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littlewonder -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 5:58:17 PM)
another topic gone to the playground

alexislave4u -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 7:09:39 PM)
OMG!! I haven't ever posted in these things. I usually just come for a few laughs. I couldnt resist. Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. I do understand women and men that can't do anything to fix their situation except maybe thousands in surgery. But theres plenty who just let themselves go so to speak. I have several girlfriends who dont take care of their body. They get men sure. But none of them have healthy relationships. Its always a revolving door. The desperate seek the desperate. It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? I lose count how many times a girl at the club is wearing something she has no buisness wearing. Dont dress like your hot if your not! The OP did say some cruel things. Some didnt make a whole lot of sense. Theres someone out there for everyone. Thats what I think. Some people do get frustrated at this site being their own real life playboy and playgirl modeling pics. Sometimes I just browse profiles and it does get disgusting sometimes. Its one thing to be fat and comfortable with it. It doesnt mean everyone else wants to see it flaunted like your a centerfold. I get messages from men and women...and yeah a large portion of them are fat. I don't think I am the the hottest girl here, but I am attractive. So to answer the OP, yes for some reason there are alot of overweight people here. its definately not my thing. The sad part is most could attempt to change it but choose not too.

NocturnalStalker -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 7:16:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u OMG!! I haven't ever posted in these things. I usually just come for a few laughs. I couldnt resist. Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. I do understand women and men that can't do anything to fix their situation except maybe thousands in surgery. But theres plenty who just let themselves go so to speak. I have several girlfriends who dont take care of their body. They get men sure. But none of them have healthy relationships. Its always a revolving door. The desperate seek the desperate. It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? I lose count how many times a girl at the club is wearing something she has no buisness wearing. Dont dress like your hot if your not! The OP did say some cruel things. Some didnt make a whole lot of sense. Theres someone out there for everyone. Thats what I think. Some people do get frustrated at this site being their own real life playboy and playgirl modeling pics. Sometimes I just browse profiles and it does get disgusting sometimes. Its one thing to be fat and comfortable with it. It doesnt mean everyone else wants to see it flaunted like your a centerfold. I get messages from men and women...and yeah a large portion of them are fat. I don't think I am the the hottest girl here, but I am attractive. So to answer the OP, yes for some reason there are alot of overweight people here. its definately not my thing. The sad part is most could attempt to change it but choose not too. I agree with a lot of what you said but you're going to be torn apart now by the delusional masses.

Lucylastic -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 7:23:40 PM)
my stretchmarks are the scars of my well lived life, Im comfy with them, I dont care about anyone else. I love tormenting the people who think they are so perfect, their souls are tattered, I feel sorry for them self respect cant come easy for them. and it sure as hell is a lot more superficial than anything I could say.

Lockit -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 7:40:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u OMG!! I haven't ever posted in these things. I usually just come for a few laughs. I couldnt resist. Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. I do understand women and men that can't do anything to fix their situation except maybe thousands in surgery. But theres plenty who just let themselves go so to speak. I have several girlfriends who dont take care of their body. They get men sure. But none of them have healthy relationships. Its always a revolving door. The desperate seek the desperate. It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? I lose count how many times a girl at the club is wearing something she has no buisness wearing. Dont dress like your hot if your not! The OP did say some cruel things. Some didnt make a whole lot of sense. Theres someone out there for everyone. Thats what I think. Some people do get frustrated at this site being their own real life playboy and playgirl modeling pics. Sometimes I just browse profiles and it does get disgusting sometimes. Its one thing to be fat and comfortable with it. It doesnt mean everyone else wants to see it flaunted like your a centerfold. I get messages from men and women...and yeah a large portion of them are fat. I don't think I am the the hottest girl here, but I am attractive. So to answer the OP, yes for some reason there are alot of overweight people here. its definately not my thing. The sad part is most could attempt to change it but choose not too. LOL.. okay, since no one wants to see the visible signs of motherhood and look at the disgusting display of aging womanhood... we will send all the whiny, bully types to your profile and let them look at you... then you can deal with them. One thing... you better find the fountain of youth and never have a baby. [;)]

