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sex drive while master is away - 5/24/2006 9:35:35 PM   
srllile7


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Status: offline 		okay so i am brand new to bdsm i have had a couple of visits with my master and am totally in love with bdsm.  I never knew pain was soo good.  however that is not why i am posting.
My problem is now my sex drive, lust whatever youd like to call it has gone crazy.  My master wont be able to visit again for 2 weeks.   How do others in the position handle this?  I mean im really going crazy and all the masturbating in the worlds doesnt help.  I am still craving the things my master provides me that i can not, pain , force his hands gipping my hair etc the list can go on.
Also does this continue, am i now destined to be craving something 24/7 or is just my reaction to the new excitment?  Thank you for any help and opinions on the matter. 
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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/24/2006 9:48:24 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		Its called sub frenzies hun and it is very real, and many of us have went through it. Just know it is normal, accept how you feel and know it will not last forever. It will get better. I went through it too...smiles

http://www.albanypowerexchange.com/Lifestyle/sub_frenzies.htm

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/24/2006 9:52:27 PM   
tangldupinblue


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Status: offline 		i've been a sub for more then twenty years and am still going thru it. it helps both me and Daddy for me to keep a notebook and i write down everything that keeps up and wet all night. it helps me purge the feelings and he loves to read my version of porn.

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/24/2006 10:35:00 PM   
FloridaISIS


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Joined: 5/15/2006
Status: offline 		I 've served two Doms in the past, and yes, you can go into sub "frenzy", and oh what a frenzy it can be. Doms have a way of not only touching the loins, but darn how they can get so deeply into your mind, heart and soul. You crave their voice, the way they look at you that totally melts you to your core, the feel of their hands upon us. The way they can totally and completely leave us putty in their hands. Their voice haunts our dreams and every waking moment. Yes, they do leave us so frenzied it almost drives us mad.  

The way they work their magic over us is amazing. Got to love a Dom; they know just how to get right to the core of the matter, and my how quickly and imperceptibly they get there. 
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it helps both me and Daddy for me to keep a notebook and i write down everything that keeps up and wet all night. it helps me purge the feelings and he loves to read my version of porn.

blue

The journal is a wonderful idea if you're not already keeping one, but I'd ask your Dom first just to make sure. More thank likely he'll love reading about the exact effect he's having on you. Might make for some delicious new scene ideas if you let your mind wander wherever it takes you.
Embrace it, and yes, in time it will ease a bit. The ride is sweet enjoy it all you can.
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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 12:25:33 AM   
MsMacComb


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quote:

ORIGINAL: srllile7

okay so i am brand new to bdsm i have had a couple of visits with my master and am totally in love with bdsm.  I never knew pain was soo good.  however that is not why i am posting.
My problem is now my sex drive, lust whatever youd like to call it has gone crazy.  My master wont be able to visit again for 2 weeks.   How do others in the position handle this?  I mean im really going crazy and all the masturbating in the worlds doesnt help.  I am still craving the things my master provides me that i can not, pain , force his hands gipping my hair etc the list can go on.
Also does this continue, am i now destined to be craving something 24/7 or is just my reaction to the new excitment?  Thank you for any help and opinions on the matter. 
 

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 1:29:08 AM   
Sirandlittle1


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Status: offline 		Ive been in a frenzy for 18mnths. And everytime i begin to settle, he cranks it up outta my comfort zone, and off i fenzy away again.
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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 3:58:08 AM   
shivvy


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Status: offline 		like has already been said hunny, i think most of us go through it, and like most, i think it stays with you so some extent... it has me, and i still crave for it after 4 years

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 4:51:58 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		Welcome to being a slave. I was in same collar for 18 years and this never went away. I am now collared again and there are times looking at either of my owners i want to scratch the walls and scream. I am not Gorean by any stretch of the imagination yet this quote from a Gor book says it all;

The misery of a slave is their passion; the joy of a slave is their passion.

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 5:02:24 AM   
smilezz


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Status: offline 		I wish i could offer you some advice that would be the end all to the question.  I can't.  What i can offer is to let you know that it's perfectly normal and personally i don't think most get over that sub frenzy feeling.
Thorns and i have been together for over five years now, it has never gone away, there is nothing that satisfies that ache other than Him.  How do i deal with it?  i keep busy and look forward to when He comes home.  It's going to be a rough one for the next 18 months.  Gaaawwwddd.   *chucklez*

Happy Thursday!

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 6:45:59 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		You could always ask to be allowed to have sex with others when you want.

It's not the same, but it could help.

Otherwise, just give it time.  Distance gaps are always hard.

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 7:57:56 AM   
ownedgirlie


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ORIGINAL: twicehappy

The misery of a slave is their passion; the joy of a slave is their passion.


I love the quote. 

I have belonged to Master for 2 years.  I see him one to two weekends out of the month, and get to talk to him almost daily.  The ache does not go away.  It used to cause me great angst.  I would miss him and crave him so much I could scream and go out of my mind.  I have now come to enjoy the ache.  It makes me feel him.  The painful, tormenting, agonizing, delicious yearning which can turn me into a writhing animal when not even in his presence, helps me to draw from him and feel even closer to him.   On some days that are particularly difficult (work issues, family issues, etc.) I will sometimes climb into bed and meditate on him, masturbate myself to the edge of orgasm (I am not allowed orgasms unless he orders them), and simply FEEL him.  It is a sweet and painful experience, but he does love my journals afterwards...

I agree with the others who say when the bond is that strong, these feelings do not go away - rather, they become more intense.  Learn to draw from them, and to be grateful for the closeness you feel toward your owner.

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 9:29:42 AM   
srllile7


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for the reassurance.  hehehe as im sure yall know in the beginning there are so many emotions and things going on its nice to know this is a normal thing. 
   Yes i have been told i can ask permission to have sex with others but at this point i dont really want to.  First for the sheer fact that i do just want to be with Master but secondly becausei dont think reagular vanilla  sex would fill the craving.
     Thank you all again for the advice.  It again is very helpful.  I wasnt expcting this many feelings and thus so early on hehehe lol but it seems ive asked for them and now got them all. 

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 9:48:17 AM   
juliaoceania


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From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow
Status: offline 		Hmmmm perhaps I am not normal compared to other subs, but I had my frenzies calm down from barely able to function in my life down to a dull ache. When I went through that I could barely walk through the store without something reminding me of him and making me zone off into partial subspace feeling. I would not want that feeling around all the time, I would not find that desireable....I have things to do, things to focus on, and other interests besides being actively submissive sexually...lol. I found sub frenzies to be unbearbable... Like sitting there and having my nipples get rock hard outta no where and it is 95 degrees outside is really not pleasant...lol.

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 11:02:29 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		I think that while the Master's away the subbies should play

I also think that anything new will have all of us in a Frenzy, however like Julia stated over time the frenziness softens (Just the frenziness, mind you!) and then the real test begins.

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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 1:24:17 PM   
spectreandnectre


Posts: 401
Joined: 3/20/2006
From: nebraska
Status: offline 		i live with Master but He also does have trips that He does for the military and anyone who knows me can say that i too have a hard time.  These Masters have a wonderful way of implanting their minds in your own, i want Him even more when He is gone and go virtually crazy till He returns, i am not allowed to masterbate without permission so it makes it even more intense but i love when He comes home and W/we have that first time so to speak its worth it to me but to each their own.  What works for me may not work for you.


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RE: sex drive while master is away - 5/25/2006 5:23:15 PM   
SweetEscravo


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Status: offline 		Oh god do I know what you mean.  And the thing I hate is the fact that you can't fix it yourself...

This is perfectly normal.

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