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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/26/2011 4:40:14 PM

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Happy it worked out for you Traci.

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/26/2011 9:59:07 PM

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For the most part, this is a great group of folks. You won't get a lot of sympathy, but you will get a wide variety of mostly very good advice. Glad you could appreciate the time and effort people gave to you and your success. Take the positive, ignore what you perceive as negative and you will do well.

This is not the pond for women who like girlie boys, however, they do exist. Otter gives excellent advice.

For my own 2 cents...I wasn't necessarily looking for a girlie boy, but I was open-minded. I embrace all of who Otter is, because of who he is.....if that makes sense. It is not just because of this trait or that trait....it is the sum of his whole person. Strive to show yourself as whole and balanced, and you will also find the quality connection you seek.

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/27/2011 12:54:27 AM

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Hanna and Emily why did you need to attack someone
new who ask no begged for your help? Was it a power
trip gone nuts! As dominant woman there is not need to attack to show
you have power over another! just becasue it sounds funny it is just plain old bullying
I thought you two were teens the way you acted! It reminded me iof the old chat
rooms on a website and the women there were ruthless and sickening mean, but you
had to have a hard shell, i left that type of feces back in the streets, and on the chat room
floor, insecure ladies is what you made yourself! I have asked advice from some of the best
women here and they all been so kind, but you two take the cake out to the trash i never care
for anyone who picks and bullies other no matter what the age! grow up for gosh sakes! If you can not 'say something
kind then do not say anything at all, shame on you both! She had the grace to thank you and
not pick a sily "girl" fight with you two! Bullies :0(

mons/jane

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/27/2011 1:10:16 AM

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mons-
I concur with your statement/thoughts..... I thought these forums were to HELP PEOPLE.

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/27/2011 2:29:08 AM

mons

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That poor woman came for help they curse her so much
it made me ill, it is to help others, i never seen anything 'like that two ever
Mistresssnow what in the world were they thinking!!!!!????
thank you i am so glad i was not the only one who saw their actions as 'less then
honorable to someone in need!
thank you
mons/jane and nice to meet you

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/27/2011 5:45:06 AM

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Mons,

You may not have liked Hannah's style (I don't much care for it myself) but if you want to be objective, she made a very valid point. When you are middle-aged (as I am at 43) and a switch AND a trans, you have some things that are not in your favor as far as getting attention.

If she wants the right attention, she has to put a lot of effort into her profile to show who she is both in (and especially) out of the bedroom. Her best bet is face-to-face contact at events/munches where people can see and get to know her for who she is. I don't know many men or women who are searching for switch TGs who are in their 40s. They might be OPEN to it, but that isn't in their first search criteria. So photos and a stellar profile are needed to catch the eye of those who are open.

Additionally, she asked for blunt honesty in her OP. You can't get more blunt than Hannah. She wasn't born with the "tact gene".

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/27/2011 5:50:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressSnow

mons-
I concur with your statement/thoughts..... I thought these forums were to HELP PEOPLE.

And Traci DID get help, as she mentioned herself.

Besides, it is an OPEN FORUM.. folks will post their opinions, etc. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. it is NOT a one size fits all deal.

ETA: I agree with searching.. .

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/27/2011 7:25:47 PM

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apologies to emily

Surely you can grovel better than that woman!!!

Relax, no apologies needed, its all fun and games until somebody looses an eye, and I still have both mine.

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/27/2011 7:40:32 PM

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quote:

Hanna and Emily why did you need to attack someone
new who ask no begged for your help?

I did help, I gave her some very important and useful advice. And I think Hannah gave good advice as well. I suggest you open your eyes when reading threads in the future, that way you won't miss things.

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I thought you two were teens the way you acted!

I am, what of it Grandma?

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She had the grace to thank you and
not pick a sily "girl" fight with you two!

Unlike you. The way i see it is she took the time to actually read what was posted and found that it was indeed useful advice and not an attack at all. Perhaps you should take the advice I gave her.

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RE: Help/advice needed - 10/28/2011 4:39:15 PM

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ORIGINAL: TraciTv

I'm not attraciting much attention.

I know that I must be doing something wrong. Could I please have some advice on ways to make my profile for inviting?

Be as blunt and honest as you need to be.

Beer, hot dogs and the sports channel.

That's a good start.

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