OICU8Master -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:01:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep quote: ORIGINAL: OICU8Master I believe the underlying reason has been brought up, that they are willing to submit to humiliation or subservience because of low self esteem and I wonder if that reason means that BDSM might not be a healthy outlet for many overweight women. But since no discussion is allowed on this "taboo" subject, we may never get to truly examine what is going on both emotionally and psychologically. discussion is not accepted because it's never as objective as you want to think it is. even here, what you "believe" to be the real reason is based in bias and stereotypical assumptions about what "must be wrong" with overweight people -- but that's only because you believe those things must be wrong. you're assuming that thin women don't have self esteem issues -- otherwise, wouldn't this low self esteem rule then apply to anyone? you're assuming that overweight women do -- i know quite a few who are pretty proud of themselves and flaunt every single extra inch of what they've got. so are they into BDSM because of their low self-esteem? what about the thin women who are HUGELY into humiliation, and the fat women who abhor it and only want submission on their very specific terms? what about overweight Dommes and switches? you don't even understand that you are not objective because you are so absolutely convinced of the correctness of your bias. how do you have a conversation, if you don't believe you could possibly be incorrect? and finally, i see absolutely no man has even bothered to speculate at the motivations of overweight MEN. -- oh yeah, that's right, because in the immortal words of Peter Griffin, "Lois, men aren't fat, only fat women are fat." I disagree. I think the "bias" here is in the people responding to the observation, not the observers themselves. It is a valid observation afterall. And no man bothers to speculate at the motivations of overweight men because there has been no observation that a disproportionate number of overweight men are drawn to the BDSM lifestyle. Far from it, I've noticed fewer overweight men at the munches and events I've been to than is the norm and far MORE overweight women than is the norm. Like any good scientific analysis, the question isn't based upon bias, it's based upon observable, measurable FACT. The people reacting badly to the question are the ones who seem very biased. YOU are making assumptions, not me. YOU make the assumption that I assume thin women don't have self-esteem issues. I've never said any such thing. Nor do I make such an assumption. When I propose that the only theory for the prevalence of overweight women in the BDSM scene might have legs it's only because it IS the only theory that has been put forth. Everyone else who might add something of substance to this discussion is too busy ducking and weaving from the verbal assaults of the likes of you to put any in depth thought into the discussion.

searching4mysir -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:08:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OICU8Master quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep quote: ORIGINAL: OICU8Master I believe the underlying reason has been brought up, that they are willing to submit to humiliation or subservience because of low self esteem and I wonder if that reason means that BDSM might not be a healthy outlet for many overweight women. But since no discussion is allowed on this "taboo" subject, we may never get to truly examine what is going on both emotionally and psychologically. discussion is not accepted because it's never as objective as you want to think it is. even here, what you "believe" to be the real reason is based in bias and stereotypical assumptions about what "must be wrong" with overweight people -- but that's only because you believe those things must be wrong. you're assuming that thin women don't have self esteem issues -- otherwise, wouldn't this low self esteem rule then apply to anyone? you're assuming that overweight women do -- i know quite a few who are pretty proud of themselves and flaunt every single extra inch of what they've got. so are they into BDSM because of their low self-esteem? what about the thin women who are HUGELY into humiliation, and the fat women who abhor it and only want submission on their very specific terms? what about overweight Dommes and switches? you don't even understand that you are not objective because you are so absolutely convinced of the correctness of your bias. how do you have a conversation, if you don't believe you could possibly be incorrect? and finally, i see absolutely no man has even bothered to speculate at the motivations of overweight MEN. -- oh yeah, that's right, because in the immortal words of Peter Griffin, "Lois, men aren't fat, only fat women are fat." I disagree. I think the "bias" here is in the people responding to the observation, not the observers themselves. It is a valid observation afterall. And no man bothers to speculate at the motivations of overweight men because there has been no observation that a disproportionate number of overweight men are drawn to the BDSM lifestyle. Far from it, I've noticed fewer overweight men at the munches and events I've been to than is the norm and far MORE overweight women than is the norm. Like any good scientific analysis, the question isn't based upon bias, it's based upon observable, measurable FACT. The people reacting badly to the question are the ones who seem very biased. YOU are making assumptions, not me. YOU make the assumption that I assume thin women don't have self-esteem issues. I've never said any such thing. Nor do I make such an assumption. When I propose that the only theory for the prevalence of overweight women in the BDSM scene might have legs it's only because it IS the only theory that has been put forth. Everyone else who might add something of substance to this discussion is too busy ducking and weaving from the verbal assaults of the likes of you to put any in depth thought into the discussion. So are you saying that out of every 10 women at these events, only 1-2 are slim or average sized?

