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GddssBella -> RE: submissive vs. slave (5/26/2006 7:08:31 AM)
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G'morning all:
Even though this topic has been done to death, I'll add my two cents. Being a less frequent poster, I've never entered the fray on this subject. To me, a key point of definition between submissive and slave is the matter of rights. I'll probably piss off a whole bunch of folks. Realize this is not directed to any one person or such. Your interpretation of your orientation is descriptive for you. This is just my (not so humble) opinion.
I've always viewed submissives with more rights than slaves. Although both wish to surrender, submit and hand over control to another, there's levels of degree. A submissive retains more self, more of their innate characteristics which initially attracted the dominant. Slavery is more total, more final, a progression if you would. The ultimate act of giving over one's self into another's care. Allowing themselves to be molded into what that individual sees as preferable. Frankly, it's not attractive to me. I dislike the micro managing that this encompasses. I enjoy a submissive partner that can function, think, act on their own and not be reliant upon me for all aspects of their daily living. Not that I find slaves to be drooling idiots. Far from it. I just don't seek or require that level of relinquishment. There are some facets of slavery which are appealing and that I incorporate into my relationship wth my boy, but not the whole enchilada.
In the end, it is up to you what makes you comfortable. No one else. I identify as dominant. Many that meet me for the first time without the benefit (or curse, lol) of interacting with me in the chat room of my choice (North East room on Alt.com) would mistake me for a submissive lady, simply because I'm courteous. *shrugs* I was taught to have manners, ie: saying please and thank you, addressing strangers as Sir or Ma'am, holding doors for the elderly, etc. Unfortunately, some view this as a weakness or as a servile posture. Which always leads me to wonder when did common courtesy become less than human/e? {rant over} Anyway, just because others view it disparagingly, doesn't mean I'll stop.
Like a co-worker of mine is fonding of saying, "You do you." Go with your own flow toots. [;)]
Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...
[:D]
Bella
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