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Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 5:07:16 PM   
officeman108


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Status: offline 		What is the best way to go about finding an online Master or Mistress to serve online with either messenger and cam? I'm not looking for a Pro Dom or Domme, but would like to find someone with good chemistry that would like to take charge. I've tried to filter online and cyber in the CM searches, but its hard to find someone who actually would prefer to dominate online. Inquiring minds would like to know.
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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 5:51:45 PM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		It will be difficult because they are few and far between. Essentially in order to find what you are looking for, for free, you will have to stick with being the dirty little secret of a "monogamously" married person. Most of the lifestyle dommes here that are respectable want real-time/real-life relationships, not just online. They don't want to be your wank fodder/fetish delivery system.


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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 5:58:24 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		Yes well most people unless they're cheating too will want RL. Asking someone to get you off for free....well, quite bluntly, why should they? There isn't really a magic formula that I know of, I will say though that it's good you're open to women and men since a man might be your best bet. 

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 7:17:29 PM   
MistressDarkArt


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Status: offline 		I agree with the ladies above. There's no reason for lifestyle dommes to waste time online when there's a line out the door of real, single, wonderful men who are happy to help fix the car or mow the yard or take us to dinner or all of the above as well as...ahem...'serve'. Sorry, I don't know of any non-pro dommes who would bother with you.

Practically speaking, you might have better luck finding men to participate in online stuff. So either suck it up and get out your credit card or settle for a guy.

Good luck in finding what makes you happy.

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 8:15:53 PM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		I'm unsure how this can happen in an online only environment:

quote:

Looking for someone to ocassionally administer a well deserved spanking, and explore my submissiveness from there.


What are you really expecting?

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 9:03:10 PM   
tiggerspoohbear


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Status: offline 		All I can say is good luck with that.  As has been stated above, most of those who'll be willing to cater to you will be married and you may not even know about it.  You're going to have a very tough time finding someone who isn't a Pro and wants to be paid for being your kink-delivery-service.  Female Dominants want to be treated as women first and foremost.  Please keep that in mind.


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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 9:28:38 PM   
JanahX


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Status: offline 		Even if you do find someone, it most likely wont last very long. People get bored with that shit really fast.

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 9:54:51 PM   
HannahLynn


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quote:

its hard to find someone who actually would prefer to dominate online
that's because online domination is masturbation, and most people only do that when there is a shortage of other people to fuck.

seriously now think this shit through. how the fuck do you dominate somebody with pixels?

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 10/31/2011 10:30:30 PM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		hmmm maybe what the OP meant to say was I'm wanna spank my dick likes it owes me money partner... For that try IRC

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 3:49:16 AM   
CBTinDALLAS


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Status: offline 		I LOVE all of these replies!
So brutally HONEST.

Thanks.

I have no idea why men think that women will just sit around the phone waiting to talk dirty to them.

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 3:55:33 AM   
xxblushesxx


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Status: offline 		Well...to be fair, I do. But it's gonna cost ya...

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 4:36:15 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Any woman who is interested will want to know why you prefer online.  Is it because of an unaware wife?

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 3:21:10 PM   
Hisprettybaby


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I've gotta say, I am looking for a sub but I'm not looking for online. Why not online? Because it's basically like Hannah said, it's masturbation and how does one Dominate someone with pixels? She was right on. I can't see having an online relationship just to be someone's fetish delivery system. I can't flog him, peg him, and he can't do my dishes through the computer keyboard or IM. It's all fantasy and I want a real life relationship.

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 3:39:32 PM   
lizi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

Any woman who is interested will want to know why you prefer online.  Is it because of an unaware wife?


Yes, his profile wants 'descreet' NSA encounters. In other words wifey is unaware.

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 3:48:55 PM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		the word "discreet" doesn't always mean "secret wife;" i have "preferring discretion" on my FL profile because i'm involved in some stuff, and the vanillas i associate with might not understand if KinkyGuy69 came up to me at a show and said "oh you're LillyBoPeep with the rubberbands on your tits!" =p

that said... i would not prefer an online relationship. i want physicality and closeness. i want someone i can touch, taste, and smell. i could start online with someone, but only with the intention of eventually moving to real time. online just wouldn't really cut it or me. i'm touchy-feely, and i love to be around the person i feel strongly for.




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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 3:50:13 PM   
officeman108


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for the brutal honesty.....I do appreciate the comments and the feed back.

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 4:05:32 PM   
lizi


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LillyBoPeep

the word "discreet" doesn't always mean "secret wife;" i have "preferring discretion" on my FL profile because i'm involved in some stuff, and the vanillas i associate with might not understand if KinkyGuy69 came up to me at a show and said "oh you're LillyBoPeep with the rubberbands on your tits!" =p



Yes, I understand what you are saying. My point was that when I read his profile or any other that mentions what he did about being discreet and wanting NSA, my mind immediately jumps to a wife. Whether there is one or not, that's the impression he is giving.

Your profile has much more in it along with your request for discretion, his does not. My bad for not explaining this...it gets tiresome on here to constantly qualify answers with the words seems, some, many, most, etc, and I try to use those words and mostly I remember. It's on me if I didn't. I should have said that it certainly seems as though he has a wife since he used the words discreet, and NSA, along with a profile that is only those statements plus something about spanking and some listed interests. He certainly seems to be looking for a bit on the side since his focus is on getting off and having it be secretive with no attachments.

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 4:18:53 PM   
LillyBoPeep


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Status: offline 		all those things considered, you're probably right lizi. =p 

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 6:48:03 PM   
Delilya


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Status: offline 		Lizi, that is usually my take on it too. I wish I had a dollar for every man who wants online only. I'd retire. As for OP, best of luck, and the girls are right, you'd have better luck finding another man. IMO

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RE: Serving an online Master or Mistress - 11/1/2011 6:52:59 PM   
Toppingfrmbottom


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Status: offline 		Go to places where the theme caters to online domination.

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