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:14:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u OMG!! I haven't ever posted in these things. I usually just come for a few laughs. I couldnt resist. Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. I do understand women and men that can't do anything to fix their situation except maybe thousands in surgery. But theres plenty who just let themselves go so to speak. I have several girlfriends who dont take care of their body. They get men sure. But none of them have healthy relationships. Its always a revolving door. The desperate seek the desperate. It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? I lose count how many times a girl at the club is wearing something she has no buisness wearing. Dont dress like your hot if your not! The OP did say some cruel things. Some didnt make a whole lot of sense. Theres someone out there for everyone. Thats what I think. Some people do get frustrated at this site being their own real life playboy and playgirl modeling pics. Sometimes I just browse profiles and it does get disgusting sometimes. Its one thing to be fat and comfortable with it. It doesnt mean everyone else wants to see it flaunted like your a centerfold. I get messages from men and women...and yeah a large portion of them are fat. I don't think I am the the hottest girl here, but I am attractive. So to answer the OP, yes for some reason there are alot of overweight people here. its definately not my thing. The sad part is most could attempt to change it but choose not too. Ditto /Awaits for the mass attack/

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:19:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: searching4mysir quote: ORIGINAL: OICU8Master quote: ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep quote: ORIGINAL: OICU8Master I believe the underlying reason has been brought up, that they are willing to submit to humiliation or subservience because of low self esteem and I wonder if that reason means that BDSM might not be a healthy outlet for many overweight women. But since no discussion is allowed on this "taboo" subject, we may never get to truly examine what is going on both emotionally and psychologically. discussion is not accepted because it's never as objective as you want to think it is. even here, what you "believe" to be the real reason is based in bias and stereotypical assumptions about what "must be wrong" with overweight people -- but that's only because you believe those things must be wrong. you're assuming that thin women don't have self esteem issues -- otherwise, wouldn't this low self esteem rule then apply to anyone? you're assuming that overweight women do -- i know quite a few who are pretty proud of themselves and flaunt every single extra inch of what they've got. so are they into BDSM because of their low self-esteem? what about the thin women who are HUGELY into humiliation, and the fat women who abhor it and only want submission on their very specific terms? what about overweight Dommes and switches? you don't even understand that you are not objective because you are so absolutely convinced of the correctness of your bias. how do you have a conversation, if you don't believe you could possibly be incorrect? and finally, i see absolutely no man has even bothered to speculate at the motivations of overweight MEN. -- oh yeah, that's right, because in the immortal words of Peter Griffin, "Lois, men aren't fat, only fat women are fat." I disagree. I think the "bias" here is in the people responding to the observation, not the observers themselves. It is a valid observation afterall. And no man bothers to speculate at the motivations of overweight men because there has been no observation that a disproportionate number of overweight men are drawn to the BDSM lifestyle. Far from it, I've noticed fewer overweight men at the munches and events I've been to than is the norm and far MORE overweight women than is the norm. Like any good scientific analysis, the question isn't based upon bias, it's based upon observable, measurable FACT. The people reacting badly to the question are the ones who seem very biased. YOU are making assumptions, not me. YOU make the assumption that I assume thin women don't have self-esteem issues. I've never said any such thing. Nor do I make such an assumption. When I propose that the only theory for the prevalence of overweight women in the BDSM scene might have legs it's only because it IS the only theory that has been put forth. Everyone else who might add something of substance to this discussion is too busy ducking and weaving from the verbal assaults of the likes of you to put any in depth thought into the discussion. So are you saying that out of every 10 women at these events, only 1-2 are slim or average sized? I don't think the reality of how bad it's truly become in Society (specifically the US) regarding weight has hit you yet. The BMI stats (on average) have climbed off the roof since the 90's. Some geographic areas it's very extreme and others not so extreme. BTW this applies to Men, Women and Children (not just women).

GotSteel -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:22:25 PM)
You're not talking about measurable fact, you're talking about anecdotal evidence. My personal experience disagrees with yours and you're not the only one putting forth anything: quote: ORIGINAL: GotSteel I've seen overweight women consistently underrepresented at the fetish events I gone to and vastly underrepresented at the fetish dance club I go to. I suspect that individuals who have to try harder to get a date (for whatever reason) are overrepresented at online dating sites and dating events, regardless of whether it's BDSM or vanilla. That would also explain why lesbians are overrepresented on collarme.

