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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 10:52:17 PM

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OP, if you answer yes to Lockits question, its front to back. Don't forget the toilet paper. Nobody enjoys shitty fingers.

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 10:54:10 PM

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I think you will find that for women that seek to dominate from a place of attraction or affection, there has to be chemistry in place, and that chemistry takes time to develop. If a woman is leaping right into offering/discussing domination out of the gate, in exchange for financial support or gifts, she's offering a transaction that you can accept or decline. A lot of men want/expect domination immediately, before any relationship is in place, so a lot of men jump at this type of opportunity. That doesn't mean you have to, nor should you, if you seek domination where the woman just does it because she finds it hot, and finds you hot.

But women who are into this, in that way, we generally aren't arbitrarily attracted to men and want to dominate them instantly. It's not IMPOSSIBLE (I have been known to get immensely insatiable and predatory and "go for" a guy based on sheer eye candy or body language and feeling frisky, but that's rare), but it's very much a right time/right place thing.

There's no quick road to engaging the interest of a dominant woman. You have to invest one way or another: Time, or money. Time it takes to get a woman intrigued and interested and ultimately attracted to you - or, money, to get straight to the BDSM if you feel that it's not as important to know she's into it for you. That's not to say some pay-for-play femdoms or tribute femdoms don't genuinely get off on what they are doing to you; but it's not quite the same as a woman dominating you out of sheer lust for you, which does not require any kind of tribute per se.

Not to further confuse the issue, but BDSM dating is like vanilla courting. Just because you may say you refuse to pay a woman to dominate you, doesn't mean a dominant woman doesn't often expect a minimal level of courtship; offering to pay for the coffee and desert on a lunch meeting (even if she refuses to let you), showing initiative in courtship either through creativity or romance, or being taken on a date, for example. But no more than what would be expected in a "typical" courtship, and of course, some women are more high maintenance than others.

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 11:01:56 PM

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thanks AAkasha :)
makes sense

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 11:02:40 PM

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Oh, LORD! I hope he's NOT talking about "freshTeenMaster" over on another forum!

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 11:04:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: Biggal596

thanks AAkasha :)
makes sense

And thank you for calming down and reading and understanding. Now, off to meet REAL folks, 'K?

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 11:09:56 PM

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 11:14:04 PM

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I have a feeling your information won't do a bit of good Lance but it was nice of you to try though.

You ol' cynic you. Actually it did help. A "thank you" just rolled into my CMail-box.

AND, y'all should read his profile! For a new-bie sub, it's pretty damn close to perfect! I did send him over to "stickies" at "Ask a Mistress."

I think we have a good'un.

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/19/2011 11:40:47 PM

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AND, y'all should read his profile! For a new-bie sub, it's pretty damn close to perfect!

I know, and who was it who gave him the advice he followed? **She asks while buffing her nails nonchalantly on her chest.**

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I think we have a good'un.

I think so too, that is if the haters and negative Nancys don't scare him away first. Hopefully he'll just learn to ignore them.

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/20/2011 3:35:36 AM

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I am sure it could be both but i see that some ask for a "tribute" and others seem to do it just because it is what they enjoy

Biggal,I feel confident that during the course of your social maturation you learned at least a few social graces as in a gift, perhaps just a dozen roses or book of poetry ($50.00) when arriving for your date. Then of course dinning dancing and drinking, (a few hundred dollars) and perhaps breakfast in the morning ($40.00)
Dating is not without cost, the question then becomes where do you get the biggest bang for your buck? It logical follows the pro and that is simply cost effective.

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RE: Tributes for *GAY* Masters ? - 10/20/2011 9:55:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

Let's make this string different than all those others. I've changed the title to be "Tributes for GAY Masters."

Are there men out there that would pay to have their "bi-curious" curiousity satisfied?

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/21/2011 8:23:56 AM

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Some people are negative all the time, my love.
They just like ranting because they have no life.
Look at the major ranters and how many posts they have.
I rest my case.

I was a Pro Domme, and met a man that I met on another site.
We saw each other in a non-professional arena and I was falling for him.

He broke my heart.

Not all Pro Dommes are "whores."
They are simply ATTRACTIVE women, who have compassion and are not old worn out rugs who couldn't get a man on a bet.

You are a nice looking young man.
I am sure you'll do just fine, my love.
Steer away from the negativity and rude comments.

Not everyone is a prune...some of us are full of life and love and it really pisses off the prunes.

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/21/2011 8:29:07 AM

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Actually, there are plenty of pro dominants who are middle aged, and not conventionally attractive. It's a world of folks.

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/22/2011 2:19:52 PM

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[fast reply]...and some of us have play partners that do not ask for tribute from us even though they are (or were) pro-Dommes to support themselves.

I have plenty of Pro-Dommes who are friends....and a few in the past were more than friends.... not one of them is or was what one poster offensively called a "whore". I have one friend who is a pro-Domme in her 60's, and she's got plenty of customers. Chalk one up for the seasoned plums! (she's no prune)

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RE: Tributes for mistress? - 10/22/2011 6:32:28 PM

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It can be one of two things. She could be a financial Domme, meaning she takes pleasure in dominating you for your financial assets or it could be that she is Pro-Domme who requires payment for her services. It doesn't mean she is a whore. If this kind of thing doesn't interest you than find a different Domme who is looking to play for free or who is looking for a long term sub.

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