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scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:09:33 AM

SubJay33

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im a sub of 20 years, but i still have a problem with oral, im not sure why, i see other sub's and they have to problem, i want to be the best sub that i can....but it seems i can only do oral if forced to :(( any help?

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:13:36 AM

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Perhaps first you should expand on what specific body part you are having issues with - cause ya'know...could be a dick or a chick you are talkin' about...

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:15:36 AM

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what's the problem. its a cock, it goes in your mouth. or it's a cunt, your tongue goes in it. seems pretty fucking straightforward to me. what exactly are you having a problem with?

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:20:57 AM

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sorry, not a dick, but a kitty......

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:25:03 AM

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I've found that between the claws and the risk of getting hairballs, it's really just not worth it.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:27:10 AM

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It's yummy!!! But seriously, this is not entirely uncommon. Was your first experience with cunnilingus particularly horrible?

I know that if you start out on a smelly or bad tasting pussy, it's hard to get those sensations out of your head even with presented a nice, clean, yummy pussy many years later.

I personally have occasional yeasty flashbacks that can put me off of my favorite treat for the evening.

ps: I give you kudos for being a newbie who claims 20 years experience without being like 25.

< Message edited by darchChylde -- 11/1/2011 8:28:55 AM >

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:31:38 AM

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yes, my first time wa bad, but that was over 20 years ago, i should be over it by now. it's the getting started part that i seem to
freeze up on. once started im ok.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:35:07 AM

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yeasty?!!

holy spoots, darchChylde, that's horrible. =p please say you ran away. =p for the sake of my sanity...

i knew a girl who did this, and her guy was too clueless to know what it was. he also didn't understand why no one would go down on her. hahaha
take a bath, ladies!

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:35:23 AM

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Some memories, especially scent related are nearly impossible to get completely over. But, if your problem is getting started; my advice is to just close your eyes and dive i. (everyone knew that a muff diving comment would eventually show in this thread, didn't they?)

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 8:40:04 AM

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yeasty?!!

holy spoots, darchChylde, that's horrible. =p please say you ran away. =p for the sake of my sanity...

Nope, didn't run away; just got horribly engrossed in whatever movie we were watching. Later, when dropping her off, i quietly and as nicely as possible, explained what the issues was. Unfortunately she had a very sheltered upbringing and had never seen a gynecologist or felt comfortable asking those questions. I think the next guy she dated quietly thanked me without knowing it, my understanding was that she got things cleared up.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 9:57:31 AM

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While I do enjoy oral, it isn't one of those things that I must have or I will simply die. It isn't the end all of some woman's dreams that many men think it is. When I find someone exceptionally good at it, I am more interested... yes... but really, I could go without it for the rest of my life and not complain or feel cheated. I enjoy other things far more.

However, if I wanted to have someone giving me oral... and they had an issue with it, I might try to help them along and feel comfortable with it.

Try to find someone that can work with you if it is important to you. Personally, I would have you go there for just a few moments and then make you stop. Each time, you would just be there for a moment or so. Repeating until you knew that every time, there wasn't something to run from. Each time you would know that if something were wrong, you wouldn't be there for long and eventually you might feel more comfortable. I would be watching you carefully, knowing your progression or lack of progression and working with you. You would be able to combat your mental suggestions of how awful it is, with how awful it wasn't and would dispel that force issue. I wouldn't want forced oral... but a willingness coming from within because you learned to enjoy it.

I would do this not because I was wanting to get it... but because I wouldn't want you to have a fear or hang up about it. The freer you are sexually, the better other sexual things will be, because that won't always be in the back of your mind being processed as gross. It might take time, but... I think would be worth it for a number of reasons.

Find someone that isn't all that into it or that will work with you. I recommend someone working with you because I think that would be the best long term solution all the way around.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 10:33:44 AM

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i'm with Lockit, it's not something i need. if my partner didn't like to do it we'd get along great. some men have this idea all women love it and are shocked to find someone who doesn't. it's just like everything else, you have a bad experience it can be difficult to get over but it can be done. it takes time, communication with your partner and patience on both your parts. why not include that discussion before things get to that point? some women might love to have a man who learns from them just what they like, not what he's learned from everyone else he's been with.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 11:54:28 AM

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See, I tolerate oral for those that I like. A lot. A whole lot. While I am in the minority, I'm not alone.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 12:02:23 PM

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I do tantric cunnilingus.

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See, I tolerate oral for those that I like. A lot. A whole lot. While I am in the minority, I'm not alone.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 12:44:23 PM

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i'm with Lockit, it's not something i need. if my partner didn't like to do it we'd get along great. some men have this idea all women love it and are shocked to find someone who doesn't. it's just like everything else, you have a bad experience it can be difficult to get over but it can be done. it takes time, communication with your partner and patience on both your parts. why not include that discussion before things get to that point? some women might love to have a man who learns from them just what they like, not what he's learned from everyone else he's been with.

I dont love it. It bores me. Gimme a g-spot stim instead (and no.. a TONGUE ant gonna do it). A guy that insists that his tongue, doing what I refer to as 'dog licks rawhide bone', is going to get me off.. gets kicked to the curb, because without fail, I have found THOSE guys to be least likely to pay attention to what works for me

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 12:46:54 PM

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i'm with Lockit, it's not something i need. if my partner didn't like to do it we'd get along great. some men have this idea all women love it and are shocked to find someone who doesn't. it's just like everything else, you have a bad experience it can be difficult to get over but it can be done. it takes time, communication with your partner and patience on both your parts. why not include that discussion before things get to that point? some women might love to have a man who learns from them just what they like, not what he's learned from everyone else he's been with.

I dont love it. It bores me. Gimme a g-spot stim instead (and no.. a TONGUE ant gonna do it). A guy that insists that his tongue, doing what I refer to as 'dog licks rawhide bone', is going to get me off.. gets kicked to the curb, because without fail, I have found THOSE guys to be least likely to pay attention to what works for me

Oral + egg vibe =

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 12:50:04 PM

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Oh forgot to add, you can also take one of those little vibrating cock rings that run on little batteries and wrap them around the end of your forefinger twice and use that to stimulate the G spot during oral.

At least I read that somewhere... yeah, that's it. I read it.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 12:55:17 PM

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LOL HillWilliam... There are also mini vibs that fit on the tip of your finger.

That cock ring would also help to keep the man having issues with doing oral, to distract him or get him so horny that he will do most anything. Well, that and a few other things I can think of.

The problem I have found is finding a good cock ring that will last.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 1:05:33 PM

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Ive tried em, Lockit. They don't do a damn thing for me. That's why I experimented with wrapping it around my finger a coupla times and............ I didn't want to see it totally wasted gathering dust in a drawer someplace.

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RE: scared to ask...... - 11/1/2011 1:08:52 PM

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i'm with Lockit, it's not something i need. if my partner didn't like to do it we'd get along great. some men have this idea all women love it and are shocked to find someone who doesn't. it's just like everything else, you have a bad experience it can be difficult to get over but it can be done. it takes time, communication with your partner and patience on both your parts. why not include that discussion before things get to that point? some women might love to have a man who learns from them just what they like, not what he's learned from everyone else he's been with.

I dont love it. It bores me. Gimme a g-spot stim instead (and no.. a TONGUE ant gonna do it). A guy that insists that his tongue, doing what I refer to as 'dog licks rawhide bone', is going to get me off.. gets kicked to the curb, because without fail, I have found THOSE guys to be least likely to pay attention to what works for me

Oral + egg vibe =

yeah.. over-rated.

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