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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/22/2004 2:02:19 PM

blushes4u

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Just my two cents now....i guess those who read the threads enough know by now that i have a daughter and yes she is disabled. If someone doesn't want my submissiveness because of that, then that is not saying much for them. Same goes for someone who wants someone that looks like a "model" or "athlete". Its just another way to judge someone rather than looking past their looks and searching their soul.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/22/2004 2:06:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: NoCalOwner

Until quite recently, scientists had been at a loss to explain the unique and dramatic growth of the human brain starting a couple of million years ago, but now they have a theory which is gaining a lot of acceptance. It's all about what proto-women wanted from their males. Rationality. A sense of humor. Relatively articulate grunting. This theory explains a lot, and is one of several evolutionary tips that our female ancestors had the ability to choose their mates and their destinies.

What a facinating theory! You've given me something to ponder the rest of the day. I will in return give you something to ponder. Blue eyes are a recessive, yet the majority of male subs I meet have blue eyes.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/22/2004 2:31:39 PM

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In case there was some missunderstanding I in no way intended to make the connection that all overweight people are dirty, smelly or what have you. I accually ment them all to be more or less seperate statments. That would so be like the pot calling the kettle black. Heaven forbid I should have a bad day and leave the house with my hair a mess.. look at that fat sloppy girl. Someone skinny (In my personal beliefs) doesn't have same worried I don't feel. I feel that I have to make twice the effort to just be thought 'normal'. Which upsets me, but on the other hand, if you don't like me you can kiss my round *ss.
I mearly ment to state that while I am submissive I have a huge problem with someone who have the same problem as I to tell me I have a problem.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/22/2004 6:33:44 PM

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I'm overweight myself, yet I happen to like the teddy bear type in men. I'm not very attracted to those who are thin. Having something to cuddle up with, is just.... LOL, 6-pack abbs are nice to look at, but when you're actually with one of those, they can't hold a candle to my teddy bears.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/22/2004 9:30:23 PM

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Very funny NoCal and AlilJ and Happy...
It's true, and it's strange, but unfortunately it's perfectly okay; it's also the reason there are 5000 magazines telling women how they can be more perfect for their men, and a few telling mesomething similar... At the very least, I think, if everyone thinks all women should be made up, surgically perfected, and exercise to a size 2-14, they should dispense an equal amount of advice to all men to have a >million bank account, greater than average height/penis size, greater ability to commit along with a good personality and we'll forego his potentially imperfect weight/looks.
Good night all...
Lady in RI

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/22/2004 9:38:43 PM

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Hey Topcat,
your reply was funny, even if those things that happened were not..
still you have to admit this is, to a much greater extent, a male to female action phenomenon though; for example, you'd see many more enormous guys in speedos at the beach as opposed to very few/none plus sized ladies wearing string/thong bikinis (not that there would be anything wrong with anyone dressed like that, simply shows our different outlooks on acceptance.
Have a good day.
Lady in RI

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/22/2004 10:23:53 PM

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srahfox...

Hey this girl just wanted to say as one who has been on both sides of the weight fence...ummm, actually she has found it much more unnerving and 'worrisome" being small then she ever did at twice this size...when you are larger you may feel as if everyone is looking at you...but more often you go under everyone's radar...when you are thin...well hey you also get just as much negative as positive attention...as a matter of fact women are quite mean to this one now, as a general rule...catty the girl guesses is the word...women she doesn't even know...for no reason at all....so the pain of one's weight goes both ways. Also once one has lost the weight, in her own experience the agony of keeping the weight off is ten times worse then it was with it on...there are times when it is petrifying to weigh one's self. So like she said before the grass is no greener on this side of the fence...she thought it would all be roses over here..but it ain't no picnic. While it may offend being one who has been on both sides she can say quite frankly that if she looks at anyone overweight with any disdain at all..it is more the "damn it this girl has to live on the treadmill, and eat nothing....and you, you obviously just had a cheeseburger" it's not disgust...it is almost a different form of jealousy..hard to comprehend..but true.
Just to catch anyone up who doesn't know the girl had severe gestational diabetes with both kids and went from her normal 135...to a wopping 306 over the course of two pregnancies....chained to the treadmill and high protein for ever later...here she sits back at the 135 for the past 4 years....but the 3 she spent in the high 200's and beyond have changed her forever.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 12:42:34 AM

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your assumption that just because sumone carrys weight they do not take care of their selfs of do not push them selfs away from the table is hogwash. Many persons Men and Woman are large and like and enjoy their size and girth.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 1:44:30 AM

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I tend to like larger Men... not sloppy or lazy~ i do think we all have our own preferences when it comes to what we are looking for just like we all have our own kinks in the lifestyle.

i do know where your coming from though and you would think if someone is looking for physically fit they would be physically fit also.

