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Aileen68 -> Rituals (5/26/2006 11:08:35 AM)

I did a search and nothing came up, but I'm sure LA will post links on this.  :)
For dominants and submissives...
What kind of rituals do you do or require?  What do you do when together?
What do you do when apart?  Do these rituals aid you in your domination/submission and if so, how?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Rituals (5/26/2006 11:25:17 AM)

I would but the search function isn't working.



Aileen68 -> RE: Rituals (5/26/2006 11:27:14 AM)

Thanks LA.  Thought it was just me being totally incompetent with the search feature.



proudsub -> RE: Rituals (5/26/2006 2:24:02 PM)

It seems to be working now, here are a few:

special rituals please!?

Rituals

Rituals

Protocols, Rituals, Habits...

favorite rituals

Eating Rituals

Routine



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Rituals (5/26/2006 5:52:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: proudsub

It seems to be working now, here are a few:

Muchas gracias!



Sensualips -> RE: Rituals (5/26/2006 6:07:46 PM)

When I arrive I am required to carry in one case of orange flavored Moutain Dew as a tribute.  I carry it to the kitchen and place it on the appropriate shelf.  This also gives me an opportunity to check the soda supply and guesstimate how busy a week it has been.  I also have a glass of water, to hydrate myself.

I return to the living room and begin an elaborate seduction ritual that involves rubbing his shaved head, biting, fingernails, and murmured pleas.  He feigns disinterest and attempts to discuss some pressing issue. Soon I give up, sit in a nearby chair, sigh deeply and gaze adoringly at him until he becomes uncomfortable. Eventually I am carried away, thrown onto the bed, and banged like a screen door in a  hurricane - forced to answer a series of questions for the duration.  Afterwards he shoves me onto the floor and commands me to return to the kitchen and do the dishes.  I laugh hysterically.  He gets down on the floor as well, and we cuddle.  Then he pinches my inner thigh until I scream "firegod!"

Actually, this only happened once -- but I suggested it would be a great ritual.



LadyHugs -> RE: Rituals (5/26/2006 8:37:07 PM)

Dear Aileen68, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I like my slaves to greet me in the presentment position and or honor position.  Then released, ask permission to do what ever they need to do.  Most times working slave males have a beard growth, so they ask to do slave maintainence, which is shave, freshen up and return back.
 
When they finish, they come back to me and give me a report on the status of their day, the house, concerns, meal menu, etc.
 
Then they are released and I stay out of their way as they work on whatever they tackle as a task. 
 
At night, they present and offer their wrists for cuffing and they're chained to the bed if I wish it.  Sometimes the slave sleeps at my feet, under the bed, in a sleep sack, hood and straight-jacket.  Really depends on my wish.  If they are not feeling good, they can sleep in a guest bed.  If they are sick or injured, they sleep in the bed with me or in the guest bed.  Their sleep matters to me, so that governs my designated area for them to sleep.
 
Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs



Calandra -> RE: Rituals (5/27/2006 3:25:21 AM)

I have a ten yr. old girl in the house so rituals have to be incorporated carefully...
 
Greeting ritual - When cubby and I see each other after we have been separated by errands, sleep, work, etc, he gently takes my right hand, turns it palm up and plants a kiss on the palm. Sometimes things are rushed and it's a simple peck, other times he maintains eye contact, or kisses a little longer to recall both his mind and mine to the dynamics of our relationship. Yet other times, he's feeling seductive or playful and will gently "nip" the pad at the base of my thumb to alert me to his mood. If he kisses me "Gomez and Morticia" style I just melt... LOL
 
Money - When cubs earns money in any way, he comes to me, kneels, holds up both hands cradling the money, check, etc. He lightly kisses it and then holds it forward and offers it to me with some comment about giving me the fruits of his labor. It varies because we don't believe in scripted responses.
 
Hair - Cubby has this instant hatred of anyone pulling his hair. He tenses up and is ready to swing. I noted his reaction very soon into our relationship, and stopped pulling his hair almost totally. A few years ago, he confessed that when "I" pull his hair, yes, he does still react, but then almost instantly he feels this backlash of submission and he relaxes. It puts him into a "zone" BECAUSE he hates it, and he can offer something he wouldn't submit to with anyone else on the planet. For cubs, giving something he enjoy anyway isn't "submission" he truly feels his slavehood when he's doing/accepting something he hates because I am the one in control. Nowadays, if I'm wanting to do a rough and ready scene (as opposed to a sensual one) I grab his hair and let him mentally readjust... and I don't feel uncomfy doing it anymore.
 
We have literally dozens, but they are so "hidden" because of the child that it would take ten pages to explain the significance. We do have a lot of them even if no one sees and understand them... it's like a secret language that only he and I know.



mistoferin -> RE: Rituals (5/27/2006 6:12:09 AM)

I guess that when I think of "rituals" I have visions of a more formal event. While I have certainly been a participant in my fair share of rituals over time, I don't think that I can say that I have ever had "daily" rituals. It might just be that my definition is a bit different than others though. Certainly there are many things that I have done every single day, but I refer to them as being part of the routine and not "rituals".

Possibly the reason I don't see them as being rituals has to do with what I perceive a ritual to be. To me, rituals are kind of like what most good church going people engage in once a week. The pomp and circumstance. For some, they need to have that "ritual" in order to make them feel that they have a close and personal relationship with God. If that works fine for them and it fills their need than that's great. Personally, I can talk to God while driving my car and feel just as connected. So it's kind of like the same thing in M/s or D/s relationships to me. Some need to have that "ritual" in order to establish that connection and that's cool. My connection to my partner never lessens so I don't need to have a "ritual" to get it all to fall in place.

Having said that there are things that I have done very consistently that others may find fall into their definition of ritual. Every single day for 11 years I woke my ex in the morning with coffee in hand. (Most days this was immediately followed by a good morning blow job) Every single day for 11 years I met him at the door upon his return home from work to greet him. We would then move to the couch where he would sit while I took his boots and socks off and rubbed his feet while we talked over our days. Are these rituals? Some may say yes....I just call them part of the routine.  



spectreandnectre -> RE: Rituals (5/27/2006 6:41:54 AM)

It is also very hard for U/us to have intense rituals because of the children in the house but when they are gone there tends to be more.  Next week the children all leave for visitation and things will get more intense i really look forward to these times...just one more week[:)]
 



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