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LadyHibiscus -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:32:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twistedom Psychologically I meant believed by professionals to be a cause or a factor. Wasnt stating as a fact but as a possibility. Who stands up for the kid being bullied? Not many because it's not them being harassed. I will say there are probably just as many overweight men as women here. I think had this been any other thread directed at a group of people like lesbians, gay men,underweight, bisexual, the other fetishes that are more common then most of you wouldn't have replied. Since you fit the topic you object. I have had multiple members of both sexes message me they didnt want to become part of the attacking fest but that they notice the trend too etc I am here to tell you that even though we can be a pack of savages when stupidity shows itself, we do not stand for bullying of ANY group here. If you had chosen to go after sissy maids, or D/lg relationships, or whatever, you would have been called on your bullshit. I stand against bullies. I did it on the playground when I was five years old, and I do it now.

kalikshama -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:37:13 AM)
quote: Is some slender attractive woman going to care what somebody says about heavy set women? Probably not. Doesn't really pertain to her. I'm not a waitress but stopped seeing a guy after he was rude to a waitress on our first date.

twistedom -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 9:50:13 AM)
Well that's awesome. You all can think what you want of me. Other members have show in this very thread that I'm not solo on this. I'm not saying most people maybe some but far from a few think the same things, have similar opinions if not worse. They choose not to bevocal about it. Is that any better? I have several friends who aren't the smallest people believe it or not. Yeah maybe I said a thing or 2 that are incorrect. The rape thing came out wrong I admit. Could clarify what i meant which you may not like either. Probably wouldn't matter as most of you have your opinions implanted. My post was simply a realistic question that obviously from some of the replies and prior threads has been thought of before. Call me what you want. I didn't make the posts before me discussing this and wont be the last to make one. My thread is what it is. I think you all are blowing it out of proportion as if it was titled let's rid the world of far chicks of something like that

GreedyTop -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 10:12:01 AM)
quote: I didn't make the posts before me discussing this and wont be the last to make one. sad, but true.

Arienos -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 10:42:23 AM)
quote: twistedom Vanilla Posts: 12 Joined: 11/13/2008 Status: online Well that's awesome. You all can think what you want of me. You do not need to defend your position against an armed camp that at the very best would not even equate to a nuisance; a collective group of tug wagging thugs misquoting your post and manipulated your words to meet their need to belong to something. If your e-mails are anything like mine its Obvious they have failed miserably.

kalikshama -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 10:47:50 AM)
If he can't be bothered to clarify, he shouldn't whine about being misunderstood.

GreedyTop -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 10:49:10 AM)
or if he backpedals in his attempt to clarify.. he shouldnt whine about being misunderstood.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 10:53:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Delilya I must admit some curiosity as to how many of the Twiggy camp men are over checking out the bodacious boobies thread. Mine are over there, but they wouldn't even be half their size if it weren't for body FAT.

kalikshama -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 10:57:06 AM)
quote: My post was simply a realistic question that obviously from some of the replies and prior threads has been thought of before. Call me what you want. I didn't make the posts before me discussing this and wont be the last to make one. Yes, we often get men starting complaining threads after being disappointed that this site does not deliver pussy on a platter as advertised on http://www.submissivewomensecrets.com/ (who knows the Domme equivalent?)

tiggerspoohbear -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 11:44:35 AM)
quote: http://www.submissivewomensecrets.com/ OMFG this has to be the funniest thing I've seen in a long time. And all for the low price of $19.99, including how to turn "dykes" into looking for Dominant men. [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]

