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RE: trying to cope with results of bad behavior - 5/26/2006 3:33:00 PM

Calandra

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ORIGINAL: marieToo
PS: I also think its a bit narrow minded for everyone to come down on you for your mistake and tell you to learn your lesson. It is my belief that if a submissive screws up repeatedly, it is most likely the responsibility of *both* parties.

Actually I find that lessons can be learned (both good and bad) from almost any human interaction. Is that narrowminded? No, it's reality. In my previous post, I mentioned that the Domme may be trying to assess HER part in the situation... If she's a responsible Domme, she should be willing to consider that she has made mistakes too - even if ultimately she realizes that she didn't err, at least she was open to the idea. Both people here have the opportunity to learn lessons regardless of whether they reconcile. Maybe the lesson is "I need to be obedient and respectful." or maybe "I don't handle long distance relationships well - next time I will only seek someone local" or maybe "I discover that I need someone with *X* disciplinary style, if this Domme isn't what I need then I'm glad to know it now".

LOL Don't get me started on possible lessons from the Dommes perspective...

In a situation such as this (public forum with little real information about the situation AND hundreds of possible respondents who all have varying baggage and viewpoints) you can't really judge whther someone is being truly narrowminded, or simply trying to filter their answers in order to offer only the best advice they have.

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RE: trying to cope with results of bad behavior - 5/26/2006 7:27:24 PM

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Hi
Thank Y/you all for the posts and yes She contacted me today and W/we are working things out and discussing what led up to the behavior.She sent me some thorough emails with some constuctive questions i was to ask myself and discuss with Her in detail. She has told me we will plan on working together on the root of the problem so we can move on.
thanks again, have a wonderful weekend everyone ..
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