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sephisurrender3d -> Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 3:55:24 PM)
Ok its down to the wire after being with Master over two years and married one He is finally going to meet my family...You see my family lives 10 hours away and both my parents lost their jobs, my dad for health reasons and my mom because of outsourcing to Mexico...So in any en=vent the couldnt make the wedding and will now be meeting my family and my ex for the first time.... I am so nervious because of the lifestyle , big mouth children, changes in our family and the like..Master is very protective and my family is kinda lets say rough in the way the show affection...Im so tence im trying to be positive thinking about my nephew finally getting out of the hospital after fighting for His life for the past year,(afraid of how imn gonna react with the results of His accident..).. I will meet His fiancee and see my great nephew for the first time as well as see other family members i havent seen in 3-4 years... Thing is my kids know what i am as well as my ex, but im not sure how much my family knows or what reaction they will have to the person i am now .. I am praying that they all like/love my huband/Master and see how much He has done for me and the kids and how much He loves us... But i also know my family is abrassive when all together at one time and well they may say things that piss Master off in a heart beats time .. So anyway im gonna be ducking and covering , and refereeing from the 1st to the 11th of June ..

slavejali -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 4:05:38 PM)
Good luck sephisurrender [:)]

Sensualips -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 5:01:40 PM)
If they do not seem to like/love your husband, just remind them you are happy and hope they will be pleased with your happiness. If your husband/Master gets upset by your family, just remind him they are your family, faults and all. Good luck.

PlayfulOne -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 7:00:51 PM)
Good luck and I hope everything goes well for you. I know its not easy my little one's family knows nothing of how we live. They think the world of me but I oftern wonder how that might change if they knew a few things. Peace, blessings, and well wishes K

krikket -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 7:04:04 PM)
Best wishes and hugs for y'alls upcoming visit. i remember being nervous the first time my ex met my folks and me his..and we didn't have nearly as much going on in our lives as is going on with you and your Master. Hope it all goes well..please come back and let us know how it went. :) cheers jimini

puella -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 7:42:57 PM)
You can worry about it all you want now... until you are all together, you have no idea what is going to happen. You love all of the people in this equation... that's not a bad thing at all. Good luck to you.

DelRey -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 8:10:38 PM)
Holly shit, the only ones missing is Larry, his brother Larry and his other brother Larry...... [:)]

sweetbbwsub31 -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 9:46:01 PM)
Keeping my fingers crossed for all to go well. You have some great advice here. It's not possible to choose your family and your Master should know that. Also, you family should see that you are happy and accept that. Good luck. Dealing with family issues is never easy. sub tara

LaMalinche -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/26/2006 10:24:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sephisurrender3d But i also know my family is abrassive when all together at one time and well they may say things that piss Master off in a heart beats time .. So anyway im gonna be ducking and covering , and refereeing from the 1st to the 11th of June .. So, why do you need to duck and cover if someone else pisses him off? Sure, they are your family, but are you expected to control their behavior? Also, if he gets upset so quickly, perhaps he should work on being more tolorant. Best, LaMalinche

CanadianGuy -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/27/2006 1:34:58 AM)
Wow, sounds stressful... good luck!

Kedikat -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/27/2006 2:05:57 AM)
If the D/s BDSM thing is on some prominant display, if He is going to go strutting his feathers to try and Dom the whole clan, then He is an idiot. The relationship and it's aspects are between you and him. If it flamoyantly goes beyond that, I would be worried about him. If He is realistic as to reality of life in general, you should have no worries. If not, then you either have to go to that level and let the chips fall where they may, or discuss or cut loose. My partners folks obviously knew we had sex. There was no need to discuss the details. If He is decent and good for you. The family should clue in and be happy. The juicy details of some reasons He is particularly good for you, is of no concern. And should be of no concern for Him to announce. Edited: If the family isn't actually living in your basement. Your Man should be able to summon the strength to smile and bite down for the times the family gets together. :)

Kedikat -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/27/2006 2:08:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DelRey Holly shit, the only ones missing is Larry, his brother Larry and his other brother Larry...... [:)] Oh I miss those guys.