AdorkableAiley -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:25:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: searching4mysir Ailey - I did the Princess in February at DisneyWorld and the Disneyland this past September. Run Disney has a program if you do two halfs in one calendar year (one on each coast) you qualify for a third medal (the Coast-to-Coast). The one in my hand is from the Princess. Disney has the BEST medals....so cool. I liked the vibe at the Princess better than the Disneyland. Princess is all women (well kinda) and the vibe is more about the "personal best". I'm considering doing one more half marathon - the Wine and Dine. It is in FL in October every year. It is the only evening half and they have a heck of an afterparty at Epcot (during the International Food and Wine Festival). The route goes through Animal Kingdom and Hollywood Studios and finishes at Epcot. I've never been a good runner but I am working on that right now... If I have a fun goal like DISNEY!! I could so do it! Ailey

littlewonder -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 8:33:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u OMG!! I haven't ever posted in these things. I usually just come for a few laughs. I couldnt resist. Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. I do understand women and men that can't do anything to fix their situation except maybe thousands in surgery. But theres plenty who just let themselves go so to speak. I have several girlfriends who dont take care of their body. They get men sure. But none of them have healthy relationships. Its always a revolving door. The desperate seek the desperate. It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? I lose count how many times a girl at the club is wearing something she has no buisness wearing. Dont dress like your hot if your not! The OP did say some cruel things. Some didnt make a whole lot of sense. Theres someone out there for everyone. Thats what I think. Some people do get frustrated at this site being their own real life playboy and playgirl modeling pics. Sometimes I just browse profiles and it does get disgusting sometimes. Its one thing to be fat and comfortable with it. It doesnt mean everyone else wants to see it flaunted like your a centerfold. I get messages from men and women...and yeah a large portion of them are fat. I don't think I am the the hottest girl here, but I am attractive. So to answer the OP, yes for some reason there are alot of overweight people here. its definately not my thing. The sad part is most could attempt to change it but choose not too. I'm not going to agree or disagree with you. I'm just going to say I hit 40 in a few months and I'm doing everything in my power to keep looking as young as possible, be it with "miracle creams" surgery, keeping fit, eating right, etc....I kinda like being told I look 21 when I go out and people think me and my daughter are sisters lol. Imo if it's available to make me look good then hell yeah! I'm gonna take full advantage of it.

Hisprettybaby -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 9:32:58 PM)
Once again, I'm tackling more than one here because I only want to post once. quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker You just spent an entire topic defending the hardships of fat people and now you're mocking someone's sexuality by calling them gay. Listen, HE is the one who said: quote: ORIGINAL: hotlikeafox Say what you want, but when I've tried to get girls I know personally to come to bsdm clubs they all say the same things. The guys there are faggots and the girls are fatties in goth clothing. And they are right. So he just as much as said he's gay. He said he agreed with the girls who say that and he obviously goes to those clubs, or else why would he want THEM to go? I have absolutely nothing against gay people. I have multiple good friends that are either gay men or lesbians and I have no problems with that. quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? Yes, most of us women over 40 do look past it when seeing all the fat men over 40. But, from the sounds of this thread, most fat men over 40 don't look past it regarding women in their own age group. As for stretch marks and cellulite being gross, yeah, nobody wants to see it, but you had better hope to God/dess or whatever the hell you might believe in that you never have a baby or get any older than you are right now. Because, if you do either, you will be eating your words. quote: ORIGINAL: OICU8Master no man bothers to speculate at the motivations of overweight men because there has been no observation that a disproportionate number of overweight men are drawn to the BDSM lifestyle. Far from it, I've noticed fewer overweight men at the munches and events I've been to than is the norm and far MORE overweight women than is the norm. Like any good scientific analysis, the question isn't based upon bias, it's based upon observable, measurable FACT. You mean YOU haven't observed a disproportionate number of overweight men at these functions. Just how often do you check out the men at these functions, paying attention to how attractive they are and so on? Probably not very often, since you're looking for submissive women, not men. I see plenty of fat men at BDSM functions AND I see plenty of fat men on here and on Fetlife both. I'm a switch and now I have a Dom, but I haven't always had one, so I've looked at men on BOTH sides of the kneel and, yeah, there are fat male subs AND fat male Dominants. And plenty of them.

