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Mlicious -> RE: um er, excuse Me Ladies (5/29/2006 3:12:31 PM)
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I had a similar experience before. I was initially gung ho about helping b/c I wanted to help new people make a connection with others in the community, so I went for it. Among the things I have learned is that his request may have been a part of that ever-present desire of the sub to make the "instant hook-up," as though the perfect Domme will take about five minutes to find.
This sub was in Wisconsin, asking me to introduce him to someone. But then I had to stop to think about it. I did not know person personally so I could not recommend him or facilitate an introduction. I would be putting my reputation on the line for recommending someone. I then put the question out to a yahoo group I belonged to. Some Dommes from Wisconsin did respond to my question and suggested he contact them. This sub had previously said he'd been unsuccessful w/ meeting anyone in his area. When I mentioned the names of the Dommes I'd spoken with, he suddenly remembered that he had indeed made contact with them and had forgotten to tell me that he had.
Lesson learned; 1) I would only recommend someone I personally know; 2) If this person does not know you personally, they are likely trying to circumvent the Dommes he's already annoyed and hopes that you will be a source of new people; 3) It's a safety issue. If he approaches you out of the blue w/o knowing you, he does so w/o regard to his safety or that of the Domme. I may be a nut sending him to a fellow nut, and he does not seem to care; 4) Point that person to a resource for the local parties and munches and bdsm groups.
Now that I know some great people in the community, I am happy to help facilitate introductions among those people.
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