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Why is that - 10/22/2011 8:40:48 AM

yournewmasterxxx

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Alot of women ask men to write long reply....Why don´t they anwser on this replay ? A "no" will do.
Why do women have to say in there profile" read it all before you send me a message". I think it is rude to not read it all before you send a message.
I think it is general politeness, to send a polit message to someone you dont know. Just because someone want to be a sub/slave they don´t want rude message....You can be rude, if they want to be you sub/slave, and they want you to be rude.
Sometimes other men make me embarrassed to be a man. Many so-called master/doms make me embarrassed. Why don´t use some time to find out what you are looking for, and make a proper profile and anwser, to people who is looking for what you are search for.

Maybe it´s just me

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 8:46:55 AM

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um..huh?

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 8:50:47 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

um..huh?

Duh it makes perfect sense. Read his profile---Pa Ingalls was a Dominant.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:05:13 AM

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no answer IS an answer. You wrote. They weren't attracted to you. They didn't feel a need to write back only to be told they are a fake or fat or a bitch.

Just because you write a long email or what you think is thought provoking doesn't mean anyone has to write you back.

Shrug it off and move along.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:09:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

quote:

ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

um..huh?

Duh it makes perfect sense. Read his profile---Pa Ingalls was a Dominant.

Good grief, I got as far as "submission is a gift", that and his name are enough to make me sure that he and I aren't compatible.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:29:56 AM

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pfffttt...he was a slave to Ma Ingall's pussy.

I mean, how many kids did they have?

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:34:41 AM

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quote:

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no answer IS an answer. You wrote. They weren't attracted to you. They didn't feel a need to write back only to be told they are a fake or fat or a bitch.

Just because you write a long email or what you think is thought provoking doesn't mean anyone has to write you back.

Shrug it off and move along.

I have never in any of my letters said that anyone was a fake, or what evere. I allways think that people say the truth, but if you have used some time to write a letter, a anwser will be the right thing to send, even a "no thanks"

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:35:01 AM

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Bunny? did ya get the fuzzy yet? *hopes*

on topic: submission is a gift? REALLY? may I please have a toaster? oh wait, I have one.. ok, how about a new microwave?

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:41:31 AM

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I have never in any of my letters said that anyone was a fake, or what evere. I allways think that people say the truth, but if you have used some time to write a letter, a anwser will be the right thing to send, even a "no thanks"

Why? Just because someone has taken the time to write doesn't mean they are entitled to a response.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:43:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: yournewmasterxxx

[s said that anyone was a fake, or what evere. I allways think that people say the truth, but if you have used some time to write a letter, a anwser will be the right thing to send, even a "no thanks"

You misunderstood what Littlewonder said.

Experience has shown that if you write back to some people with a 'no thanks', you are very likely to get an abusive message back.

Therefore some of us who get messages from people who are clearly not compatible, or haven't read our profiles, or whose messages just don't interest us, we just don't respond.

No reply IS a reply. It says 'no thanks' very clearly.

And GT - no fuzzy

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 9:58:43 AM

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Greeds has a TOASTER!!! ~memories~

And yeah, no answer = answer. We've been down this road many times on the boards. Why should any of us risk the very savage backlash that so olften happens? A "no thanks" reponse generates a "ur a fat stupid cunt" response more often than not, or is seen as an opening for explanation of WHY the writer is such a catch.

Isn't this happening now on ask a master? Men can really be attention whores. How often do them women complain about not getting responses? Plenty of US write letters into space too!

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 10:05:15 AM

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OP, there's also the fact of the profile pic you have chosen. Not many women want to see another woman's pic on a male Dominant's profile. Why? Because we don't care to see what you did before, whether or not you were given permission by the woman to post said picture, and don't want to show up as your next profile pic. So send as many c-mails as you want. Not everyone will respond or want to. It's like getting junk mail at home, you can either look through it all or dispose of it because you know it holds no interest. It's not like you send a polite letter to every company that offers you a credit card you're not interested in. If you do, then there's more serious issues that need to be addressed than whether or not someone took the time to answer you.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 10:20:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Greeds has a TOASTER!!! ~memories~

And yeah, no answer = answer. We've been down this road many times on the boards. Why should any of us risk the very savage backlash that so olften happens? A "no thanks" reponse generates a "ur a fat stupid cunt" response more often than not, or is seen as an opening for explanation of WHY the writer is such a catch.

Isn't this happening now on ask a master? Men can really be attention whores. How often do them women complain about not getting responses? Plenty of US write letters into space too!