OICU8Master -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/26/2011 10:50:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hisprettybaby Once again, I'm tackling more than one here because I only want to post once. quote: ORIGINAL: NocturnalStalker You just spent an entire topic defending the hardships of fat people and now you're mocking someone's sexuality by calling them gay. Listen, HE is the one who said: quote: ORIGINAL: hotlikeafox Say what you want, but when I've tried to get girls I know personally to come to bsdm clubs they all say the same things. The guys there are faggots and the girls are fatties in goth clothing. And they are right. So he just as much as said he's gay. He said he agreed with the girls who say that and he obviously goes to those clubs, or else why would he want THEM to go? I have absolutely nothing against gay people. I have multiple good friends that are either gay men or lesbians and I have no problems with that. quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? Yes, most of us women over 40 do look past it when seeing all the fat men over 40. But, from the sounds of this thread, most fat men over 40 don't look past it regarding women in their own age group. As for stretch marks and cellulite being gross, yeah, nobody wants to see it, but you had better hope to God/dess or whatever the hell you might believe in that you never have a baby or get any older than you are right now. Because, if you do either, you will be eating your words. quote: ORIGINAL: OICU8Master no man bothers to speculate at the motivations of overweight men because there has been no observation that a disproportionate number of overweight men are drawn to the BDSM lifestyle. Far from it, I've noticed fewer overweight men at the munches and events I've been to than is the norm and far MORE overweight women than is the norm. Like any good scientific analysis, the question isn't based upon bias, it's based upon observable, measurable FACT. You mean YOU haven't observed a disproportionate number of overweight men at these functions. Just how often do you check out the men at these functions, paying attention to how attractive they are and so on? Probably not very often, since you're looking for submissive women, not men. I see plenty of fat men at BDSM functions AND I see plenty of fat men on here and on Fetlife both. I'm a switch and now I have a Dom, but I haven't always had one, so I've looked at men on BOTH sides of the kneel and, yeah, there are fat male subs AND fat male Dominants. And plenty of them. So you're contending that the vast majority of people drawn to BDSM period are overweight? I, personally, haven't observed that at all.( I don't know why you think I have to be "checking someone out" to notice if they're overweight or not. I cannot help but SEE with my own eyes when I meet someone whether they are overweight or not). But if what you say is true, then that's an interesting observation as well. Any idea why a disproportionate amount of overweight people are drawn to BDSM? EDIT: counted out 100 personals at TSR that had their BMI listed. 40 had BMI's over 30, which is obese. The national average for obesity is 26%. So there are a disproportionate number of obese women listed on TSR. However, in an odd quirk, there are only 20% of the women listed with BMI's between 25-29.9 ie, overweight, but not obese. This means that overall, there are LESS overweight women represented on TSR (60% compared to the national average of 63%), but more obese women represented (40% compared to the national average of 25%). 15% of the women on TSR were underweight, but I don't have the national average for underweight women readily at hand. I'm going to redefine the search parameters to look for men and see what I come up with. Men, on the national average are slightly more likely to be obese than women (27% to 25%) SECOND EDIT: Only 12% of the men listed on TSR were obese compared to the national average of 27%. 32% were overweight. Of those, many were barely overweight with BMI's of 25.1-.25.5. This compared to the national average of 38% overweight, but not obese. So men on TSR who are overweight/obese are 44%, well below the norm of 63%. Obese men are WAY below the norm and obese women are WAY over the norm. That coincides with my own personal observations. The question remains: why is that true? What does it mean? I don't pretend to know, but I find it interesting to wonder why. btw, my own BMI? Crawling up to 29.3 I better start eating more fruits and vegetables!

TheFireWithinMe -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/27/2011 3:08:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit quote: ORIGINAL: alexislave4u OMG!! I haven't ever posted in these things. I usually just come for a few laughs. I couldnt resist. Lets face it. Almost everyone who responded to this thing is over 40 from looks of it. They say looks fade and all that. Maybe its common middle aged women look past it all. I do understand women and men that can't do anything to fix their situation except maybe thousands in surgery. But theres plenty who just let themselves go so to speak. I have several girlfriends who dont take care of their body. They get men sure. But none of them have healthy relationships. Its always a revolving door. The desperate seek the desperate. It is kinda gross. I mean who wants to see stretch marks, cellulite, etc? I lose count how many times a girl at the club is wearing something she has no buisness wearing. Dont dress like your hot if your not! The OP did say some cruel things. Some didnt make a whole lot of sense. Theres someone out there for everyone. Thats what I think. Some people do get frustrated at this site being their own real life playboy and playgirl modeling pics. Sometimes I just browse profiles and it does get disgusting sometimes. Its one thing to be fat and comfortable with it. It doesnt mean everyone else wants to see it flaunted like your a centerfold. I get messages from men and women...and yeah a large portion of them are fat. I don't think I am the the hottest girl here, but I am attractive. So to answer the OP, yes for some reason there are alot of overweight people here. its definately not my thing. The sad part is most could attempt to change it but choose not too. LOL.. okay, since no one wants to see the visible signs of motherhood and look at the disgusting display of aging womanhood... we will send all the whiny, bully types to your profile and let them look at you... then you can deal with them. One thing... you better find the fountain of youth and never have a baby. [;)] ...and make sure your metabolism never goes wonky. Gee aren't the young ones cute, Lockit. So confident that they will always be as they are now. So confident that we older ones never get any, that our bodies are unattractive. <sigh> the naivite of youth.

