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How long to wait - 5/25/2006 9:02:43 AM   
WhipMaster1962


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A few days ago I had a sub send me a msg. I did send a replay. I was just wondering long I should wait till I send a msg asking why she has not replied.
 
 
 
 
 
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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 9:03:50 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Let's say a week- 7 days.

Send a quick "Hi, wrote a few days ago and haven't heard back.  Hope all is well and look forward to hearing from you soon."

After that- what will be, will be.

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 9:23:26 AM   
NastyDaddy


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Status: offline 		How long did you wait for her to send her original message?

I wouldn't wait any longer than that, but patience is often considered a most positive virtue.

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 9:34:11 AM   
Jane2376


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Status: offline 		Maybe I'm over analyzing this, but here goes anyway.  Assuming the message was sent via CM.  Has she logged on?  If she has, has she read the letter?  How much thought does the reply require? 

Sometimes I get a msg and read it but I really need to sit down to answer it so I have to wait for a time when I'm not just checking my mail real quick. Other times I can send off a quick answer.  Anyways, other than that I'd say if she's interested she'll answer w/in a week or so.  Good luck.

Jane

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 10:44:26 AM   
WhipMaster1962


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Status: offline 		It has been ten days now and I answered six hours after she sent it. She sent the same msg three times in a min. As for me answering back I did it in a reasnable time.

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 10:54:22 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		She sent the same message three times in a minute?
I don't think I'd want her to reply back....sounds kinda compulsive and them types scare me!
However, if you really want to hear from her again....fastlane scratches his head in bewilderment....Ten days is long enough, Go for it!

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 10:58:48 AM   
cyprian


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Status: offline 		perhaps she is new to c.com & the email. i accidentally sent a msg 3 times to a Dom......perhaps that is why he did not respond either.

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 10:59:27 AM   
redpetals


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Status: offline 		ummmm whipmaster?
theres a glitch in her pc system..it happens in mine also..


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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 11:00:54 AM   
NastyDaddy


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Status: offline 		If she sent you the same message three times in a minute, then she is either having to deal with a slow possibly analog dialup connection, or having problems with her computer of some sort?

You are the one who knows the nature of her inquiry and your reply, so the follow up time period is whatever you feel is best or reasonable. To hell with any form of protocol, it's been 10 days so ask her what's up... if you don't hear back from her then within a few more days consider it water under the bridge (1's and 0's under the keyboard). 

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 2:33:10 PM   
jezzabelle


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Status: offline 		Have you checked to see if she's read your last message yet?  Also, I know, from past experience myself, that sometimes messages I send (or have been sent to me) never reach the intended party.  I think they get eaten by the same monster that eats just one sock out of a pair when I put them in the laundry.

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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 7:41:47 PM   
lisa1978


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Status: offline 		For the three times it might be like what some have saud a computer glitch. I get multiple copies of messages many times.

Ten days, then if she read it she probably is no longer interested. If she has not read it then she probably is not being serious with her search and this site is probably just a deversion.

Before I read the ten day point, I was going to ask if she was new, because new women get swamped with so many messages that sometimes you lose a message in the swarm from a person you have written back positively and it can take 2-4 days before you discover your boo boo.



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RE: How long to wait - 5/25/2006 10:38:43 PM   
candystripper


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Status: offline 		i was here a year before i realised "Sent Mail" is below "New Messages", lmao.  ("Block" escaped my notice for 12 months as well....i really am blonde.)
 
i have the leisure to -- almost always -- read my mail and respond (gotta love those new auto-responses) daily, but i know that's not the norm for P/pl here.  Even if T/they CAN check T/their messages every  day, T/they may not have time to respond, as business email and other matters must also be attended to in the brief time T/they can devote to the computer.
 
i hate to say this but it is possible this girl has forgotten Your email; by now it may be on Page 10 of "New Messages".  i'd recommend sending another email and if You still receive no response, chalk it up to the "disappearing submissive' phenom.
 
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RE: How long to wait - 5/26/2006 2:59:26 PM   
FirmhandKY


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Status: offline 		I have perhaps a little harsher viewpoint on the subject.

My assumption, by her emailing you, was that she was interested - somewhat - in you.

However, by not responding back, for whatever reason, she has removed herself from futher consideration.  You have done everything you could (you responded, she didn't return it).  If she was interested enough to send a first, but not a second - move on. 

Yes, it could be computer hickups.  Yes, it could be that she is having problems figuring out the system.  But it's much more likely that she has been drawn somewhere else.  Further emails on your part are most likely unwelcome and an annoyance.

By emailing again, you put yourself in that category of "can't take a no" men.

Just my 2 cents.

Fhky

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RE: How long to wait - 5/26/2006 3:20:29 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		If she has read the email and not responsed or at least sent you a quick note saying that she will respond later in detail when she has more time, I would say 24 to 48 hours.

I'm with FirmhandKY, just move on. Comps have problems but if you have seen that she has been online and STILL no response take it as a sign and move on.

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RE: How long to wait - 5/26/2006 4:26:27 PM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		I have to tell ya, that if someone sent me an email wanting to know why they hadn't received a response, I'd delete them. Just too needy and demanding for my tastes.

Valid questions are: Has she read the email? Has she been online?

You have no idea of what is going on her life. It could be that real life has intruded and she hasn't had the time/connection/patience to be online. In which case you'd likely piss her off.

If she's read it, and she hasn't responded, accept she's not interested and move on.

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RE: How long to wait - 5/26/2006 9:51:15 PM   
sweetbbwsub31


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Status: offline 		The ball is in her court. If she is interested she will be sure to let you know.
 
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RE: How long to wait - 5/28/2006 6:29:01 PM   
shyfem


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Status: offline 		Good Evening all,
 
I would like to add, being new to CM that I did not realize a lot of my mail was going to my bulk folder. The first time I checked it I had over 30 messages, many over a month old. So all I am saying is make sure she has read it before assuming non-interest.
 
Best of luck,
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RE: How long to wait - 5/28/2006 7:45:47 PM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		just checking back in...and I hope you have since called her or e mailed her...

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RE: How long to wait - 5/28/2006 9:44:19 PM   
Wolf1020


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Status: offline 		I will usualy check to see if the message was read, from there depending on if I see her on or not and jsut what the mail was about will wait three the seven days before jsut writing a checking in type message.  If still no response I let it go and move on

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RE: How long to wait - 5/28/2006 10:01:10 PM   
Arpig


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Status: offline 		She hasn't replied in 10 days?
Why would you even be wasting time remembering her screen name?

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