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leonine -> Old timer, new here (11/6/2011 2:57:17 AM)
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I have been turned on by BDSM since before I knew what sex was (apart from the way grownups made babies,) and been practicing it since I made a meccano rack and motorised whipping frame to torture my sister's Barbie. I've owned collared slaves and started a business making bondage toys (www.silverandsteel.co.uk.) I've made my own dungeon (you can see it in the background of my avatar photo, my wife cried when I had to dismantle it,) written BDSM novels and fought the law and won.
On the other hand, I still can't make a living without Working Tax Credit, and I'm weak on social and relationship skills and tend to stammer. {shrug} Real people are complicated.
As I've described in my profile, I have a loving sub partner, but she's chronically ill with ME and has weakened to the point where she can rarely take more than a light caning. She knows I need more (when she was fit I used to torture her in tight bondage for hours) and wants me to find someone else I can play with. I'm aware that people can be sceptical about unseen partners - I had this even back in the ancient days when we made contact by ink marks on pieces of paper - and if anyone were interested but needed convincing we could arrange a quick video call, just long enough for her to prove she exists and is OK with this.
My profile is a little unclear, I say I'm a Master, my partner says I'm mainly a sadist. It's true that I love inflicting as much pain, pleasure and general sensory overload as a bound victim can take (and then teaching hir that se can take more.) But I can also immensely enjoy the purely mental pleasure of being humbly served by a devotely obedient slave. The wonderful thing about Dom/sub is that it can turn being brought a cup of tea into a hot scene that leaves both Master and slave panting with excitement.
I'm bisexual, and in the past I've tended to use men for casual fun while forming serious relationships with women. Partly because of simple demographics: a Dom can get all the malesubs he can use by whistling for them - sorry chaps, but you know it's true, stop licking my boots - while genuine born-female submissives are rare and precious. But I also find it easier to get emotionally close to women, for past reasons that I know about but can't fix this late in life.
But things have changed, and with so little time and so much to do I'm focussing on what I really want most. I'm looking for a submissive and/or masochistic woman who wants the odd few hours of BDSM play, at her place or a club, without the expectation of a long term relationship. I'm happy to take the time to become friends by mail first: as you can see I'm a fool for words, and I can be a close and supportive friend. I could be a safe and helpful trainer for a beginner, or share pleasures with someone experienced enough to know what she wants and confident enough to ask for it. It's a lot to hope for, but I've been lucky before, so why not?
Leo9
Bisexual polyamorous switch. Why settle for less?
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