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Newbie Question - 10/27/2011 9:44:49 PM   
toeinwater


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RE: Newbie Question - 10/27/2011 10:07:42 PM   
JanahX


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Status: offline 		From my experience -----> either its great from the get go, or it stays about the same.

When it comes to sex, I dont fuck around.
I refuse to compromise when it comes to this aspect in a relationship ----> becuase hell, lets face it - it's the one thing that you do that you wont do in your day to day platonic relationships.

I also will never set the bar lower than its already been raised up to.

For me, I hate comparing in my mind the senerio of .. wow, so and so was such a rock star in bed, and then feeling dissappointed with the guy that I just fucked - because he just doesnt do it for me (for whatever reason - he sucks in bed, little wee-wee, unoriginal, no connection, etc.)

For me IT IS A DEAL BREAKER. I dont like to compromise :.. because A.> I tend to feel resentment after a while, and B,> I start to look around to see if maybe something better is out there that can and will satisfy me (knowing that it is possible)

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 10:25:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: toeinwater

Never mind.

What the hell!? Now I'll never know what the question was.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 10:38:23 AM   
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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 10:39:00 AM   
JanahX


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Status: offline 		It was basically a question about some dom she met. Shes been dating him for a short amount of time.

Then she went on about how he wont eat her out even though she sucks his cock for long periods of time - and how she deosnt like it that she perfoms oral and how he doesnt like to give her oral.

Then .. she went on how he cant make her cum though other men have been able to.

Her question was if she should stick with the relationship - even though it was clicking on all levels but sexual.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 10:52:38 AM   
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Status: offline 		OP - if you are happy with the relationship out of the bedroom, try to resolve this by communicating with him. How about starting with, "I love you dearly, and we need to resolve some issues in the bedroom."

- What does he not like about oral sex?
- Maybe you can shave, or not shave.
- Maybe your soap is too strong and he doesn't like artificial raspberry flavored pussy.
- What if you said to him "I'm one of 75% of women who can't orgasm from intercourse alone and I need you to go down on me in order to have an orgasm."
- Other techniques that allow you to reach orgasm. My fav is the Eroscillator.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 10:56:59 AM   
kalikshama


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From my experience -----> either its great from the get go, or it stays about the same.


This is probably true, but hope springs eternal.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 11:13:20 AM   
Hisprettybaby


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ORIGINAL: JanahX

It was basically a question about some dom she met. Shes been dating him for a short amount of time.

Then she went on about how he wont eat her out even though she sucks his cock for long periods of time - and how she deosnt like it that she perfoms oral and how he doesnt like to give her oral.

Then .. she went on how he cant make her cum though other men have been able to.

Her question was if she should stick with the relationship - even though it was clicking on all levels but sexual.

Oh.
1. She's not the only one w/ the one way oral sex problem.
2. It sounds like she needs to have a talk with him about her sexual difficulties and frustrations.
3. It's up to her, not us, whether she stays with him or not the way things are. Personally, were it me, I would have the talk with him referred to in #2 before I made that decision.
4. There are other ways to have an orgasm besides sexual intercourse or oral. There are great varieties of toys out there....electrical, battery-operated, and manually operated.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 11:38:23 AM   
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Maybe your soap is too strong and he doesn't like artificial raspberry flavored pussy.


But...but...that is the best flavor of pussy!

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/28/2011 11:45:01 AM   
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Status: offline 		pussy is the best flavor.

Pussy is like coffee. When it's good, it doesn't need flavorings.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 7:27:20 AM   
toeinwater


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Status: offline 		Yeah - sorry, I deleted the question because I was afraid He would see it before I had a chance to have the talk about it and I didn't want him to know that others have been able to get me off immediately but Janah already let that cat out of the bag and the damage is done. My bad for even posting about it in the first place instead of just dealing with it myself.

I have started the dialogue but as we won't be seeing other for a week or so, will wait to do it in person via one of our late-night phone calls where we talk about so many other important things.

For a point of history, I lived with a man for a decade who would never eat me out because I got TOO moist (starting when I was clean and dry and stopping the moment I started getting wet) and it made me self-conscious that perhaps there was something wrong with me. It was a brief one-night stand with a guy who raved about the quality of my parts and the juice exuded therefrom. Having someone I care about not go down on me brought back those earlier feelings of self-doubt.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 8:18:58 AM   
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pussy is the best flavor.
na-uh, heather is the best flavour.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 10:01:05 AM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: toeinwater

Yeah - sorry, I deleted the question because I was afraid He would see it before I had a chance to have the talk about it and I didn't want him to know that others have been able to get me off immediately but Janah already let that cat out of the bag and the damage is done. My bad for even posting about it in the first place instead of just dealing with it myself.

I have started the dialogue but as we won't be seeing other for a week or so, will wait to do it in person via one of our late-night phone calls where we talk about so many other important things.

For a point of history, I lived with a man for a decade who would never eat me out because I got TOO moist (starting when I was clean and dry and stopping the moment I started getting wet) and it made me self-conscious that perhaps there was something wrong with me. It was a brief one-night stand with a guy who raved about the quality of my parts and the juice exuded therefrom. Having someone I care about not go down on me brought back those earlier feelings of self-doubt.



My ex managed to make me feel bad about myself because he wasn't fond of oral. My present Dom loves it and finds everything about it to be stimulating to him - even though I know he loves it, can't get enough of it, I still have twinges of self-doubt return now and then as leftovers from before which I hate. Having someone you care about reject part of you feels bad, there's no way around that.

If it's a new relationship I'd keep looking. There's no reason to settle for less. Even if other things are working, there's a big issue here and why start off with problems?

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 10:20:11 AM   
HannahLynn


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Status: offline 		its really fucking simple actually. show me a man who won't eat pussy and i'll steal his woman.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 10:32:10 AM   
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Show me a man who won't eat pussy and I'll show you a man with too many cats.

What?

chia* (the pet)


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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 11:30:28 AM   
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its really fucking simple actually. show me a man who won't eat pussy and i'll steal his woman.



*snort* 

I'll take that dare!


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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 12:28:31 PM   
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Show me a man who won't eat pussy and I'll show you a man with too many cats.

What?

chia* (the pet)



CHIA!!! Oh how I've missed you!!!

<3 Ailey

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 3:51:29 PM   
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I'll take that dare!
I wouldn't if I were you, verbal abuse is not the only talent Hannah's tongue has. When it comes to keeping a woman happy it is very, very talented. And I do mean talented, as in orgasm you until your brain melts and you pass out talented.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 4:58:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the point was... just because someone wouldnt eat my pussy... and someone else would.. doesnt mean I would leave the one who wouldnt.

Sex is great... but its not the be all end all.... at least not for me.

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RE: Newbie Question - 10/29/2011 5:44:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HeatherMcLeather

quote:

I'll take that dare!
I wouldn't if I were you, verbal abuse is not the only talent Hannah's tongue has. When it comes to keeping a woman happy it is very, very talented. And I do mean talented, as in orgasm you until your brain melts and you pass out talented.


I am not disputing Hannah's oral talents at all....only the fact is I have no woman for her to steal away!!!!


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