the moment.

I do often write or recieve messages from people who are either too far away to date or we would not romantically be compatible but yet we enjoy eachother company and conversation enough to stay friends.

I want to say though, without sounding too negative, beware of the Doms that throw that line out to somewho make you indebted to them or special in some way.  it is usually a manipulation tactic.  I know that one from experience.

Good luck though.




Lordandmaster -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/24/2006 10:01:16 PM)

Of course.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Of course.



fastlane -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/25/2006 12:01:22 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

Of course.

quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Of course.



And of Course ...  Again     Unless of course you can cum, cum and cum again!



spectreandnectre -> RE: Distance and Relationships (5/25/2006 1:10:31 PM)

Well distance can be quite the deterrent, but in some cases it works out.  i personally know that when He and i started out long distance that it would be just long enough to determine if W/we were truly compatible.  I am a live in submissive who moved 1300 miles to be with Him but only once i got to know the real Him.



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