Arienos -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/27/2011 3:31:49 AM)
OICU8Master: Although the data you shared is interesting and informative I fail to see where its relative to one's choice to introduce blubber into one’s life. I don’t drink Coors or Budweiser Beers, not because I don’t like the taste of beer, but more that I like martinis better, there is nothing bigoted or prejudice about it, it’s simply I enjoy martinis more. (A choice) So too it is I prefer a size six to a three x. It’s simply a choice and matter of preference. Making more of it only serves to afford those that fail to recognize personal and individual choice a platform for collective thinking and clumsy attempts to insult.

kiwisub12 -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/27/2011 4:00:32 AM)
You talking about blubber is the equivilant to calling all beer drinkers "red-necks" or "uneducated bubba" - because you don't like beer. Instead of saying you like slim women, why do you talk about "blubber"? One is hurtful, one is a persoanal preference. Perhaps you might choose your words more carefully. On the other hand, since your avatar seems to be a young Arnie, maybe you have issues in that direction yourself? Who knows?

xxblushesxx -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/27/2011 5:11:25 AM)
I took the night to think about this. Your name is insulting. Your thoughts are inane. And you have the nerve to say on your profile that with age comes wisdom? Along with that wisdom you're apparently waiting for come lots of other not so fun things; wrinkles, stretch marks, (especially if you've had babies) weight...all kinds of "disgusting" to borrow another superficial poster's word, things. Does the guy in the picture know you're using his likeness to post as an absolute uncouth ass? Because surely noone with the wisdom you say you gained would put their own image up and do and say such ignorant things. And btw...someone did propose some answers to the question besides your reasoning that the ladies who are over-weight are flawed and unwanted so they "demean themselves" in order to find a partner. I suggest you re-read the answers. Specifically the ones that say things like many ladies started off in wiitwd as thin young ladies. Time has taken it's toll on many of us, on some of us our bodies, and in others (apparently) our minds. You should really work on that. It's extremely unattractive.

MariaB -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/27/2011 5:41:14 AM)
alexislave4u Youth is a wonderful thing. Unfortunately it doesn’t last, not for any of us and the funny thing is, as you get older you don’t stop feeling young. You still have that element of youthfulness inside you. You will relate to these word’s as you get older. Age is a cruel disease that gets us all if we survive long enough. Vanity is something that will destroy you if you are unable to accept the aging process. The wonderful thing about the BDSM and the fetish world is, there is no age or weight restriction. Nobody looks at you funny because your twenty years older than them. Nobody says your too old or too fat to be doing this or if they do then they are in the wrong department. Its not just a scene for the young and beautiful, it’s a scene for everyone. I’m so glad my 20 year old fet friends don’t think like you do and that they realize this isn’t just their world but my world too. Last year I was ill and looked and felt like shit. I lost most of my hair and I couldn’t swim or play squash. I felt self conscious and ugly when I was out and about but the one place I felt ultimately at home was amongst my BDSM and fet friends because those are the people who didn’t judge me on my looks. Weight has no bearing on age and neither does cellulite or stretch marks. I’m 5ft5’ and weigh just over 100lbs. Apart from being pregnant, the most I have ever weighed is 120lbs but I have the scars of stretch marks forever on my hips and I got those during my growing spurt at 17. I have seen cellulite on very skinny women and I have seen big women with no cellulite at all. My sixteen year old niece was crying to her mum the other week because she’s breaking out in stretch marks. She’s a tiny little thing, like a sparrow but the cruel acts of nature haven’t spared her.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Are overweight women drawn to this lifestyle? (10/27/2011 5:48:45 AM)
I'm very curious about something. The people here who are extremely outspoken about "blubber" and "fat" and "nasty" and "gross"...do none of you have friends or family...people you love...who are over-weight? Do you have a mother, grandmother or sister who could stand to lose some? A friend you've known and cared about forever? If so, would you say these things to them? Would you tell them that they're desperate and need to demean and/or debase themselves because no one will ever want them for who and what they are? Or is it only on an anonymous message board you let your true colours come out? What would your loved ones' reactions be to the venom spilled here if you turned it on them?

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