Contentment -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 11:46:29 AM)
This is an interesting thread, though took a bit of time to read through. To the OP, yes, I think your question was not meant to offend. If it actually bothers you, there is a handy filter for that. If your just curious, here's my response: I personally don't list my weight because I'm sensitive that I will be filtered in a search out due to my height. I'm 6'6" and 220(+/- 10lbs)lbs (my weight varies, depending on diet and varied exercise levels, but pretty constant in that area of about 30lbs). That's average-slim given my height, but if someone is just trying to filter out "fat dues" I probably won't show up, hence not posting it. As a starting point you must understand that a 2d photo and stats are terrible representation of a person of any weight. It just doesn't capture the person very well. As for "fat" people on the site. I've was thinking about that one for a while. Had to re-define what fat looked like. There are some I encounter, which are overweight, but don't dwell on it. They're confident or charismatic, or just happy as they are, or perhaps, they just don't think about it that much. With these people, fat is more a minor personality trait, easily overlooked by their other traits. Those people aren't "fat" to me. I find a "fat" person is one that dwells on being fat. It's a constant thing that they are concerned with. They are too fat, or too sensitive about being "fat." This can ruin conversations and dominate their personality. These people are "fat" because it's always weighing on their mind. They don't have to actually be overweight to be fat, some are even underweight. There are many that would qualify as in between, or not really affected by this. It's my opinion and certainly subject to change. However, since photographs and stats don't really function for this, perhaps that's the issue. Beyond that, I suppose you just need to remember that this is an internet site. I think that's the key your missing. If I'm sitting at a computer, guess what I'm not doing? Is it exercise? Perhaps. Though I have, many times, considered getting a treadmill for my PC use. Certainly make typing hard...Other issue is I wouldn't get out as much, as I wouldn't have to leave home to exercise.

GotSteel -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 11:48:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HannahLynn quote: On the other hand, we occasionally have threads about the reasons people have the BDSM orientations that they do, and it seems the consensus is usually, nobody knows for sure. really? i would have thought it was fucking obvious why? we're fucking sick bastards, we're all fucked in the head, that's why. Wow....that doesn't sound like a terribly healthy self-image.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 11:48:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twistedom I really don't have time to go back and read 18 pages of replies Really you should try. There were a lot of good points made. Unless, of course, you don't care. and respond to those which were directed at me. Not all were. But some. Since my post It has made me think about the audience here of my post. I also don't have time to view each individual profile but would consider all the attacking defensive replies may fit into the body type I described. And why would that necessarily be? Is it because you can more easily dismiss some good points that were made just because some fatties made them? I care about bias and misconceptions being directed at people who are not fat white women in their 50s. Just because someone doesn't belong to a certain group, it doesn't mean they don't care how that group is treated. Is some slender attractive woman going to care what somebody says about heavy set women? Probably not. Doesn't really pertain to her. Maybe some here and there but as a whole no. See my previous comment. Ditto. It's kind of like going down by the Mexico border trying to tell people why they don't need to come to America, walking into police station and trying to convince officers of the law they violate citizens rights all the time even when there is proof all over the country every day. No, actually, it's not the same. Simply telling someone they don't need to come to another country is not the same as spreading misconceptions about rape and an entire group of people. Your not going to win. Oooooh. So that's the real point of this thread. You don't really want a discussion to satisfy your curiosity because you are "rather curious why this and other sites seem to be widely populated by those types of women," to use your own words. You just want to win, presumably by forcing everyone here to agree with your biases and misconceptions. So I have realized no group of BBWs, overweight, whatever term you prefer isnt going to just agree. I'm sure we won't agree with inaccurate biases and misconceptions. BBWs know themselves and their experiences better than you or any non-BBW ever will. I think a lot of things I said were taken out of context. I never said a big woman can't get anyone. I never said a big woman has no chance of being raped. I never said psychological problems. Everything was twisted around to the worst way it could be. Apparently mine wasnt the first post of this nature. I'm sure it won't be the last. True, you did not say a BBW could never get anyone, or that she has no chance of being raped. You did say "In everyday life in general a woman around 200 pounds isn't going to draw much attention from anyone who would actually force someone" and that's just wrong. You should have done your research better before touching that one. You said "Is it more of a fantasy to submit because its unlikely it would ever happen in real life." That implies that no one would want an overweight submissive. You implied that for BBWs to be interested in BDSM we must have psychological problems. I've got a newsflash. There are some thin to average among BDSMers that have some HUGE psychological problems. It's not just the fatter among us. quote: ORIGINAL: twistedom Who stands up for the kid being bullied? Not many because it's not them being harassed. I will say there are probably just as many overweight men as women here. Finally!! I think had this been any other thread directed at a group of people like lesbians, gay men,underweight, bisexual, the other fetishes that are more common then most of you wouldn't have replied. Since you fit the topic you object. I still would have replied, just because I am that kind of person. I don't like biases and inaccurate stereotypes perpetuated about any group of people. I have had multiple members of both sexes message me they didnt want to become part of the attacking fest but that they notice the trend too etc And we know that how? See, the problem is nobody here likes a bully, no matter what the topic is. It could be fat women, true vs fake, diaper play, or anything else, whether we personally like the topic or not. We can actually be nice people, most of us. We can actually have decent conversations and even be funny at times. But no one likes a bully or a know-it-all trying to force his/her opinions on everyone else.