Ok, I think I understand...Thanks

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 10:23:48 AM

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Having read a good part of your profile, your lack of responses could be that you seek online only. The majority of folks are looking for an 'in person' D/s relationship.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 10:47:26 AM

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because most of the time when I reply with a 'no thanks' they continue to message me wanting to convince me that we should spend some time getting to know each other. Or I had one the other day that sent me a long rambling message that said I couldn't possibly form an opinion of our compatibleness from his profile and first (copy and pasted) message alone and that because of my attitude I would thus be single and on collarme forever. Block button is great for this.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 11:02:16 AM

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Why you don't always get answers to your letters:

1. A lot of people don't do online. Either they never did or else they don't anymore for various reasons. I don't.

2. A lot of women don't like to see a woman or even somebody else's tits on a guy's profile. They'd rather see HIM, or at least not her or her tits.

3. A good chunk of guys, Doms and submissives alike, will not read the woman's profile. If he can't even take the time to read a profile to see what she's really looking for, why should she answer him when he's obviously not it?

4. Sometimes, a decent percentage of the time actually, if a woman does send a nice reply as to her reasons for not being interested in going any further, guys will (a)call them rude & insulting names or (b)continue to push for their agenda. If we're not interested, frickin' move on already.

5. You may have written a long letter, but what was it about? You as a person? Or was it all about sex and kink? That will make a difference in what kind of reply you get, or even if you get a reply at all.

6. Some women get scheissloads of mail so, if any of the above-mentioned are the case, why answer it? Also, maybe she's just overloaded with mail so, it's nothing personal, but maybe she only answers the ones that really catch her eye.

I do have to say, though, it's nice to see right upfront someone's definition of what submissive vs slave means to him. That way the reader doesn't have to wonder. Whether the reader agrees with the definitions or not, they know what you mean.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 11:10:38 AM

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quote:

Greeds has a TOASTER!!! ~memories~

memories I'd prefer to forget, but I CANT , because, dammit, a toaster is USEFUL!!

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 11:57:19 AM

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Maybe they just don't care enough to reply. They probably also don't care you're offended by their apathy.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 12:48:47 PM

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ah fuck, here we go again.

quote:

Why don´t they anwser on this replay ?

because they don't fucking want to.

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A "no" will do.

actually it won't, 7/10 times a "no" will cause an insult, an accusation of being a guy, a torrent of rants as to why he is perfect for you, or any number of other annoying bullshit tactics. it's just a fuck of a lot easier to just fucking delete and ignore.

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Why do women have to say in there profile" read it all before you send me a message". I think it is rude to not read it all before you send a message.

lets put it this way. we are 4 lesbians in a poly relationship and our profilees don't have anything listed in the "seeking" section. yet we all <except me - finally a benefit for being a switch!!> get several emails a day from men. cheri and heather get the dom men writing them, and all three get the sub men writing them. the reason we say "read the whole profile" is because a huge number of men just don't even start to read the fucking profile at all!!!

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I think it is general politeness, to send a polit message to someone you dont know. Just because someone want to be a sub/slave they don´t want rude message....You can be rude, if they want to be you sub/slave, and they want you to be rude.

fine bucky, but here's the deal. you get 20 emails. you write 20 polite refusals. the next day you get 20 new emails, and of yesterday's 20, 15 write back to keep pestering you. so you write 35 polite refusals. and the next day you get 20 new emails, and of yesterdays 35, you get 25 writing back, now you're up to 45 fucking polite refusals - this exponential effect continues fucking indefinitely.

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Sometimes other men make me embarrassed to be a man.

and a lot of men make me fucking ashamed to be human. so do a lot of women. face it, most people are fucking worthless scum. deal with it.

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Why don´t use some time to find out what you are looking for, and make a proper profile and anwser, to people who is looking for what you are search for.

because they are dominant men and like many of that particular species have a baseless sense of self entitlement and feel the fact that they have an interest in you should be enough to cause you to fall to your knees and worship their whiny pathetic little asses and tiny little cocks. <i'm not fucking kidding, i had a dom send me a pic of his dick, it might have been 5" long and maybe 1/2" thick. he was offering to stretch and "destroy" my holes with it.

ooo i'm afraid, sorry buckweat, heather's hand is bigger than that.>.

there ya go stumpy, thanks for fucking asking.

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RE: Why is that - 10/22/2011 4:15:05 PM

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Op, you may not send back a "your (sic) too fat to fuck" when someone says no thanks. Unfortunately about 20% of men will send that or worse when rejected. But they don't do so when they get no reply. So yes, you are paying for other mens mistakes.

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