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how start - 11/10/2011 11:28:10 AM

bedo65

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did mistress choose her slave or slave choose the mistress?

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RE: how start - 11/10/2011 11:46:56 AM

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Both. If it's not mutual it's not a relationship.

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RE: how start - 11/10/2011 12:00:11 PM

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plastination is very good expression,
did mistress will tell slave that she will enslave him or slave will request that from the mistress
or by time their will be chemistry between them or whats your openion?

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RE: how start - 11/10/2011 1:04:52 PM

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six of one, half a fucking dozen of the other.

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RE: how start - 11/10/2011 1:33:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bedo65

plastination is very good expression,
did mistress will tell slave that she will enslave him or slave will request that from the mistress
or by time their will be chemistry between them or whats your openion?

I had to look up the word. I suggest you do the same thing. It has to do with, well, here's what I found, so I don't know how you think it's a very good expression? I figure English isn't your first language, so I'm trying to figure out where you came up with the term.

http://www.bodyworlds.com/en/plastination/idea_plastination.html

One doesn't choose the other unless the other accepts to be chosen. And there has to be chemistry before a relationship can begin. And you have to meet before chemistry can begin. See where I'm going with this?

First you chat or e-mail.
Then you might exchange phone calls.
Then you might establish that there is chemistry and get to know each other better.
Then you might decide to see if M/s is going to work for both of you. The both is the important part btw.
Then you either decide to have a relationship, or decide it's not going to work between you.

**This can also be included to be Top/bottom D/s or any other variety, including 'nilla dating. If there ain't a spark to begin with, then you're dead in the water. Simple as that.

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RE: how start - 11/11/2011 9:35:57 AM

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thanks alot for reply

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RE: how start - 11/11/2011 9:49:58 AM

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--- RumpusParable:
--- Both. If it's not mutual, it's not a relationship.

Yes.

--- bedo65:
--- did mistress will tell slave that she will enslave him

Sometimes.

--- bedo65:
--- or slave will request that from the mistress

Sometimes.

--- bedo65:
--- or by time their will be chemistry between them...

Sometimes.

Human courtships and relationships tend to be complex. There is no single answer.

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RE: how start - 11/11/2011 9:52:14 AM

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Thanks, Rumpus! That definition was what immediately came to mind for me!!

(nice to see you again!)

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RE: how start - 11/11/2011 11:30:08 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: bedo65

plastination is very good expression,
did mistress will tell slave that she will enslave him or slave will request that from the mistress
or by time their will be chemistry between them or whats your openion?

Sure, the mistress/master can tell the slave they "will" enslave them, but if the slave isn't interested it isn't going to mean much.

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RE: how start - 11/11/2011 11:33:46 AM

NiceButMeanGirl

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I would say both would choose each other. At least in any relationship I would be in, because it would be a mutually satisfying two-way relationship. I tell a sub that, while he/she is under consideration by me, he/she should be considering me at the same time.

That's how it should be, IMO, that both people give it much consideration before jumping into anything. That is, if they want it to last anyway.

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RE: how start - 11/11/2011 3:18:08 PM

mons

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It is both with out the submissive or slave
there is not something for the dominant !
Each one needs the other!
But we are still dominant but it is
nice to have a submissive or slave along for the
ride! my submissive is new,. he wanted and
tried to get someone but he is still nervous but
not as much as the first time!

mons };-)

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RE: how start - 11/12/2011 3:43:32 PM

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Same as everything, human chooses human.

The Mistress slave bit becomes more important later, just like employer employee.

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