But at least they are honest in what they want and we have the choice to e-mail them or keep looking also. Who knows there maybe a slim physically fit woman out there looking for a large out of shape Man. *shrugs* i think if some of these trolls/HNG can find a sub to submit to them then anything is possible!!

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 1:53:43 AM

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Wow bottominwa

Nice job! It is hard to lose weight and keep it off, takes a lot of will power.

i think everyone is different and everyone is comfortable at different weights.. What is right for one isn't right for the other. As long as your weight isn’t causing serious health problems and you’re comfortable then really no one should judge you but people do.

Like i said in my last post i like bigger Men... little belly, husky *smiles* and that doesn’t mean they don't take care of themselves. i like nice, clean and active Men.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 9:20:58 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Thanatosian
Apologies for the rant, but this thread and responses apparantly hit one of my 'hot' buttons

Don't apologise for it! I so very much appreciated it. What you said was dead on. Just however don't assume that it's not ok to make fun of overweight women. Maybe it's un-p.c. for a man to do it but other women have a blast doing it.

I remember hearing a co-worker of mine saying "Catherine Zeta-Jones is pretty but she has big thighs" to which I replied "well by your standards then, if Catherine is big, then I must be a fucking mammoth!"

I really don't think I'm a mammoth. I use the word Rubenesque to describe my physical appearance. There was a time when my body type was considered to be the epitome of beauty.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 9:24:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: MistressDREAD

your assumption that just because sumone carrys weight they do not take care of their selfs of do not push them selfs away from the table is hogwash. Many persons Men and Woman are large and like and enjoy their size and girth.

Dread! So well said as usual!

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 10:43:35 AM

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I don't think it's strange.

A similiar profile may read "Male Dominant seeks female slave for single tail play."

Now, do you think that the dominant in this profile is wanting to be whipped as he plans to whip his future slave? Probably not. I personally have no desire to be bound, flogged, caned, etc...but I look for someone who enjoys what I have to offer. I don't enjoy pain whatsoever. Does that mean I have a double standard? I'm willing to give out pain, but not willing to accept it in return? Yes. It is a double standard, but it's one that I am okay with.

I agree with the point you are making. I do believe that if you expect someone to adhere to your standards, that you sould live by those same standards. Question was if I thought it strange. Nope. Not strange at all.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 11:52:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: slavewithnoname

That not only goes both ways... Doms and Dommes... but also can be the exact reverse. I have been told many times that I am fairly attractive, but the weight I gained 1 1/2 years ago bothers "me". I feel the need to be at my optimum "before" I can in fact offer myself to a Dom/Domme. While yes, it is said that it's what they want.... I feel it's giving them less than my best. So, when it comes to appearences, that ball definatly rolls ALL directions.
Please do be well and safe!
~slavegirl~

slavegirl,

i totally relate to what you're saying...i too often hold myself back because i feel less than right since i've gained some weight...i have about 50 to lose...i used to love public play...but now, can't see myself enjoying it...hopefully i'll lose the spare tire and all will be right with the world...but until then, i'm sure i'll hold back just a bit.

stsing

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 1:02:05 PM

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CORRECTION:
This post was NOT meant to be directed at proudsub. my mistake ... it is simply directed in regard to the topic at hand originally posted by aliljaded1

There is someone out there for everyone.

Whether if be the overweight male seeking a more fit female, or the overweight female seeking a more fit male, or perhaps the overweight male seeking a more fit male, or the overweight female seeking a more fit female, etc. there is nothing wrong with seeking what one may prefere especially in that the one being sought can always say, 'no thanks, not me.'.

