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What says submission? - 11/2/2011 3:31:10 PM   
McBaen


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Status: offline 		I wrote this to add to my profile. Whether you wear the cuffs or hold the key, what says submission for you?


What is “submission” to you? Is it a word, an action or thing? The mental exchange in a D/s relationship cannot be even vaguely summed up by one of those but each is powerful in it‘s own way. 

A word? I have reached the point in age and employment that it is not uncommon for people to call me Sir. It may be a cultured politeness or professional nod, but both blend into the background noise of a given day. But…. when it rolls from the lips of a submissive woman who wants and needs to serve me, it becomes a silky tidbit of submission. Such a simple word that becomes weighted and potent from even the quietest voice. 

An action? Is it a lowered glance or bended knee? In that moment when she kneels before me, I am at home in myself. I stand over her and know that she has accepted my control and waits for my command. It is a powerful and addictive. 

A thing? Long before I knew there was a “scene” or women who called themselves submissive or slave, I noticed something special in a ribbon or choker necklace. It grabbed my attention even when I wasn’t sure why. My world expanded over the years and I have been fortunate enough to see a collar worn just for me.

The beauty and fun of D/s is that any of these can be naughty or nice. The words can be things that would make her blush in public. The thing can be the ballgag that stifles the words. The action can be so much more.
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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 4:17:52 PM   
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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 4:34:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		To me, it's a response to someone who compels it. It's active and participatory, and sometimes difficult, but worth it, and at times, and towards certain people, the only choice of response. It can be in words, in actions, in little things in here and there that help illustrate it. 

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 5:39:01 PM   
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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 5:54:14 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me, it's the action.  I don't *feel* submissive because I'm not submissive.

What says *submission* is simply when I bloody DO it: when I don't like it, when I don't want to, when I hate him, when it's just because it's what I agreed to.

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 6:28:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		To me, submission is words, actions, thoughts, objects, everything. It is the surrender of control--physical, intellectual, and emotional. It's an expression of love, devotion, and trust. It is the fundamental action of committing and dedicating oneself completely to someone's leadership and command.

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 6:54:53 PM   
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ORIGINAL: agirl

For me, it's the action.  I don't *feel* submissive because I'm not submissive.

What says *submission* is simply when I bloody DO it: when I don't like it, when I don't want to, when I hate him, when it's just because it's what I agreed to.

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Yep. This ^^^^^^

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 7:11:15 PM   
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Status: offline 		Submission......hmmmm......Its not a word or an act or object or thing. Its in the heart. The words, the objects, the act are just mere extensions showing submission. But submission has to be deep in your heart and radiate outwords in what you do, say, act. It cannot be singularly defined :)

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 7:24:32 PM   
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Status: offline 		What is submission to Me? Its who *she* is. Its what she does; what she says. Its how she says it and how she does it. Its a side of her personality that she has decided

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 7:26:43 PM   
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Status: offline 		...and to complete My thought, the side of her personality that she is giving to Me.

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 8:10:35 PM   
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Status: offline 		I see it more as a relationship. I may be *a* submissive, however I don't practice submission outside of D/s. Both action and complementary reaction.

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RE: What says submission? - 11/2/2011 8:38:39 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		It's my personality. It's that simple.

I am a submissive personality so it encompasses my entire life with or without him. He just happens to know how to use it to his advantage. :)



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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 12:01:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's how my mindset changes when I'm doing something for him.

I am not particularly submissive at work or with my family, but when I'm with him it's like switch has been flicked and suddenly I want to serve.

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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 1:06:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

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wait...what am I doing???

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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 9:56:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: RexDarcy

What is submission to Me? Its who *she* is. Its what she does; what she says. Its how she says it and how she does it. Its a side of her personality that she has decided



well said

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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 10:18:55 AM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Status: offline 		I wrote this in another thread, but (I think) it's good enough to repeat:

I have this idea in my head of what dominance and submission boil down to in their essence: dominance is about being in control of your ego, submission is about being willing to give up your ego.

So for me, my submission is about being willing to give up my ego to someone who I trust is in control of his. It makes me all squishy inside, and just seems to naturally bring out all kinds of femy, soft subservient feelings.






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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 11:02:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		Submission to me is when I see a hairy ass up in the air waiting for me and my toy to enter his tight wanting asshole!


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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 1:38:55 PM   
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Status: offline 		For me, submission is a choice. I choose to be submissive to my bf because I love him and I choose to express my love through serving him and caring for his needs. But I guess I'd have to sum up the reasoning, or philosophy behind my submission, as follows: When you truly love someone, you make a promise to yourself that you will do everything in your power to make them happy and to help them achieve their goals. They become, above and beyond any of your own goals or desires, your number one priority. And, ultimately, that means giving your self to them, refusing to reject them, and doing whatever you can to make life work out. As a result of this mindset, I find I am naturally submissive. If a massage makes him happy, he gets it. If he wants sex, he gets that too, even if I am not in the mood. If he needs me to do something for him, it gets done.

I don't always follow through like I should, but I always try and better myself once I recognize a flaw in the way I've treated him, or failed to obey him, or been selfish. And the reason is because its my number one job to make sure he is happy. Nothing else really matters.

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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 8:21:45 PM   
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ORIGINAL: agirl

For me, it's the action.  I don't *feel* submissive because I'm not submissive.

What says *submission* is simply when I bloody DO it: when I don't like it, when I don't want to, when I hate him, when it's just because it's what I agreed to.

agirl


^this^

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RE: What says submission? - 11/3/2011 8:25:55 PM   
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what says submission for you?
that they fucking want to obey, that they are anxious to be led, that they want my leadership, that they get off on doing what they are told, that they don't have to struggle to obey the simple day-to-day shit.

in short someone who wants me to tell them what to do as much as i fucking want to tell them.

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