kalikshama -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 11:51:14 AM)
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Contentment -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 11:53:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama Treadmill Desk [image]http://a248.e.akamai.net/origin-cdn.volusion.com/pu3sk.ugpv2/v/vspfiles/photos/Signature%209000%20Treadmill%20Desk-2T.jpg[/image] Awesome...Other idea was a console with 4 controllers and 4 treadmills. Each one linked up so it disconnects when they stop running. Then we all play a versus game. Reminds me of chess-boxing...

GotSteel -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 11:57:08 AM)
I've seen overweight women consistently underrepresented at the fetish events I gone to and vastly underrepresented at the fetish dance club I go to. I suspect that individuals who have to try harder to get a date (for whatever reason) are overrepresented at online dating sites and dating events, regardless of whether it's BDSM or vanilla. That would also explain why lesbians are overrepresented on collarme.

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 1:44:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus The medical profession sees fat first, and often goes no further. A dear friend died of cancer that was never diagnosed. His doctors saw a fat man, and looked for fat man things. My 400 pound friend has perfect bloodwork. I won't try to tell you that she has no issues due to her wight, but she is not not at risk for diabetes, heart disease, or stroke. First of all I want to say that I don't know your friend's situation so I won't comment directly on that. What I WILL say is that when a person is severely overweight it is POSSIBLE to miss a tumor simply because of the fat and the small size of the tumor. If that person does not display symptoms that point to cancer such as sudden unexplained weight loss, yes it CAN be missed. In the case of the person showing symptoms of other diseases yes the doctor will look for other causes first, it's the right thing to do. Tragically because of this the diagnosis of cancer can be delayed or even missed. It's sad and tragic but doctors are only human and yes they make mistakes. I'm not blaming the person for being fat, I'm not blaming ANYONE, I'm simply saying that mistakes do happen and yes the person being overweight can contribute to that. I so wish that were true... and it iS true that he had a very rare cancer that wouldnt have been detected more than likely, but when it had metastisized to his lungs FFS?? Yeah. He came in with shortness of breath, and was advised to stop smoking, when he had never smoked in his life. It was a total cluster. If you are fat, the medical community will blame your fat for everything, and be astounded at your good health. Until you get old and are just a waste of space like the other old folks. Ranty rant rant. My dear Miss Hibbie you haz teh mail!

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 1:46:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: Is some slender attractive woman going to care what somebody says about heavy set women? Probably not. Doesn't really pertain to her. I'm not a waitress but stopped seeing a guy after he was rude to a waitress on our first date. Yep, one of the easiest ways to see the character of a man. He doesn't treat wait staff well, buh bye Charlie.

Ninebelowzero -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 1:49:52 PM)
Is the OP Mr garrison or Mr Hat? Mmmmmmmmmmmmmok

BluMac -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 1:55:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: twistedom No offense to anyone or those who like those type of women just notice from profile to profile that there seems to be a large percentage of bbws. Very seldom is there a woman considered slender, thin, average or whatever. No I dont think I'm gods gift to women or whatever. Just kinda wonder if there's something psychological there. A lot of women here have those force/rape fantasies. In everyday life in general a woman around 200 pounds isn't going to draw much attention from anyone who would actually force someone. is that part of it? Is it more of a fantasy to submit because its unlikely it would ever happen in real life. Look at streakers in sports across the world. If its fairly attractive woman there's cheers and such. If they were overweight I'm sure many would say oh my cover them up. Again not attacking but just rather curious why this and other sites seem to be widely populated by those types of women I have to agree with twistedom, there's a definite saturation of bbw kink women out there, but you know, this is the same situation that appears on dating sites, like match.com and plentyoffish.com, the overweight women are essentially the only ones who respond to emails on those sites (most, not all, of the slender ladies are fake and put up there by the website). Anyway, that's probably why there's more bbw's out there into bdsm, simply because they receive less attention in real life, and so they are more drawn to find something on the net. I have no problem with it because I love thick ladies :) as long as the thickness is proportional, "with an itty bitty waist and a round thing in your face". hehe :)

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