An interesting twist that many may not concider:

Whether if be the underweight male seeking a more fit female, or the underweight female seeking a more fit male, or perhaps the underweight male seeking a more fit male, or the underweight female seeking a more fit female, etc. there is nothing wrong with seeking what one may prefere especially in that the one being sought can always say, 'no thanks, not me.'.

The reason why i would point out the interesting twist:

i am an underweight (100 lbs, 5'2" ... naturally, & no i am not ill, am 100% healthy, and have never dieted.. in fact i tend to eat alot, as much as i like, as often as i like ... for those who might wish to know) female who happens to not be attracted to underweight, tiny, short or scrawny males. i have always been attracted to taller men with at least a little bit of meat on their bones.

Some tend to prefere a lighter partner to a heavier one. Some tend to prefere a heavier partner to a lighter one. Some like them short, some like them tall. Different strokes for different folks. <apply> Baskin Robbins Theory</apply> .

Everyone has different needs and desires, everyone has a right to seek what it is that they prefere, just as everyone has a right to say, 'no, thanks. not for me.'. i for one am not offended by anyone else's differences in seeking what it is they desire or need in finding happiness and contentment. Regardless, i can always say, 'no, thanks. not for me.' OR 'yes, thanks. perfect for me.'.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 4:56:07 PM

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Now I have the opposite problem. I am too thin and I say it straight out. I wish I could gain 10 pounds. I know I would look better and feel better. No nice cleavage for Me! I will say that I have corresponded with a number of subs who have flat out told Me that they like the fact I am slender and I say to them..."did you get past the picture?" Needless to say, their shallowness comes to the fore quickly, and if they are going to be shallow about that, there is a strong possibility they will be shallow about other things. We're all real people, with real minds and real feelings. If someone thinks they want Me because I am thin, (too thin, I keep stressing) then I know what it is on their mind!
Now regarding any double standard, I am meeting with a potential slave next week who is very sincere and also quite a bit overweight. If things work out, he will reasonably diet and exercise under My supervision, but I'm not insisting on an Adonis. I do look deeper than that. Lots of "boy toys" around that don't impress Me at all!

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/23/2004 5:07:55 PM

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I am in total agreement with you cynnacent. I am around 135 and almost 6 feet tall, but I prefer larger men and women. My Dom is nearly 300 pounds and 5' 10", an ex-football player. He does work out and runs every other day, but if he were to lose weight I would be quite upset.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/24/2004 1:23:26 PM

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I have a friend that has a heart condition (Don't recall what it is) and she is VERY skinny. Painfully so, what I always thought was wierd (And forgot about in my earlier posting) was that people would tease her all the time, with big old me sitting right there, and never say a word to me. I guess they figured it was okay. After talking to her I found out how unhappy that made her because she TRIED to gain wieght. So from that pint on everytime someone would tease her about her wieght I would just say that we were trying to complete a set. Tall and skinny, short and fat. That shut people up quick:)
I think when you are chubby you forget that some people as just as un happy with being thin, and you forget there are people out there who will like you chubby. So thanks to the smaller people who posted. I tend to forget some people like big girls because I never get those, damn your sexy looks.

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/25/2004 2:02:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: srahfox

I have a friend that has a heart condition (Don't recall what it is) and she is VERY skinny. Painfully so, what I always thought was wierd (And forgot about in my earlier posting) was that people would tease her all the time, with big old me sitting right there, and never say a word to me. I guess they figured it was okay. After talking to her I found out how unhappy that made her because she TRIED to gain wieght.

Thank you for posting this! Funny, I never connected it, but I do have a congenital heart condition (nothing dangerous/mitral valve prolapse) that is also tied up (no pun intended) with the way My nervous system and GI system developed in the womb. At least that is what the doctors have been telling Me for years.
Hard to find a diet to gain weight which is complimentary to My GI system and fussy gall bladder! It is tough at times for those of us who are too thin. I even have a hard time buying clothes that fit well. And I really get the jokes and the offers to take some of their weight. Wish I could!

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RE: do Y/you think its strange?........ - 10/25/2004 3:31:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: MaitresseEden

There seems to be some hidden code that if they have $ we are supposed to fall at their feet and want them regardless.

Ms. Eden

Wait! Neanderthal man confused... Woman NOT want man with money? But why work? Is no fun! We only do it to get laid!

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