sephisurrender3d -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/27/2006 7:26:11 AM)
Kedikat, my Master knows my family has done alot of damage in the past that i have worked had to get over..The worry i have is just that if one of my family members does something Master may see as a threat to my happiness what He will say ...As i said before i have a family who doesnt know how to show affection properly so many times it comes out as what my family calls good fun humor.. I call it teasing to the point of hurt or did in the past..Also my brother and His son have a habit of being well for lack of a better term Horsesasses and not very nice to be around when they have a bad mood.. Master knows in the past i have suffered from mental and physical abuse at the hands of certian family members... Since being with Master i have found out some things from my sister that explained much of the past and i have dealt with it as best i can without confronting those involved.. Master is just worried that they may try to resume old habits ...He is very protective of me and for that i am thankfull but going Home is something i have to do for me and for my kids... Also my ex and my Master will be meeting and spending an entire day together and im hoping that all goes well to.. We are taking the kids to an amusement park so we have a chance to see how my ex and his girlfriend are going to behave with my kids and so they can get to know them a bit before i decide if He can have them for two nights ..My ex was abusive and an alcoholic when we were together..He doesnt drink much now and has promised to not drink while He has the kids or is around them..The other issue being His mother and sister who i do not want around my kids for any length of time.. So you see its going to be a stressfull time but i need to see for myself that my family are ok.. IM tired of crying and wondering how they are even if they dont feel he same about me.. I know they worry about my kids and the kids miss them as much as i do.. So for me to heal and them to know the kids are well taken care of i have to go home.. I hope i have explained better ..Master does not flaunt who He is or what He is But rest assured if He thinks me or the kids are being hurt He will put His foot down ... Respectfully, sephi

agirl -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/27/2006 10:23:55 AM)
...crumbs...There are SO many worries associated with your trip . Parents, sister, brother, nephew, an ex and girlfriend, a new partner/Master , your children...add to that the other things, such as the physical and mental abuse in the past ..etc Wouldn't it be easier to deal with only a few at a time ...or on your own home territory..ie..invite them to you...in manageable doses, so that if any situations arise, it's limited as to how awkward it may be. agirl

sephisurrender3d -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/27/2006 7:29:25 PM)
hello agirl, I wish it were that simple.. as i said in my last post my family doesnt really have the money to travel to us , hence why they were not at my wedding...I know its alot to handle and im sure with Master at my side i can handle it when it comes right down to it...I guess its kinda like when you know you have to get a shot or blood drawn and you imagine its going to be horrible and painful only to realize its ok... Thank You All for the thoughts, concerns and ideas... I think what i needed most was to talk about it and well i think Master is all talked out on this subject...We both hope i find some friends i feel comphy with when we get back so i can talk through things easier ... Thank You Again and Happy Memorial Day to Everyone... sephi

becca333 -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (5/27/2006 9:10:42 PM)
Just remember, all these people love you, even if they can't show it well. If it gets too intense - leave for a while. If they're being idiots - walk away till they settle down. Tell your Master how you want him to show his support - holding your hand and standing close is better than decking half your relatives. Although not as much fun to watch. Your kids come first - make whatever decisions are best for them, and stick to that. You're not the same person you were before. Don't go back to dealing with them in the same way. And if all else fails - look them straight in the eye and tell them the whole truth! Blow their minds with the details! Smile and let them know just how much you've changed! Think of the looks on their faces!

sephisurrender3d -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (6/13/2006 9:38:52 PM)
*Hello Everyone,* Master and i are back from our visit back Home with my family...Everything went rather well , only a few incidences with our teenager pising Master off.. But crisis was averted.. My family has changed as much as i have or were being very tolerant because its been so long since we have been Home... Master met my ex and we all spent a couple of days around each other and even got along .. PHEW.... Though the Amusment park would get kinda tricky with my ex and his girlfriend riding there and back with us as well as being together all day.. It ended up being a wonderful day ... I think my family now understands im happy and making a life for them and that it isnt as easy for me to have to get in my van to go home as they thought..Time heals most wounds and opens eyes of those who wish to turn a blind eye.. My visit back home has healed a few wounds, and brought joy to alot of people i love so very much... Life is just to damn short to let misunderstandings grow into insurmountable obsticles... *Peace. Joy and Happiness All,* *sephi*

Phoenxx -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (6/13/2006 10:15:05 PM)
Congrats on most of your visit going well. One thing to think about though, just because your family has seemed to change, be aware that many abusers can and do appear to have changed for a time. But if you see old patterns forming, or if your Master sees them you may need to be ready to cut relations with them. My father can ape normal behaviour for about a year at a time if you do not see him daily. And then something will happen and it is back to his old ways. For the sake of my family and myself I have warned him not to contact us again. Sometimes you have to cut a cancer out for the body to survive.

proudsub -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (6/13/2006 10:15:52 PM)
Glad it went so well.[:)]

slavejali -> RE: Ranting...Master meeting my family for the first time.. (6/13/2006 10:21:25 PM)
me too! [:)]

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